The Courage, Coaching & Counseling Podcast

05/25/2024

What would you do if you watched less TV or spent less time on your phone?

02/28/2024

My guess this week on The Courage, Coaching and Counseling Podcast is

Jake is a certified polymath, identifying as a writer, teacher, minister, coach, and creative thinker. Jake founded Theophany Media, a Christian entertainment and education company exploring the intersection of Christ and creativity. He holds two degrees from Oklahoma Christian University: a Master's of Theological Studies and a Bachelor’s in Bible with a minor in Communication Studies. His published work includes plays, non-fiction books, and novels, and he has produced podcasts such as Creatively Christian.

01/25/2024

This episode looks at the painful cycle of blame and criticism and how it destroys connection in marriage and relationships.

It also briefly touches on the Four pillars of Secure Attachment: Secure, Safe, Soothed, Seen.

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01/25/2024

On blame and criticism in marriage.
Also four elements of secure attachment in relationships.

11/17/2023

"You have to let go of your grips to progress.
If you don't let go, you stay stuck.

Jiu-jitsu is about progress.

This isn't just about Jiu-jitsu.

It's life."

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11/16/2023

Boundaries with friends and family can be really challenging during. Thanksgiving and Christmas.

It's the most wonderful time of the year but coordinating and planning gatherings and events can be really stressful.

Especially in marriage and new relationships family traditions and the way we've always done things can clash.

Here's some phrases to try on to say no, set limits, collaborate and coordinate with your loved ones.

10/24/2023

"She's here. And I am here.

But we are not here together.

For many years the sofa has served mostly as a place for the draping of lighty soiled garments.

Though I've been sleeping on it for six months. 

The sofa makes a fine bed if you're looking to ponder your profound disregrets while herniating a disc.  

I bought a weighted blanket, thinking this would help, because sleeplessness is always more fun when you feel like you're  trapped under rubble.

Will I ever again share a soft bed with my wife?"

Harrison Scott Key, on starting marriage counseling

10/12/2023

Tired of disconnected top down leadership, life-sucking micromanagement, inefficient bureaucracy policy and systems?

Check out this book, book of the month in 's Read To Lead Community

Sadly I'm missing the live book club featuring the authors today!
But it's an inspiring and thought provoking read.
Especially coming out of the pandemic and the new realities of remote work and fluid and rapidly changing teams and technology.

10/10/2023

This week I interviewed on her exploration of Oregon's Black Exclusion Act and the story of Jacob Vanderpool the only man to be expelled from the state for being Black.
It brought her on a surprising journey back through her own family tree and their connection to Vanderpool.

I think her book is courageous and compassionate.
I learned a lot and it makes me hopeful for the healing and reconciliation that is happening and still needs to happen.

10/10/2023

My guest this week is author Sarah L Sanderson
We discuss her tremendous book The Place We Make: Breaking The Legacy of Legalized Hate.
We discuss her tremendous book The Place We Make: Breaking The Legacy of Legalized Hate.

https://youtu.be/VSr4IstIrHI

Spotify:
https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/couragecoachingcounseling/episodes/73-Sarah-Sanderson-The-Place-We-Make-Breaking-The-Legacy-of-Legalized-Hate-author-interview-e2ach40

Sarah L. Sanderson is a writer, speaker, and teacher who believes in the life-giving freedom found in radical honesty. Her work has appeared at PBS NewsHour, Blackpast, Christianity Today, Fathom, The Unmooring, Christ and Pop Culture, The Other Journal, Motherly, Relief, Stark and Main, and Brain,....

10/07/2023

This podcast episode went all over the place, in a good way!
I enjoy talking with authentic people who have been through stuff and are willing to share their experiences and the lessons that they've learned. Even if it's been the hard way.
Maybe especially because of that.

Thanks

09/26/2023

My guest this week on The Courage, Coaching & Counseling Podcast is Jake Anderson.
We had a wide-ranging conversation about the challenges he's been through that I know a lot of guys and gals in their 20's and 30's experience.
We hadn't talked in a while so there was a lot of life to catch up on.
A little bit about Jake:
"I’m a singer-songwriter, DJ, and fitness fanatic based out of Redding, CA. I’ve spent the latter part of my 20’s and early 30’s working on emotional health and stabilizing my life. I like to tell my story through the songs I write and I enjoy seeing people connect with them. In my free time, I enjoy movies, reading, and hanging with my friends."

My guest is Jake Anderson. "I’m a singer-songwriter, DJ, and fitness fanatic based out of Redding, CA. I’ve spent the latter part of my 20’s and early 30’s w...

08/14/2023

I have reached 500 followers!
Thank you for your continued support. I could not have done it without each of you. 🙏🤗🎉

I hope your summer has been full of courage, growth and love.

06/12/2023

One of my favorite things about being a therapist is helping struggling adults become more childlike, on one hand, and helping children/young adults mature into adults, on the other.

It is both freeing and a lot of fun!

We often hear the phrase "You are a human being, not a human doing."

Fact is, a lot of people could improve their lives by being empowered, equipped and encouraged to do more.
On whatever difference in the world God is calling them to make.

(This is also a Jiu-Jitsu post. Come train with me! 😀)

05/31/2023

Recommended books for healing from trauma.

05/29/2023

Episode 67 of the The Courage, Coaching & Counseling Podcast is with Terry Weaver , I really loved this interview with Terry!
We talk about how following your dreams takes time and how we can live small lives.
This conversation really inspired and encouraged me.

To watch:
https://youtu.be/7rPWtH-_Akk

To listen, here or on your favorite podcast app:
https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/ph4svUDGcAb

His conference The Thing Nashville 2023 is happening this week.

life

05/17/2023

I'm speaking on dealing with Burnout and Exhaustion in Ministry.

I also talk about how church leaders, friends and family can support people who struggle with mental health and how we can encourage others to seek treatment.

05/02/2023

One mistake leaders and parents can make is thinking micromanagement and control mean you're communicating and connected with your people.
Compliance isn't an authentic relationship.
The cracks will eventually show up somewhere.

03/13/2023

The latest episode is a tool to use to have a conversation with your spouse or partner about distractions that are affecting your relationship.
And ways to practice self-care, set healthy limits, support and encourage each other.
I used this at two Connect Together events for couples at Imago Dei Central and Eastside Imago Dei Community recently.
We’re planning on doing another event at Central May 19th, 2023.

Watch: https://youtu.be/6u7Om5K5jlM
Listen: https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/TW3tdKyL8xb

The handout: https://medium.com//overcoming-distractions-practicing-self-care-and-supporting-each-other-fcf2620152

Episode 65 of The Courage, Coaching and Counseling Podcast is a continuation of the last ...

01/17/2023

Maybe.
I could.
I should.
I need to.
I want to.
But...

I will anyway.
I do.
I keep going.
I did it.
I am.

Maybe you could too.

01/16/2023

Episode 64 is on Distance, Disconnection, Distraction in Marriage. How to decide if you need a date night or counseling. And how daring to have a great marriage is a good mindset to start couples counseling.

You can watch here:
https://youtu.be/8-lGZiEWbKA

Listen here:
https://anchor.fm/couragecoachingcounseling/episodes/064-Distance--Disconnection--Distraction-in-Marriage--Starting-counseling--having-a-great-marriage-e1thiik

Episode 64 of The Courage, Coaching and Counseling Podcast is on three challenges to marriage - distance, disconnection and distraction.I talk about how to d...

01/09/2023

Happy New Year!
This episode is on Motivation, Getting Unstuck or Starting Something New

Watch on Youtube:
https://youtu.be/-2Vv1sIKqPI

Or Listen on Spotify or your favorite podcast app:
https://anchor.fm/couragecoachingcounseling/episodes/63-Getting-Motivated--Unstuck-or-Starting-Something-New-Sovann-Pen-e1t8atb

This episode of The Courage, Coaching and Counseling Podcast is on getting motivated, unstuck, or getting started on something new...

12/04/2022

My guest for episode 62 of The Courage, Coaching & Counseling Podcast is Joe Lalonde , we talk about Reel Leadership, his book on leadership lessons in movies.

We chat about Wakanda Forever, MCU movies and others.
And collecting comics. 😀

You watch on YouTube.
Or listen on Spotify or your favorite podcast app.

Link in bio.

11/21/2022

Marc Alan Schelske is my guest to talk about Journaling for Spiritual Growth his newest book.Marc Alan Sch...

11/21/2022

My guest for episode 61 is my friend Marc Alan Schelske on his book Journaling for Spiritual Growth

Marc Alan Schelske is a husband, dad of two, writer, speaker, recovering fundamentalist who drinks tea & rides a motorcycle. He’s a pastor with more than 25 years of ministry experience and a deep fascination with the inner life, spiritual growth, and emotional well-being He’s written four books, Discovering Your Authentic Core Values, The Wisdom of Your Heart: Discovering the God-given Purpose and Power of Your Emotions, the Untangle Workbook, and Journaling for Spiritual Growth, among other resources for spiritual growth. He’s hosts the The Apprenticeship Way podcast and he writes about intentional spiritual growth at www.MarcAlanSchelske.com.

Listen:
https://anchor.fm/couragecoachingcounseling/episodes/061-Marc-Alan-Schelske-on-Journaling-for-Spiritual-Growth-e1r3j4v

Watch:
https://youtu.be/1o8rakn5Ruc

Marc Alan Schelske is my guest to talk about Journaling for Spiritual Growth his newest book.Marc Alan Sch...

11/12/2022

My guest for episode 60 of The Courage, Coaching and Counseling Podcast is Tami Stackelhouse.Tami Stackelhouse is doing all she can to give fibromyalgia pati...

11/12/2022

Episdeo 60 is with Fibromyalgia Coach, Tami Stackelhouse is on living with Fibromyalgia.

Tami is doing all she can to give fibromyalgia patients the knowledge, care, and support they need to thrive. A fibromyalgia patient herself, Tami has gone from disabled to having her fibromyalgia in remission. For more than a decade, her compassion, gentle support, and fun coaching style have helped fibromyalgia patients all over the world take back control of their lives. She is the executive producer of the fibromyalgia documentary, Invisible, and founder of the International Fibromyalgia Coaching Institute, where she teaches her Certified Fibromyalgia Coach® training program. You will find Tami sharing her joy and expertise on her Fibromyalgia Podcast® and through her award-winning books, Take Back Your Life and The Fibromyalgia Coach.

You can watch here: https://youtu.be/Rt4pl7Gbo2E
Listen here or on your favorite podcast app:
https://anchor.fm/couragecoachingcounseling/episodes/060-Tami-Stackelhouse---Living-with-Fibromyalgia-e1qln01

My guest for episode 60 of The Courage, Coaching and Counseling Podcast is Tami Stackelhouse.Tami Stackelhouse is doing all she can to give fibromyalgia pati...

06/02/2022

Hello!
We're back!
First episode since April.
It's on how principles from Braziliian Jiu Jitsu can help with life and relationships.
https://anchor.fm/.../058-Sovann-Pen-How-Brazilian-Jiu...
https://youtu.be/J9-9DsOshTI

This episode is on seven ways Brazilian Jiu Jitsu can help you with life and relationships.Even if you aren't interested in BJJ or mixed martial arts I think...

04/07/2022

FYI, it's Counseling Awareness Month.
If you've been wrestling with the decision on whether to do start counseling or not, let this be an encouragement to do it.
This is a blog on making changes in your life and how sometimes the people closest to you can hold you back.

http://www.sovannpen.com/thelonelinessofchange/

02/28/2022

After a four-week pause, The Courage, Coaching & Counseling Podcast is back tonight at 8pm PST.

Aaron J. Smith is my guest for episode 55 of The Courage, Coaching and Counseling Podcast.

We talk about him growing up Christian in Utah, living with undiagnosed bipolar disorder II, experiencing church hurt, and how he made the decision to get help.
We discuss how starting therapy can bring up grief, his writing about mental illness since 2007, emotional health impacts spiritual health, marriage and family, being a part of an Anglican church, and his thoughts on a spirituality of being human and suffering as part of the human condition.

Aaron J. Smith is a father, writer, nerd, and coffee drinker. He hates writing about himself. It’s the worst. Aaron is deeply drawn to theology and liturgy, believing that a spirituality of being human is what religion should strive for. He also likes cookies. Aaron lives just outside of Portland, OR with his wife, two boys, dog, and cat. He has been featured on several prominent websites and published anthologies.

We had some mic issues on this interview (especially between 21:00 and 27:20) but we resolved it.

You can watch here: https://youtu.be/wzXo5_ScnZ8

You can listen on your favorite podcast app:

https://anchor.fm/couragecoachingcounseling/episodes/055-Aaron-Smith-on-living-with-mood-disorder-and-a-spirituality-of-being-human-e1f0prt

A podcast to encourage and inspire you to be more courageous and bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be in life. Guests will share their stories, defining moments, lessons learned. We'll feature therapists and folks who have been to therapy share about mental and emotional hea...