On a pedestal

17/04/2023

Is this exactly what happened this morning?
My dad asked,

Myself and the choir cord said Yes,

And my Dad said, Really and turned to my mom and said, you see what you wanted to shut up this girl from saying,

Dad turned to iya ileokan and asked her if she has anything to say before him and the disciplinary committee members talk,

She then started what I would call "cut and join" stories that isn't even related to what is on ground,

She also said she was only joking with me that Sunday morning about the midnight meeting talk,

She then rounded it up by saying, she has her own child o and that people can correct her own child too, that is there big deal if she corrects me ?

Dad asked her if she was done speaking..

Then my dad turned to the disciplinary committee members and asked them, what they have to say on this issue before he says his mind,

The chairman of the committee was just shaking his head as he was speaking telling iya Ileokan that what she said to me was not right at all, that she is an adult and a mother that what if it's her child someone said that to?

He continued by saying that he doesn't support such utterances and that why then did she get angry when I said she was our leader in the midnight meeting?
If it's a good thing she shouldn't have reacted or gotten angry now,

He then concluded by saying that she should put herself in my parents shoes, how she will feel if this was said to her own child,

The chairman said over to you pastor (my dad)
You have the final say and judgement,

All through this period my mom was quite and was just listening to everyone there but I could read how unhappy she was

At some point she drew me closer to clean my eyes and patted me at the back to stop crying

Then the First word my dad said was "I don't play , joke or toy with my children"

There and then, everyone had an idea of what to expect,

Me that I know my dad very well,

See, my dad use to behave like, someone that suffered to have kids in his first life,
So this second life he was he doesn't allow even ant to come close his kids yet very disciplined,

He continued by saying,
I am not interested in whatsoever that has happened before,
I am going to be talking about the incident that happened this morning,

As much as I love my church members, I can't look away from this at the detriment of my daughter, NO.

In my mind, I said Ghen-ghen 🤪
That is my daddy 🤣

But as he was talking, one of the disciplinary committee members who is a woman was talking quietly to iya ileokan,

No one knew what she was telling her not until iya ileokan went on her kneel in front of my dad and mom saying she was sorry,
And that such would not repeat itself again,

I guess the woman told her to apologise before my dad makes his conclusion and judgement,

Then she turned to me too and said I shouldn't be angry that she was just correcting me, that I should forgive her for her words this morning,
She tried touching me on my laps but I dodged it by shifting my legs so her hands won't touch me,

There and then everywhere went quite,
Both my dad and Mom too didn't even know what to say as they looked into each others eyes,

As per the soft heart my dad has, especially for the female gender,
My dad then asked her to stand up and sit down,

My dad said he can't hide the fact that he is hurt and not happy but who is he not to forgive her,

My dad turned to my mom and ask her if she is okay and forgiven iya ileokan?
My mom said, she has but this should be the last time she will say negative words to her daughter

Then my dad told me to forget everything and forgive iya ileokan that I am not a witch and I don't go to any meetings in the midnight

Then my dad asked me to excuse them, that they want to discuss as adults, so I left the meeting

It was when my Mom and Dad got back home they told me that they asked me to leave because they can't be trashing her in my presence,

That after I left he still told her the piece of his mind,

And that has a matter of fact she (my mom) told her that should not come to report me or any of her kids to her again

You all needed to see how that words sweet my belle🤣

And my dad and mom gave me a tight hug and told me they love me dearly and that they won't allow anyone say negative words to me again no matter who it is..

I was so very happy and it was like a Reassurance of the fact that "they would always be there for me"

Dear Readers, that was how I was set loose and free from iya ileokan vindictive attitudes towards me

You know now, as a small child then, I will sometimes do shakara and pass wherever she is cos I know in my mind, she dare not try to go and report me to any of my parents 🤣

Here is one of my many "And you are a pastor's daughter" experience.

Thank You for reading.

Kehinde Charity Awujoola. KCA

12/04/2023

Nigerian producer and musician Gabriel Oche Amanyi, better known by his stage name as Terry G, was raised in a Christian home. His mother is a devoted choir member of the Redeemed Christian Church of God, and his father is a preacher. Terry G started making music as a member of the choir in his church, where he developed his passion for music.

Although Terry G is well recognized for his distinctive music, which mixes pidgin English and street slang, he has never hidden his Christian upbringing. He has always credited his achievement to God and his parents' unwavering Christian principles.

Terry G stated in an interview that he intends to work as a preacher in the future. He declared, "By God's grace, it has been prophesied that God will use me to prophesy to multitudes, and I think I'm already doing that in a way, but when God calls me at the right time, I will go for it fully."

10/04/2023

When I was younger as a pastor's daughter, my eyes saw shege, from people and church members seeing us as if we are not humans, like we are angels, and we should not make any mistakes or fall into sin, even unknowingly, we should just be perfect by all means.

All you will be hearing is "And you are Omo Pastor o".

It got to a point that I would be like, "What is it, sef?"

So if I am a pastor's daughter, I should not live my life, or what?

So there was this woman, a church member and a bit close to my mom,
Let's call her "Iya ile okan"

Her own was just too much for me,
She practically complains about everything I do and then report me to my mom,

It's either, the way I am walking, or I am pushing my chest forward, or my dress is too tight or transparent, or is like I am getting light because of the cream I was using, I am this, I am that,
She just too much on me, so vindictive of me,
Always looking for something to nail me.

Many times when she tells my mom, my mom would just thank her and say, "Olorun a bawa wo gbogbo won" meaning God will help us preserve all of them.

When my Mom gets home, she will say church members are complaining about me too much, that I should be very careful o, I should check my dressing and how I walk and everything,

While talking, she will then later realise that sebi she is the one buying my clothes; is this not the skin ‘Iya ile okan’ is complaining about?

She will then say, Kaii, 'this woman sef.’
And then round up the talk by saying, you too Sha be careful.

I was happy my mom was soon realising what she was doing to me, then I made up my mind to do something that will spark up wahala, so they will call us for meeting and I will be able to say my mind,

Because no matter what happened my Mom will always rebuke me in her presence and she warned me not to ever disrespect her,

But when we get home, mom will draw me closer and beg me, saying I should not worry, that it was the right thing for her (my mom) to have done right there.

But sincerely, ‘Iya ile okan’s’ attitude was kind of affecting me somehow, so I needed an opportunity to be able to speak my mind and ask her, what exactly I have done to her or what exactly she wants from me.

On Sunday Mornings, choirs meet at a particular place after Sunday school to pray before we go to the altar to begin the proper Sunday service, because she was also a member of the choir she was also there every Sunday,

So this faithful Sunday morning, I was to lead the praise and worship in church and I got to church a bit late into the Sunday School because ordinarily workers should not be late to Sunday school class,

So after the Sunday School class, the choir moved to our normal spot for prayer to prepare before we go to the altar,
I didn't know she monitored the time I got into the church,
Immediately I got to where the choirs are to join them,
She started calling me a late comer, the pastor's daughter, and this and that, I didn't say a word till she said something that deserved a sarcastic response.

‘Iya ile okan’, is it the meeting you went to at midnight that made you come late?

Me: Sebi, you are our leader in the meeting.

That was how she sparked up and got angry and said I am calling her a witch,

The wahala I wanted sha happened,🤣

That was how the choir cord said I wouldn't be leading the praise and worship again and that even the both of us wouldn't be ministering that day, that we should go and sit in the congregation.

The thing sweet me for belle Aswearugad 🤣
I looked at her eyes, The thing pain her but e dey sweet me.

Immediately, choirs got to the altar, my dad who was the pastor noticed I wasn't there and then later saw me in the midst of the congregation,
One way or the other, Sha dad got to know what happened, I guess the choir cord explained to him and then told him his decision for us not minister that day, that we couldn't bring that fighting spirit to the altar.

The hour I was waiting for then arrived after the church service, My mom and dad were there seated, ‘Iya ile okan’ was there too, the choir cord, the disciplinary committee members, and myself.

When I was about to start talking, my mom who was a disciplinarian said I am too small to be talking or explaining my side of the story of a fight with an elderly person more so a married woman, that I should just apologise to her,
I then bursted into tears,

That was how my dad said, "NO," that there is something wrong with me, that there's something I want to say, that I should be allowed to talk.

For me in my mind, I said Ghen-ghen the hour has come,

I said all I have been experiencing with her, many times she will confront me without doing anything to her, many times she has reported me to my mom about things that are untrue,

It was then that my dad asked my mom, Is that true?
My mom said Yes.

Then I continued and said that, all this while I do not respond, insult or disrespect her because Mom has warned me sternly,

That, the one that made me respond to her this morning was because of what she said that it was because of the meeting I went to in the midnight I came late to church,

Everyone said "AH"
And they chorused, " is that true" she couldn't respond
It was the choir cord that responded with Yes,

My mom and dad was shocked,

At that time I could read it in my parents eyes how unhappy they were about what ‘iya ile okan’ said to their daughter,

So I continued and said I had to respond to her so she could feel the pain of the words she said to me and I then said to her that ' She is our leader in the meeting' Then she started accusing me that I called her a witch.

So my dad then said, Really?
Is this exactly what happened this morning?

Myself and the choir cord said Yes,

And my dad said......

GUESS the judgement...

You want to know the judgement?

How did my dad resolve the matter between his church member and her daughter?

Watcht out for Part 2.

10/04/2023

Cheers to Easter, Unashamed PK! In honor of Jesus' supreme act of love for us, we celebrate this day. We understand the value of giving your time and effort to help others because we are preacher's children.

Let's take advantage of this Easter to show our neighbors and friends love, joy, and kindness. Let's continue to express ourselves purely and openly on the Unashamed PK platform. I pray that this Easter season will give you and your loved ones comfort, hope, and renewed energy to continue sharing the good news of Jesus with the world.

08/04/2023

Just because I'm a preacher's kid doesn't mean I'm a walking Bible. 😅Can we please stop assuming that being a PK makes us biblical experts? 😂 Let's keep learning and growing together.

06/04/2023

Childhood Bible stories have a way of staying with us long into our adult years. What's one of your favourite stories from the Bible, and why is it meaningful to you? Share with us in the comments below!

05/04/2023

We are aware that growing up in a pastor's household has special obstacles. Hence, PKs, we want to hear from you! What is the most priceless lesson you absorbed from your upbringing? Is it the value of fellowship, the effectiveness of prayer, or the significance of selfless service? We're eager to pick up knowledge from your experiences and develop a greater understanding of the special viewpoints and perceptions that come with being a PK.

05/04/2023

Eunice Kathleen Waymon, better known by her stage name Nina Simone, was an American singer, songwriter, pianist, and civil rights advocate. She was raised in Tryon, North Carolina as a preacher's child by a Methodist minister for a mother and a performer for a father.

The church had a significant impact on Simone's upbringing, and when she was three or four years old, she started playing the piano at her mother's church. "God Be With You, Till We Meet Again" was the first song she ever learned.
Although living in poverty and dealing with racial discrimination, Simone's talent and love for music inspired her to become a classical pianist.

Simone started playing jazz and blues in clubs to support herself after being denied admission into a famous music school due to her race. She became known all over the world for her distinctive musical style, which was influenced by her classical schooling and African American heritage, earning her the title of "High Priestess of Soul."

In addition, Simone was a well-known civil rights activist who used her platform to denounce racial injustice and inequality. With songs like "Mississippi Goddam" and "To Be Young, Talented and Black" inspiring and uplifting generations, her music evolved into a potent weapon in the struggle for civil rights.

As a PK, Simone's exposure to social justice problems and upbringing in the church had a significant impact on her activism and music. She once stated, "I'm just trying to write music that has effect, that conveys the truth, and that means something. As a daughter of the church, I am aware of the therapeutic and uplifting powers of music.

Using her position to speak out against racial injustice and inequality, Simone was also a well-known civil rights activist. Songs like "Mississippi Goddam" and "To Be Young, Talented, and Black" inspired and emancipated generations, and her music was a potent weapon in the struggle for civil rights.

Activists and artists are still influenced and inspired by Simone's impact today. Let's continue to use our voices and skills as PKs to bring about good change in the world.

03/04/2023

We must start open and sincere discussions in our community about what it means to be a preacher's child. Although they may have had an unusual upbringing, this does not make them immune to the difficulties of life. They should be heard and seen for who they really are because they are people like the rest of us. In order to allow PKs to share their stories without worrying about criticism or misunderstanding, let's work to establish a safe atmosphere. We are stronger and more positive when we work together.

01/04/2023

Greetings from the On a Pedestal and Unashamed family, and happy April! Let's keep in mind as we begin this new month that we are people with distinctive gifts and callings rather than merely preacher's offspring. As we negotiate the world around us, let's accept who we are and help one another.

Remember that we are all traveling along the same path, and we will keep overcoming preconceptions and fulfilling our destiny. Let's make April a month of development, inspiration, and empowerment. God's blessings on you all!

24/03/2023

Honestly, are preacher's children the worst? Do they indeed merit the moniker "children of the devil"?

There are actual individuals with actual issues hidden under the immaculate façade of a preacher's family. The genuine accounts of those who have struggled to live up to those standards are told in "My PK Story." From the demands of being a role model to the difficulties of striking a balance between religion and reality.

Are you a preacher's kid? Do you ever feel isolated in your difficulties? The new series "My PK Story" will provide you with the inspiration and fortitude you require to handle the difficulties associated with being a PK.

Join us as we investigate the true accounts of those who have gone through it all. We examine the challenges of growing up as a PK in "My PK Story" and dispel the myths that frequently obscure the reality.

Preacher's kids have wrongly endured stigmatisation and judgement for far too long. The goal of "My PK Story" is to dispel these damaging misconceptions and give PKs a platform to discuss their challenges, victories, and distinctive viewpoints.

Your story matters. Never let preconceptions define who you are. The world may judge you, but we won't. We provide a safe and welcoming space for preacher's kids to share their stories on "My PK Story," and we cordially encourage you to take part. What's the best part? The option of anonymity is also available.

Send your story to [email protected] or send it directly to our inbox on our various platforms.

Send a message to learn more

20/03/2023

I have been a pastor's kid my whole life and there are some advantages. However, that is overshadowed by the dominance of the disadvantages to being a PK.

With the Christian walk, you go through your highs and lows, a point of maturity and immaturity. For many individuals this is done on their own accord in private.

Not so much for a PK. Everything is measured on a much larger and grander scale. … And when we stumble, we get a sense that we are letting down our families and our churches.

It's a feeling like you are on a sinking ship and you can't get out. The pressure just keeps mounting and mounting to where you just want to give up. (Many do.)

Micah Erickson, Jacksonville
CREDIT: www.jacksonville.com

15/03/2023

El-Hajj Malik El-Shabazz, popularly known as Malcolm X, was one of the most important figures in the American Civil Rights Movement. He was the fourth of seven children, and was born on May 19, 1925, in Omaha, Nebraska. His father, Earl Little, supported the Pan-African movement and was a Baptist minister. Louise Little, Malcolm X's mother, was a homemaker and an active participant in the Universal Negro Improvement Organization.

Malcolm X's unique background as a preacher's child influenced his perspective and values. His father was a well-known member of African American society who was well-known for both his activism and his fiery speeches. But, the savage death of Malcolm X's father during his childhood left a tragic legacy.

Malcolm X and his brothers were placed in foster care when their mother was institutionalised for mental illness due to the family's financial difficulties.

Malcolm X's upbringing in a profoundly divided environment as a preacher's kid and as an African American had an impact on his later activism and advocacy. He joined the Nation of Islam while incarcerated, where he learned Elijah Muhammad's teachings and developed into an outspoken supporter of black separatism and self-determination. He then abandoned his prior views and converted to Islam, becoming a Sunni, yet he never stopped speaking out against racism and inequity in the United States.

Ultimately, Malcolm X's upbringing as a preacher's child profoundly influenced his activism and life, and his legacy continues to motivate new generations of social justice campaigners.

13/03/2023

Pastors' children face tremendous pressure to meet predetermined criteria. Let's establish a secure environment where kids can be themselves and discover their own route to faith and self-identification. 💪❤️

25/12/2022

‘Tis the season of love and joy, and no one deserves it more than preachers’ kids! Warm wishes from us to you this holiday season – May your Christmas be merry and full of joy.

Your support for your parents in spreading the message of love, compassion , and peace during these unpredictable times makes us admire you even more. We want you to know that we appreciate your strength and courage as you minister, mentor, pray, and lead others.


We also want you to know, it is okay to carve your own path while finding your identity in Christ Jesus.

May you have a wonderful season full of joy ✨

We are rooting for you always! Sweet is the victory!

ChristmasSeason

P.S: This Christmas season, let's remember and pray for the families of preachers' and pastors. As they work tirelessly to spread love, peace and joy.
Wishing you all a blessed and joyous Christmas

11/12/2022

Hey PKs, let's gist?

With everyone having an opinion about what a preacher's family should be like, and how hard it is living to these ideals. What is/was the hardest part of growing up as a preacher's kid?

Was it a walk in the park or it was like climbing Mt. Everest?

Let's know in the comments section. Don't forget to tag a preacher's kid that you know!



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07/12/2022

How many of these questions can you relate to as a preacher's kid?

Tell us in the comments 😂😄

07/12/2022

Lil Kesh is a Nigerian singer, songwriter and rapper. He is best known for his hit singles "Shoki", "Efejoku" and "Cause Trouble", which were widely popular in Nigeria and throughout Africa. His music has been described as a mix of afrobeats, hip hop, reggae and trap.

Lil Kesh was super open in his interview with 'Blueprint' about his dad, who's a pastor, and how he still supports him even though he makes secular music. At one point, he even performed at his dad's church on Christmas Day!

EXCERPT FROM HIS INTERVIEW WITH BLUEPRINT NIGERIA

Q: What was your dad’s reaction to your decision to become an artiste?

ANSWER: My dad was cool with it. He lets you do whatever you want to do. He feels that whatever his life story is doesn’t have to affect the way his children live their lives. According to what he used to tell me, everybody must live his or her individual stories. He watched me grow from being part of the choir, learning to play drums, and attending music shows. Till now, he gives me all the necessary support and respects my decisions.



CREDIT: MADAILYGIST & GH GOSSIP

05/12/2022

Pastors' kids say, 'Ministry has taken over our world.' External, performance-oriented affirmation becomes the basis for self-esteem, and kids rebel against that.

They want discipline to be worked out within the family structure. They want parents who will say, "we don't care what anybody else thinks. We will manage our family in the way we think is appropriate and we will take the fallout.

CREDIT: church planting.com

05/12/2022

"Preachers kids" in our society today face special pressures like nowhere else as they are scrutinized and judged constantly. How do we help them?
Share your thoughts!



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31/10/2022

There are many who learn to jump through religious hoops and spout off religiously correct statements, but who do not know Jesus from Buddha.

My ultimate goal as a parent was not to keep my three sons from embarrassing their mother and me.

Rather, my goal was to raise kids who know, love and honor God. Deborah and I never told our kids to act a certain way because their dad was a pastor/missionary. We tried to teach our kids that obedience is not about who we are, but who they are.



Credit: ministrytodaymag.com

27/10/2022

Drop an emoji in the comments section below if you can relate 😁🤣😃

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26/10/2022

American pop singer, Katheryn Elizabeth Hudson, popularly known by the name Katy Perry was raised in southern California, the middle child of two itinerant born-again Christian ministers. Nonreligious music was forbidden in the Hudson household, and she grew up singing church hymns and gospel tunes.

As a teenager, she learned to play the guitar and sought a musical career in Nashville with a Christian record label, but her debut album, the gospel-influenced Katy Hudson (2001), sold poorly.

She moved to Los Angeles the following year to venture into secular music after Red Hill ceased operations and she subsequently began working with producers Glen Ballard, Dr. Luke, and Max Martin. After adopting the stage name 'Katy Perry' and being dropped by The Island Def Jam Music Group and Columbia Records, she signed a recording contract with Capitol Records in April 2007.

Perry has nine U.S. Billboard Hot 100 number one singles and has received various awards, including four Guinness World Records, five Billboard Music Awards, five American Music Awards, a Brit Award, and a Juno Award. She has been included in the annual Forbes lists of highest-earning women in music from 2011 to 2019. Her estimated net worth as of 2016 is $125 million.

Perry is one of the world's best-selling music artists, having sold over 18 million albums and 125 million singles worldwide. In film, she released an autobiographical documentary titled "Katy Perry: Part of Me" in 2012, and voiced Smurfette in the 2011 film The Smurfs and its sequel in 2013. Her Super Bowl halftime show performance is the most watched in history. Perry also began serving as a judge on American Idol in 2018.

Credit: Britannica & last.fm