05/01/2024
BECOME ELEGANT AND CLASSY
You know you can be a woman with class if you want to…
You can exude the aura of elegance you have always craved.
You won't have to break a bank, or be all rich, or achieve your big dream or change your physique or skin color before you walk, talk and glow elegantly.
Start your elegant journey unapologetically.
But firstly,WHO IS A WOMAN OF ELEGANCE? Or perhaps WHO IS A CLASSY WOMAN?
A primitive myth behind the definition of a classy personality is that… She must be all rich, speak boldly, in a relationship with "big boys" or have numerous men in her life, dress sexy or simply "dress to kill", have the highest level of education, all shiny and all the vanity life could offer.
This mentality had made so many people feel less about themselves, though they have all it takes to be classified as "ELEGANT WOMAN", because they did not know their worth they doubted their capability. They get comfortable in seeing people they think are classy as being above them and always wish to one day be like them..
But a classy woman is a woman with an impressive character. A woman who knows her worth and carries herself with dignity while being humble and kind. A woman who knows how to dress perfectly no matter the quality of what she is putting on. A woman who knows what fits her. A woman who exudes an aura of beautiful wisdom, rich in kindness and talks with utmost gentleness.
She is a woman who respects people without downtrodden her own worth. A woman who commands respect and admiration effortlessly. A woman of intellect and good qualities.
A woman who always seeks to be better. She is not in competition with anyone, she just wants to keep getting better than she was yesterday. A woman who adds value to herself, life, time and people around her.
These would change your perspective and help you take those baby steps you need to be beautiful in your own unique way.
👉In your heart, let it be boldly instilled in it that you are a CLASSY and ELEGANT woman.
Do not underestimate the power of what you think or how you feel about yourself. Your outer self is the reflection of your inner thought. "Change your mindset to a positive one and smile your way to happiness."
👉 Always feel and look BEAUTIFUL.
Every woman is beautiful. Forget about your skin color. Your round face. And all you think about every aspect of your life, you are the most beautiful "YOU" that exist.
Do not ever think less about the beauty and endowment God bestowed on you. So you need to always appear beautiful.
Ranging from the cloth you wear, the bag you hold, the shoes, hair, face, down to your finger and toe nails let it all silently scream ELEGANCE.
Once you feel you are not comfortable in a particular outfit, pls do not wear it, it will have a huge negative effect on your confidence.
Do not wear a thorn or faded cloth.
Iron your cloth neatly every time before wearing it.
Go to thrift stores and shop on the low budget stuff you need, if you can't afford it brand new.
Do not wear tattered shoes or slippers and think you don't care. You start loving yourself when you care about your look. Dress well no matter the occasion, you can never tell who you will meet.
Your dressing and carriage scream the kind of person you are first before any other thing follows. So take your appearance seriously and see how good and confident you will be in your skin. Even people will respect you for that.
👉Don't stop ADDING VALUE TO YOURSELF.
Read books. Reading books is part of loving yourself, because a good book thoroughly digested will never leave you the same way. Keep growing in knowledge, expose yourself to the good happenings around the world. Read not only in your academic field. Read on politics, read on sports, read on self development books, read on sciences, read on everything valuable.
Improve or start a skill. Learning new skills or brushing up the ones you have learnt can never be a waste of time or effort. As no knowledge is a waste, no skill is a waste too. Sharpen and exercise your brain and mind as you widen it more with good skills. It is not to be "jack of all trades", but to learn a skill that is inline with how the world is evolving.
Do not wait to have a huge amount of money before you can learn that skill you desire. Do the work you did not like as long as it is legal to achieve the one you like. You can't depend on anyone, even your parents. If you think no help is coming, help yourself.
Don't idle away… you have no excuse to. Stand up and sharpen your skill, utilize it, show the world what you have got and command respect, love and value effortlessly.
👉Do not WASTE YOUR TIME ON FRIVOLOUS AND UNNECESSARY THINGS.
You don't want to stay stagnant forever. Do not waste your time on things that are not necessary . Run, if it is something that can't add value to your life.
It is petty backbiting. Stand up when you are among a circle that talks bad about others to feel good. Do not be among people that soil peoples names. Do not be among people that get jealous about others' achievements. Do not be among people that bad mouth people in order to be loved. That is way too unnecessary and time wasting to engage in such, a woman of class doesn't do such.
Don't waste your time on social media. If it is not adding value to your life, drop it and take charge of your life by reading or doing other things of good value. Don't keep following celebrities to monitor the happenings around their life when you did not even have anything to your name. Gossips and all sort of frivolous things on social media is not of classy woman. Do not engage yourself in social media scandals. Respect your boundaries on social media, it talks alot about who you are.
👉Always wear a BEAUTIFUL SMILE.
Smile always no matter what. Frowning is not attractive at all. Smile while you greet people. Smile while you remember your little achievement. Smile while you sell or render services to people.Even when you hear unpleasant things being said about you, especially when it is not actually true, just smile it away, that way it won't get to you.
Smiling is a very powerful form of kindness. It is a very infectious way to brighten people's mood and feel good when you make someone happy. Because if you want to be happy, then you must extend happiness yourself.
To be continued…
