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Emotional Intimacy, Bethlehem (2024)

24/06/2021

Intimacy is the capacity to be rather weird with someone - and finding that's OK with Them.

✍️🚶🔐❤️How well do you know your balance relationship lifestyle!!

22/06/2021

Intimacy is healing.

22/06/2021

Intimacy is the capacity to be rather weird with someone - and finding that's OK with Them.

05/05/2020

They was once woman who said,that if you choose the second man over,The first man is the reason you dated the second one!

•||√^I Say That Theory Is Being Unreal To This Worldwide Am living|•=°✓
"Why You Can Ask,"

I Going To Use Vocabulary 'IF' To Bring Senses Back To You!

^|√|^°Hear👂 What If The Second Man Knows About The First One Then Decide To Take Advantage Of You!🙄

°|•√~Then Next You Choose The Third Man Also Third Man Knows 'Bout' The First n' Second Man!🙄 It's Up To You What Is Going To Happen!✍️

~`|•^°✓Then It Is Me The Fourth Man,I Know About The 1,2,3 Man's You Met ,Sorry Am Running Out Of Time!
Hour ashes!🚶🚶

But I Tell You Stay To Your Man He Is Wrongful But Doesn't Know 'Bout' Those Guys You Met💌

Emotional intelligence!

18/02/2020

Hêår mê tàlkïñ íñ térmß øf Rôâd ßígñ ór yóü çàñ ßày à wåyß:;;::

Thêy àrë ßígñ Çållêd Júñtíöñ íß ëthíèr â 'Y' ôr 'T'.
Íñ rêlàtîōñßhïp théy ïß thíß twó kíñd øf rélàtïønßhíp àñd ît íß bëing chøôséd by Chøícê màdë öñ böth pàrtnêrß!
Høw!? Yôú çàñ àßk,

Bàçk tô thê Juñtīôñß,;;
Y-júñtíóñ íß à ßhørt làñë thê àt thë éñd ït gívê yóû 2 lànê røãd!
T-jüñtîóñ í çàñ àlßó dêßçríbè ít às ßhórt làñè thêñ ßtøp ßígñ, àftër yôúr çhóícë whérëby yøü çhóøßë léft ør Rïght!

Çàñ ï éxpóßé yöúr rélàtîóñßhíp!?😂😂🚨💯🥂🎳✌

Émótïónål-íñtïmàçy❤🌴🌹

14/02/2020

Thēy íß àñ Øld àrtíçtlé thát ßàys;〽️💓💖❤️

Îf yōú lēt ßømêthïñg íñ yøūr lífê Gø thêñ Çômêß bàçk , yøú lêt ít bê!〽️💖💞
ít wâß yóūr dêçïßíóñ tó lèt bàçk íñtō yóūr lìfë!〽🌹✨
'Whãt íß méáñt tö bè;Ít wíll bē'💥🥂💯💢

✨✍️〽️Emotional intimacy ✍️✨⚡

14/02/2020

🌹🔥🔥Ëvêryøñê dêßérvê hãppíñéßß Būt nöt àß íñ púrßúíñg ít ßó nêíthêr prêßéñt ór àbßèñcê óf à pàrtñêr ßtíll jøy íß thê fûlléßt màñífêßtàtíøñ !Só êñjòy yôū dày bøth êmótíoñàl & phyßíçàl🍓〽️💝

💥🔥🔥🌈Hãppy Väléñtiñê tó yóú ãll✨⚡🥂🔮

19/12/2019

A great relationship is about two things: First, appreciating the similarities, and second, respecting the differences.

Healthy relationship

19/12/2019

75% of women ask questions in which they already know the answer to. This is why it's best to simply tell her the truth.

Save yourself Man

18/12/2019

Respect❤🤝
'The best rule of thumb is to consider how you want to be treated and apply that to how you treat the guy nor woman in your life.having mutual , deep senses of respect for each other will be really healthy for your relationship.

Emotional healthy in relationship🌹🌹🥀

29/09/2019

⏳Life is like a game of chess.⏳
To win you have to make a move.
Knowing which move to make comes with IN-SIGHT
and knowledge, and by learning the lessons that are
acculated along the way.
We become each and every piece within the game called
life!

💦Intimacy stays as Rhythm💦

27/09/2019

She'd
crave intimacy with you, more emotional intimacy
than physical. She'd want to know all your darkest
secrets, and your craziest fantasies, all while
wrapped up in your arms..

❣️Civenchy💝⏳

26/09/2019

👀👣What Do Women Need In A
Relationship?💫💌
Women want partners that care.
Women don’t want perfect partners; they want
men who are striving to be their best selves.
She doesn’t necessarily want someone who has
every step of his life pre-planned, but she
wants someone with drive and with goals.
She doesn’t necessarily want someone who
cries every day, but she does want someone
who has the courage to cry in front of her when
he needs to.
She doesn’t necessarily want someone who
stays in therapy for his entire life, but she does
want someone who has the courage to face his
own emotional demons .
So put in the work. End the stalemate. Decide
that you want to be in the kind of relationship
that most people don’t have and you want to
put in the effort necessary to become that kind
of man.
The women of the world are waiting for us.
And they want us to step up just as badly as
we want them to open up.
Dedicated to your success,

❣️❣️💌

26/09/2019

💔To Feel Like She Can Count On
You💔
Life gets pretty messy sometimes.
When life’s unavoidable difficulties arise, do
you fall apart under pressure or are you able to
bend and not break?
Women want to know that we can handle
ourselves when life happens. They want to
know that we won’t run and hide when they get
a bit ‘too emotional’ for our liking. They want
to know that they can count on us.
When you tell your partner you’ll do something,
and then you don’t do it, it hurts her. She loses
a piece of trust in you that has to be earned
back. Even seemingly small things break that
trust like you saying that you will wash the
dishes shortly after dinner, but washing them
the next morning instead.
When enough small transgressions like this are
sprinkled throughout your relationship, she will
distrust you.
Do what you say you will do, be who you say
you are, and be consistent in your actions.

Woman.want.this💝

26/09/2019

💕To Be Appreciated💕
The feminine in all people responds primarily
to praise and appreciation.
Remind your partner that you love her. Tell her
that you appreciate what she brings to your life.
Show her how much she means to you.
The fastest way to run your relationship into the
ground is by ignoring your partner and taking
her for granted. Appreciation is the opposite of
those things. Appreciation is the embodying
this mindset: “I am aware of what you bring to
my life, and I want you to be sure that I am
aware of it as well.”
So tell her what you appreciate, and tell her
often.

26/09/2019

✌️To Feel Sexually Desired✌️
What’s a major difference between your
relationship to your partner and your
relationship to everyone else in your life? You
have s*x with your partner.
Women need to feel s*xually desired . They
want to make sure that you see and appreciate
them as a feminine, s*xual being.
Praise her body . Feel her and grab her
appreciatively. Remind her that you see her as
a s*xual being and you will both benefit.

26/09/2019

To Be Allowed To Be Nurturing
Just as masculine energy has the need to
protect, feminine energy has the desire to
nurture.
Women want to see the cracks in our armour.
They want to see that we trust them enough to
open up to them. They want to be able to help
us through our sadness.
An integrated, evolved man who has a
balanced masculine energy as well as his own
sliver of feminine would welcome his woman’s
nurturing.
If you are a guy reading this, have you ever
held open a door for a woman because it’s the
polite thing to do (but more just because she’s
a person and it wasn’t even a gender-based
act) and she chews your ear off for it? “Oh
what? I can’t open the door for myself because
I’m a woman?! You s*xist pig!”
That is an example of a wounded, unbalanced
woman who doesn’t want to accept help from a
masculine source. This is exactly how it feels
to your partner when you push her away when
you feel the most vulnerable. “I don’t need to
lay my head down on your chest and tell you
about my feelings because I don’t have any!”
That is a lie. It’s a lie that serves your purpose
of not letting your partner in. This lack of
vulnerability and authenticity is what is making
you and your partner suffer.
So let her in. She wants to love you.
💃💃💃

26/09/2019

🤷To Feel Seen🤷
Women want to feel seen.
She wants to feel you hearing her, and being
aware of her emotional state.
She doesn’t necessarily want you to be
affected by her emotional state, but she does
want you to be witness to it.
If she is sitting across the room from you and
you aren’t picking up on the fact that she is
suffering emotionally and on the verge of tears,
she will begin to trust you less. She will think,
“If he can’t see that I am hurting now, how long
will it take him to figure it out? Will I be
suffering for days or weeks before he is aware
of it or cares enough to help me through this? I
guess I have to rely on myself for my own
emotional support.”
Life can seem extremely lonely, even within a
relationship. You have to constantly show your
partner that at least one person will be witness
to her and her journey through life.

26/09/2019

😍To Feel Safe😍
There is a war being waged on women’s self-
esteem, s*xuality, and safety from a very young
age.
Because of the barrage of disempowering
messages being sent to women regarding their
s*xuality, women need to have a safe space
where they feel that they can trust their
partners.
She wants to trust your strength. She wants to
feel like you can handle whatever she shows
you.
She wants to feel like you will not judge her if
she asks for something risqué. She wants to
know you won’t collapse in defeat if she tells
you to do it “This way” instead.
By creating a safe space for your woman to
open up to you emotionally and s*xually, you
will be giving her a very powerful gift- you
allow her to grow within your relationship and
undo old emotional damage.

26/09/2019

🔐To Feel Loved🔐
When women feel loved, they relax and open to
us. The arguments dissipate, the s*x is
abundant, and their nurturing feminine energy
flows throughout our lives.
Not feeling loved is the subtext of every
argument that you and your partner have.
If she is unhappy that you are going out with
your friends, or she’s upset about her day at
work, or she is only responding to you with
brief snippets of sentences, then the cause is
most likely her not feeling loved enough.
Learn to see through her words, actions, and
moods and see what the real root of it is.

🥀Only🥀for🥀woman🥀

24/09/2019

✍️Words of Affirmation✍️
They rely on external rather than
internal sources of approval, seek
markers of reassurance, and
probably feel motivated by accolades
and/or status.
There’s a problem here with self-
love. If they need others’ affirmation,
they probably don’t give enough to
themselves.
Furthermore, if love = affirmation,
then in their mind they have to first do
something to “earn” love.
At their worst
They become a slippery slope of
insecurity and codependence; a
bottomless pit no amount of “words
of affirmation” can actually fill. And
this is really hard for others to love.
Because while they say (and want to
believe) that “a simple thank you
will do!”, it can sometimes feel as
though each word of reassurance is
too quickly depleted.

✍️✍️💫

24/09/2019

First of all, we love you. So let’s just
be honest here: y’all are
materialistic. I mean, you see
material goods as “love.”

24/09/2019

🚧Acts of Service🚧
I’m biased, because this is my
secondary language, but here’s the
way I see it:
Who prefers acts of service:
Utilitarians. And probably love
avoidants.
These are people who value
productivity, efficiency and function
over floweriness, form, and romance.
They’re probably independent —
busy people, who rarely ask for or
expect help even when, deep down,
they could probably use it. (Because,
consider this: if we expected or were
accustomed to everyone always
helping us out, we wouldn’t value it
as deeply as we do. It’s a moment of
vulnerability to let someone help and
want to see it as love.) At the same
time, we love feeling like our
partner’s on our team.
At their worst:
May abstract themselves from
intimacy through acts. May dodge
displays of love directed at them,
thereby keeping themselves — and
lovers — “safely” distanced from it.
“Acts of service” is the most arm’s-
length of the love languages, with
the act being done not even “to” the
lover in question, but often in
another time and space altogether —
the calling card, perhaps, of the
avoidant lover. (And I would know,
because I am one, and as I said, this
is my second preference, behind
“quality time” and before “physical
touch.”)

⏰⏰⏳

24/09/2019

💫Physical Touch💫
The easiest and most fun to love,
seriously. I adore people who speak
physical touch, because it is by far
the simplest one to “replenish.”
There’s no planning, no money to
spend, and no real exertion of effort
or time. I mean, s**t, this barely
requires any thought — you can do it
spontaneously waiting in line, saying
hello or goodbye, passing each other
in the kitchen; they don’t give a f**k!
Plus, there are no games, the rules
never change, and you never have to
scramble to come up with a new
idea — a kiss is always a kiss; a hug
is always a hug. A touch is a touch is
a touch. It’s all so refreshing and
easy.
Anybody who complains about their
physical touch lover is a narrow-
minded monster who doesn’t know
how good they have it.*
*This is assuming that both parties
are otherwise emotionally healthy

♥️♥️♥️

24/09/2019

💃Quality Time🕺
i.e., the right (and best) love
language.
Time is the most valuable thing in
life — the only thing we can never
recreate or get back. As such, it’s
also the most valuable thing
someone can give you (or vice
versa.)
Who prefers quality time:
People with their head straight, who
understand the pricelessness of time
and attention. They also have to
value balance, because quality time
is pretty much the only “mutual”
love language: you have to give it to
get it.
At their worst
“Quality time” lovers can become (or
feel) clingy. But even as someone
whose biggest deal-breaker is
clinginess, I’ll happily tolerate a tag-
along so long as he doesn’t whine or
make other demands.

♥️True♥️believes♥️

24/09/2019

What Your Love
Language Says
About You?

👀👣✍️

24/09/2019

“If you ask yourself
if this is it, then it
isn’t there.”
But what if I DO still
wonder or I’m still NOT
sure?

❤️Emotional❤️intimacy❤️ Questions❤️ relatively❤️

24/09/2019

Forget “you just
know.” It’s more “you
don’t even wonder.”
This is my answer to everyone
wondering “so, can anyone be ‘The
One’?”
No.
There’s still something magical about
the right relationship.
Getting there is everything above.
Knowing that you’ve gotten there is
when the question of “The One”
seems small and silly — the answer
so obvious it’s not even worth
asking.
I have more quiet conviction for my
current partner than I ever did
anyone else. Whereas I used to
answer the question of “is he the
one?” with “well, I can’t see myself
with anyone else,” or “I guess,” or “it
certainly seems that way,” my
answer with my current partner is
more like “lol.” Like, what a silly
question. It’s like being asked if you
like breathing; barely even worth
asking or answering “yes.” Because
of course .
He just is . I just am. We just are. It
just is. It always has been; always
will be. It’s in the only thing that
matters, which is right now. It just is.
I don’t wonder.
And I know I just said that people
who are happy don’t talk about
being happy, and here I am doing it.
But the difference is we’re talking
about it and I’m sharing my own
experience. You’re being open by
reading; I’m being open in response.
The red flag is randomly
emphasizing it during brunch or
something, when nobody even asked.

❤️ Balling❤️altitude❤️

24/09/2019

Love means never having to
say “they’re The One”
When you really have “the one,” you
don’t feel compelled to go around
saying it. Doing so just feels
unnecessary or silly.

❤️Think❤️Straight❤️

24/09/2019

You don’t feel
compelled to tell
everyone
The first rule of Fight Club is: you do
not talk about Fight Club. The second
rule of Fight Club is: you DO NOT talk
about Fight Club!
Secure people don’t go around talking
about being secure. Happy people
don’t talk about how happy they are.
And, after the first few weeks,
genuinely happy couples in love
don’t talk about their love, either.
People who incessantly emphasize
their unyielding love are:
Overcompensating, trying to
brute-force it into existence
because it isn’t
Afraid things might end at any
moment
They are flailing. Love is actions, not
words. And little actions, not
grandiose displays.

❤️Sort ❤️of❤️redemption❤️

24/09/2019

“No, I mean I want everything”
Then you get nothing.
Those people you think “have it all”
are some of the most desperately
unhappy people behind closed doors,
because they’re so consumed with
keeping up the image of happiness.
There is no “everything.” There is
only what matters or nothing.
Pick three.
“But what three?!”
Omg. I literally already gave you the
first one. Surely you can think up
two more.

❤️This❤️ isn't❤️Love❤️?

24/09/2019

“But I still really want someone
hot/wealthy/whatever”
Then you’re not truly ready for real
love and I don’t even know why
you’re here. When you’re really
ready for love, those things pale in
comparison.
If you don’t care about meaning
enough to still care about superficial
s**t, then we’re not even having the
same conversation and I can’t help
you beyond stating the obvious:
prioritize your dumb list (“top 3?”
you do you) and find the person who
best meets them. Just don’t go
whining at people once you do and
it’s not “love.” Because, duh.

❤️❤️❤️💔

24/09/2019

Relinquish your stupid
“checklist”
Get your priorities straight.
If you’ve absorbed everything you’ve
read so far, you see how your
“checklist” is totally meaningless —
and distracts you from a meaningful
relationship. You will never build
“meaning” if you keep shoving it into
or making it compete with
fundamentally meaningless boxes like
“income” or “attractiveness.” You
either want superficial s**t, or you
want meaning. Chasing both pits
them against each other.
If you really and truly want meaning,
you will readily sacrifice the
superficial to get it. Because when you
truly want meaning, only meaning
matters.
I know you think you can chase both,
but you can’t. I’m not saying you
can’t end up with both — you might
build a meaningful relationship with
someone “attractive” (or whatever
else) — but you will never, ever
cultivate meaning by actively chasing
superficial s**t. It fundamentally
strangles meaning, and the best
you’ll end up with is forcing or
wringing “meaning” from someone
to justify your superficial attraction
to them.
The thing that should be at the top of
your checklist is “emotional stability
and self-sufficiency.” And it should
be the top thing you cultivate in
yourself as well.
Emotional stability is first on my own
list of only three things I need in a
partner. I don’t care what he makes,
how tall he is, or what he drives. I
only care about what matters, and as
a result am eons happier than ever
before (including dating dudes who
made 2 or 3 times more.) And not
slightly happier; rather, so much
more that it’s laughable to even
make a comparison.

❤️ Interactive❤️ Intimacy❤️

24/09/2019

Relinquish your need for
concrete, black and white signs
“Happiness is like a butterfly: the
more you chase it, the more it will
elude you, but if you turn your
attention to other things, it will come
and sit softly on your shoulder.” —
neither Thoreau nor Nathaniel
Hawthorne but often attributed to
one or the other
If you’re waiting for a clearcut,
definite, black and white, concrete
“sign” that they’re “the one,” you’re
gonna be waiting forever. Love
doesn’t work like that.
The “knowing” in love is inherently
abstract and amorphous. You can
fight this, pushing for more clarity,
but the “certainty” in love is not
concrete — there will never be
anything to point to, touch, or
measure.
So if you’re not open to “abstract
certainty,” you will never, ever
experience love. You’ll be too
distracted looking for “concrete
signs” that, by nature, will never
appear. Instead, you’ll probably latch
onto concrete signs that have nothing
at all to do with love, and end up
disappointed in other ways.
Love means relinquishing your need
for concrete.

❤️❤️❤️

24/09/2019

Happiness is internal, not
external
Happiness starts and ends with you.
If you keep defining “the one” as the
person who will soothe all of your
insecurities, you’re going to go your
whole life looking in vain.
Nobody is here to be your emotional
savior.
This is what the whole “emotional
self-sufficiency” thing is about, and
why it’s so important. If you don’t
love yourself and meet your own
needs, nobody else’s efforts will ever
be enough, either.
❤️❤️❤️

24/09/2019

Get your head straight
Love is more about your emotional
sufficiency and work than anything
else, and your willingness to
embrace this is one of the biggest
factors in good love.

24/09/2019

“The One” is not about
perfection; it’s about decision
My partner is the love of my life,
even from a purely logistical
standpoint, because I’ve spent over
fifteen years — more than half my
life — caring about him, which is
eons longer than any other partner.
Rounding up, he’s already “forever”
for me. Because I kept him and
chose.

❤️Emotional❤️Intimacy❤️

24/09/2019

It’s not about your partner, it’s
about your effort
Love is a choice, not an emotion.
Love is an action, not a feeling. Love
is deliberate, not passive. Love is not
something that happens “to you;”❤️
love is something you do.♥️

24/09/2019

Relationships Take Work —
But That Doesn’t Mean You
Should Suffer

24/09/2019

To have our own lives
We may not say it, because how do
you tell the person you love to get a
life? But we really want you to have
your own life. Really. We want you
to have your own set of friends,
activities, and passions. Of course we
want to be supportive of everything
you care about and be a part of
anything you would like us to be a
part of, but we want you to have
your own identity.
Because if you have nothing that is
yours, our relationship is standing on
one leg. Also, if you have your own
life, it forces us to get our own life as
well or risk losing you. Forget legs.
Let’s put our relationship on wheels.
One is yours. One is mine. And
together, we’ll ride.

💌💌💌