04/02/2021
3 Vital Ways to Shift Your Networking Self-Talk (So It’s Enjoyable)
Not everyone enjoys networking. Some people find it difficult and excruciating, especially if you’re an introvert or naturally shy. Even if you’re an extravert, there are times when you’re tired or don’t feel like going out and selling yourself to a bunch of strangers.
Sometimes you don’t feel like putting yourself out there, and there’s a networking event that you have to attend. You’re swamped by negativity, but you have to go. You can make it easier on yourself by changing your self-talk, using these helpful tips.
You’re over it
Maybe you’re feeling a bit burnt out, a bit over it, and you don’t want to go. You want a lunch break to yourself or an evening in front of the tv. And sure, if you’ve been going hard at it, maybe you do need a night off. But if you’re feeling negative about the whole thing, step back and take a strategic perspective. What’s the opportunity cost of not going? Maybe there’s someone at tonight’s event that could make a massive difference in your life. Perhaps it’s the important connection you’ve been looking for, and instead of being their perfect next hire you’ll be in your jammies watching re-runs.
Make a deal with yourself. Go to the event, be your best self and then go home and put on your jammies. Best of both worlds, and you won’t be left wondering what might have been.
“I never meet anyone worthwhile.”
Networking can be like dating: you meet quite a few frogs before you meet The One. But have a look at how you’re approaching networking. Do you hang back, waiting to escape or do you make the most of the opportunities there might be?
Get a grip, stand tall, look approachable and make eye contact. Let other people talk and listen. Focus your attention on the other person and not how self-conscious you feel, and you’ll start to make meaningful connections.
“It’s all so fake.”
One of the aspects of networking people dislike is the artificiality and the self-promotion that can feel fake and uncomfortable. It doesn’t have to be like that, Sure, you’re there to meet people, but make it your mission to find common ground with the person you’re speaking to. It doesn’t have to be about work; in fact, it will be easier to make a genuine connection if you find a common interest in sailing, or volunteering or breeding Persian cats.
Networking doesn’t have to be fake schmoozing: you can do it on your own terms and make more meaningful connections with the people you meet.