Choosing to believe what others say is difficult because:
1) They might be confused over what they're feeling,
2) They might be confused over what they want
3) They might be confused/misinformed over what they observed
4) They might just be lying
5) We might be bias
There are many reasons and they all start with 'might'.
If we can't know for sure, we're sent down a line of thinking that creates disconnect and distrust with our team and loved ones.
By acknowledging what they've said, you're choosing to think and respond, as opposed to feel then react --> leading to less assumptions in your decision-making.
Just because you didn't have the same personal lived experience, doesn't mean that 90% of your customers or 90% of your team didn't live it too.
Starting with putting yourself in the shoes of others is a good start, choosing to believe what others have said is a better outcome.
If you're interested in developing your leadership skills, I can refer you to some of the best leadership coaches that I know.
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Your intuition is the greatest guiding system you have, and it's completely free.
1) Articulate the feeling that's coming up - as a feeling word. 90% of the time, this is where it goes wrong! π
You'll know if this is really what you're feeling or just a thought by how much the feeling word resonates.
Once you feel resonance, move on to #2.
2) Without judgement, say what comes up. Out loud if you have to, on paper if that's better.
Each thought is like a shovel of top soil uncovering, keep digging until you feel resonance with a particular thought(s).
Pat yourself on the back, you've found your real starting point. Most people don't get here. The real truth to how they feel about where they are.
3) From here, look towards where you want to be, and you can start formulating how you want to get there.
First things, first though - give yourself the emotional, mental and time space to feel.
Need help and an ear with this process? We can refer you to some of the best coaches we know - DM us to find the right fit for you:
[email protected]
#empathy #leadership #coaching #learning
It's the complete opposite to recycling messaging everywhere else in the world but I love it!
The EU has just mandated bottle caps to be fixed on single-use plastic bottles.
Which means entire waste streams are forced to adapt and innovate to:
1) Prevent less litter (with an aim of 10% across parks and beaches)
2) Ensure ERP (Extended Producer Responsibility) for the recycling of bottle caps, not just the bottles*
3) Make it slightly more inconvenient to drink from single-use packaging, and hopefully encourage more circular behaviours from everyone!
4) Force exporters to the EU to comply as well so there's a wonderful ripple effect to other markets (or terrible ripple effect depending which side of the sustainability fence you stand on)
Wins all round in my opinion!
From my 2 minute scouring, this article gives some great context:
https://www.sustainableplastics.com/news/tethered-caps-mandatory-eu-summer-2024
*Plastic recycling is market-driven, where companies purchase a specific grade or colour for whatever they're making, so the cap and bottle which are different grades and colours must be separated to be recycled properly
What is the Sustainability Mastermind?
Because sustainability is how we do everything, there's no 'expert' across the whole sector.
These masterminds bring people with different skills across adjacent sectors to help each other learn, iterate and collaborate
I'm looking for organisations and people looking to learn, connect and contribute. This will help me help others do the right thing!
If you or someone you know is interested, check out the page for more info or DM me. Although beware - you might get a dad joke in the DMs...
https://theideaconsultants.com/blogeng/sustainabilitymasterminds
I'm looking for beta testers to help me hack the sustainability outcome cycle
This means a 2 hour per month commitment where you will make real strides on your organisation's sustainability journey
And help me iterate this programme to help make sustainability more affordable, more effective and much faster.
Please help me connect with people that would be interested or sign up yourself here :)
https://theideaconsultants.com/blogeng/sustainabilitymasterminds
Big thank you to TVNZ for the live interview this morning on Slaprea, a Food Festival for Good that was held yesterday! (Next one is June 9th, same time same place)
Tell us what else you MUST see and we'll go hunting :D
Here's some big sustainability wins from our first one which saw a few hundred people here in Εtautahi:
- 60% of people turned up by EV, bike, bus or on foot π²
- Less than 5kg of waste to landfill, 1 kg of mixed recycling and less than 5kg of organic waste for a few hundred people #nuts!
Next festival is June 9th, 231 High Street, stay tuned
We are looking for:
1) Tea-towels and washable cloth napkins to make the next one paper-free
2) Volunteers to help with iterating the overall operational and sustainability system
3) Sponsor! We're definitely seeing a minimum few-hundred people come through per month - let us know if you're in need of strategic exposure :)
We learned an important lesson in empathy and ended up with hours of rubbish picking afterwards....
One of the most important truths of empathy, is to understand we are NOT the other person, and therefore clear any expectation of what we might be assuming of what they think, and what they might do.
And only then, will we be able to connect more openly
Or in this case, avoid an experiment we didn't need to do! π
Did you know that up to 95% of your waste outcomes, whether it be litter, recycling or diversion can occur at the design stage of your business?
We've spent the last 8 years running social experiments at Cambodia's biggest food festivals and found a few insights to share in these three upcoming videos.
If you're interested in learning more about lasting outcomes, stay tuned to see our 35 step guide on lasting sustainable outcomes :) Out soon :D
Why did we just throw out our old recycling rules?
For fun of course! People just love change don't they? π
And ... a few other reasons you'll see below!
If you're interested in learning how to minimise and eliminate waste in your org, join me at the Business Canterbury Waste Minimisation Workshop March 27th hosted WasteCo NZ
Sign up below:
https://training.cecc.org.nz/w/events/130-waste-minimisation
Part 2 baby!
TLDR - Vendors are a key to your waste reduction door, gate, or sustainability treasure box! π So actively work with them to reduce waste at your event.
Show them this super short video to get started and...
1) Build common ground - Remind them that you're a team, and that you're successful when they're successful, that means delighting customers with an event that hits a home run on all fronts.
2) Then say clearly how important it is to you and the event goers that your event has a more positive waste outcome (one of those fronts) and it takes teamwork to make that dream work
3) Ask them how they feel about it - this is the crux of the relationship building because it gives you feedback on what they're really thinking:
- Do they care? If so, great! You can rely on them. If not, you may need to swing back round to check
- What do they know? If they say they're kinda confused, then you can explain to them how to reduce waste by Avoiding, Reusing and how to recycle at your event.
These basic steps have helped me reduce up to 90% of waste from landfills at events and I'm sure it can for you too!
DM me if you need someone to have a crack with you, happy to just help out!
NZ recycling changes:
https://www.newshub.co.nz/home/new-zealand/2024/01/new-recycling-standards-to-come-into-effect-nationwide-auckland-council-encourages-diligence.html
Waste hierarchy:
https://zwia.org/zwh/
Clarify Crystal Clear Goals
Wait wait wait! Before you rock on your goals this year, take a step back and ask "how clear are your goals and missions? In life or at work?"
The level of clarity we're talking about is where you can "see the forest for the trees", instead of getting lost in the details.
If you've found yourself chasing after the first couple of ideas that come to mind, it'll pay to spend even just 30 minutes before you spend 30 hours or 30 days or $3,000 working towards a path that might not serve you.
It helps to talk out your goals, and what you're feeling and thinking to someone who has great active listening skills and genuine care for you.
Here's a few coaches I'm recommending who I personally know do this very well if you're looking for professional help:
Joey Ra
https://www.joeyra.com/
Noggin Notes - Improve Your Mental Health
https://lnkd.in/gcMX3RGf
https://www.jenstevie.com/
TLDR - It's only January so don't burn out too soon!
Manage yourself with self-interpreted kindness, which are actions and dialogue that *you* have worked out are kind for you.
At this moment and at this time.
Only you know that.
And distance yourself from poor listeners when you're low (example in the video!)
Or let them know that their listening sucks duck feet if they're someone important to you so they can improve!
Hit me up if you're looking for coaching, I can refer you to the best coaches that I know
Otherwise, have a think about what self-interpreted acts of kindness you can do for yourself and share below! ππΌ
Set Audacious Goals
2024's right around the corner with a grand opportunity to foster change:
For yourself
Then for others.
If you can show yourself some kindness and dream a little more with your goals
You'll be challenged just enough to shake off the day-to-day routine vibes
and feel positive and motivated again about the treasures that life has to offer
Here's a short clip on setting audacious goals for 2024, I hope it helps! :)
How To Journal For Transformational Change
Journaling has given me the self-awareness to:
1) Stop being such a **** colleague when I get stressed π
(Much, much less now!)
2) Become more intentional with parenting
--> Noticing my emotions and the s****y traits I don't want to be passing down to the kids
3) Capture where I am, right now and compare that to where I wanted to be - and make changes
It's the foundation of all great decisions.
For just two or three sentences a day
Try it out!
I'll be releasing a 5 year journal in 2024 - if you've read this far, would that be of interest to you?
Let me know :)
Much love,
G
sLooking back at this post, I'm realising how much I swear in my head ... and I'm totally fine with it. Omg, see how it works? π
Get Better At Asking For Help
Getting better at asking for help...
will shape a life with less stress, more growth, and certainly more courage.
At worst, you'll get a no - and know what you can do differently next time
Or know who you can ask for help
And at best, you'll smile a little more knowing you have support and less stress with whatever it is you're doing π
Why not slow down a little to see where you need some help?
Empathy isn't just about putting yourself in the shoes of others, it's understanding that we are not the other person, therefore have biases from our own experiences and life which affect how we see things from another's perspective.
What empathy gives us, is more information when we're building relationships, products and services for others. It helps us communicate more effectively, design less friction into product experiences and lead compellingly.
If you're appropriately engaged - meaning you're present, active listening and sincere in your communication and learning, the information you gather will be of higher quality, leading to higher quality relationships and decision-making.
So use empathy in your day-to-day and find yourself leading, communicating and creating better outcomes in your personal and professional life.
Learn more here:
www.leadingwithempathy.me
#leadership #leadershipdevelopment #coaching #leadershipskills #entrepreneur
Coaches are some of the best mechanisms for feedback and improving your #professional practice, #performance and #wellbeing
We often don't spend enough time with ourselves to be aware of our thinking, our behaviour and even our wants and needs
Gaining #selfempathy can start with someone giving #empathy,
especially when we're too #highstrung to help ourselves
If you're interested, I can refer you to some of the #best that I know π
#leadingwithempathy #selfcompassion #collaboration #professionaldevelopment #leadership
www.leadingwithempathy.me
Together with other community and impact humans, we're hosting an (almost) free event space to use in the central city!
Tag people you reckon NEED to hear about our community event space :)
Courtesy of Life in Vacant Spaces we have the pleasure of activating this space conveniently located right next to the bus exchange
Talk to me if you'd like to book the space :)
#eventspace #eventmanagement #fundraising #venue #venuespace #events #communitybuilding
