10/11/2023
๐๐ข๐ช ๐๐ข ๐ฌ๐ข๐จ ๐๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ๐๐๐ง ๐ ๐๐ข๐๐๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐๐๐ฅ?
๐ค๐๐ฒ๐๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป: How do you correct a godbrother?
๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐๐ผ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ฑ๐ฎ ๐ฆ๐๐ฎ๐บ๐ถ: With a godbrother we have a friendly relationship. So we may talk to him in a friendly way. Sometimes we may even cut jokes with him. To correct him we may say something at some opportune moment when we know it will not hurt him. An intelligent man will do like this. You must speak in such a way that it will not hurt his feelings.
โฆ one should speak very sweetly so the devotee may be corrected, but in such a way that they will not be disturbed. For one who is intelligent, who is a true devotee, Mahaprabhu will give them intelligence whereby you will know how to act and speak in such a way that you will not hurt the devotee and at the same time you will correct them. And you should never have this thought in your mind that, โIโll correct him.โ You should think, โI am not a qualified person to correct him. Iโm the lowest of the low. I am an ignorant fool, murkha. I have no qualification.โ You should not cherish the thought in your mind to correct them. This thought is very bad and offensive. This is a very, very subtle point. It is very difficult for ordinary people to understand. But those who are devotees, who have made some advancement in spirituality, they can understand this point.
โ ๐๐ง๐ค๐ข ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ก๐ ๐๐ฃ ๐๐๐ง๐๐จ ๐ญ๐ต๐ด๐ณ, ๐๐ฉ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐๐ค๐ข๐ ๐ค๐ ๐๐๐ง๐๐ซ๐๐ก๐๐จ ๐๐ง๐๐๐๐ช.
๐๐ฑ๐บ๐ถ๐ป: Sri Srimad Gour Govinda Maharaja said a similar thing in another talk he gave in San Francisco in 1994:
"... You have no right to chastise, no right to correct anyone. You are not guru. Guru has that right. If you see something and you have a good heart, โHe is doing something wrong that is detrimental to his bhakti.โ Then go to him, pay obeisances, and tell him confidentially, not in front of others, โO my brother, I see this thing and it pains me very much that you are doing this and this. This is a great impediment on the path of devotion. I fear you will not be able to make any advancement. Therefore I am coming to you and telling you. O my friend, please donโt do it. Be serious about your bhajana.โ Tell him in such a humble way. Speak to him confidentially, not in the presence of others. If he is serious, he will admit, โYou are my great friend. I am blind to my own faults. You pointed them out, so I will be careful.โ He will accept it. But if you speak in the presence of others the reverse effect will be there....
๐๐ฒ๐๐ผ๐๐ฒ๐ฒ: Sometimes I may want to correct someone, but I can see that the person wonโt accept what I have to say.
๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐๐ผ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ฑ๐ฎ ๐ฆ๐๐ฎ๐บ๐ถ: So why shall you tell him? You should think, โHe wonโt accept it, so why shall I tell him? Let him go. As you sow, so shall you reap. What can I say to such a person?โ (The Worship of Sri Guru, p. 43, 48, 49. Evening program, San Francisco, 31 May 1994.)