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"My love for plus-size ladies makes me have an 'er****on' whenever I see her. How do I approach her? She is a widow. I need help..."

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13/09/2024

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11/09/2024

Hello Sisters,

I'm a 31-year-old lady. I've been married for less than a year and things are just going down for me. I'm 8 months pregnant. I found out my husband was cheating with someone at work when I was 6 months pregnant and he's been extremely defensive about it.

I'm so broken, it's almost like a part of me has just been taken away. I'm in so much pain and the worst of it is he doesn't even care! He sees how badly this has affected me but he just refuses to let us address this. He fails to understand when I speak about having boundaries and how helpful it can be so this doesn't happen again.

Having to deal with this on top of his failure to take care of me, give me attention, love me and even be helpful around the house is very stressful. I find myself talking to myself every now and then, I cry everyday and silently. I've been praying and asking God to help me and restore the marriage.

In Spite of all the prayers, I'm looking for a way out of this marriage because he doesn't love me anymore, in fact I believe he married me for his convenience.

He barely looks at me or spends any time with me. He'd choose anything else over being with me. Watching this go on is so painful, especially during this time (pregnancy).

I can't speak to anyone because I feel it's a shameful situation and that people will just focus on the fact that I should be grateful I have a husband and even pregnant in less than a year so I should overlook it and stay with him.

He is very distant and would rather please others than make me his priority. This man doesn't value me or even see my worth. Right from when we were dating, I've had to prove myself to him all the time, take care of him, do the extra work just so he sees that I love him. But he does little to nothing at all. He just says he loves me but he's unable to show me. I've been complaining about it even before we got married and things are still the same.

He likes to make me doubt myself whenever I complain about something he's not doing, like there's no problem and I'm only finding problems. The mental stress is just so draining and I'm concerned for my unborn child. Looks like he's not worth my time.

I want the marriage to work because I truly love him but I also want to leave so badly for the sake of my mental health.

What should I do? Leave or stay?

22/08/2024

Dear Sisters,

I want to remain anonymous but here is my issue; I’m 23 years old and I’ve been involved with a married man for 5 and a half years and that's his whole marriage life. At first, I felt guilty and thought of all the pain I'm causing another woman who was pregnant at the time, but my only consolation was, what she doesnt know won’t hurt her. I admit that was a heartless and selfish thought on my path but I turned a blind eye and continued, all through it all I really do not know what the man wants with me, because he's done a whole lot for me and I feel very indebted.

Last month, his wife found out about our affair and I really feel bad, I know I've been a bad person to her and I'm really remorseful, she told me to stay away from her husband; which I did but this man keeps calling me to apologise and says I should forget about what happened but I can't seem to forget causing someone the pain I have, it haunts me but i feel so attached emotionally and mentally to this man. I really want to stop talking to him but he gives me an allowance for upkeep as I'm still in school.

He treats me better than my own family does and I'm scared to tell him off, I'm also scared to get intimate with him but he keeps asking us to. I'm confused and the thought of me being the reason for someone's marriage will be broken haunts me. I'm not a bad person, and I don't blame anyone for anything that has happened but I don't want to continue like this, please help me.

Confused girl

22/08/2024

Hello Sisters,

I've been in a relationship with this gentleman for just 3 months and he's proposing marriage already.We share common values, opinions,etc. Fact is, we've never met in person because he's abroad. The little research I've done on him has provided nothing to doubt on.He's ensured I get acquainted with some of his relatives and friends.So far, in good and bad moments,we've both shown commitment and maturity. However he sounds desperate to marry and this makes me feel like he's showing me much of his good sides to get me on his Web and later show me the real 'Him', though he's assured me that he isn't hiding anything from me with respect to his personality.

I have never requested money from him,nor has he made an attempt to send me money though he knows I'm in temporary financial difficulties.My friend is concluding he's a "miser" because of that. (Could she be right?)

I asked to be financially stable before we get married in order to contribute to our wedding, this he objected and suggested to bear all costs.He now comes to tell me to let my family bear some of the cost and also asks that we hold the cheapest possible event because of some unexpected financial burdens on him,coupled with travelling costs.
I like him but also fear he may be hiding who he really is from me.

Do you think we're rushing with this marriage decision?

What do you suggest I do, Sisters?

22/08/2024

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16/08/2024

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07/08/2024

Dear sisters,

I am facing a complex situation that I need your advice on. I am currently pregnant and uncertain of who the father is between two guys in my life. The first guy is my ex-boyfriend with whom I had an on-and-off relationship. After we broke up, I started dating another man, and now I find myself expecting a child after only two months of dating him.

I am torn between the two possibilities, as both men were intimate with me around the same time. I have shared the truth with my current boyfriend, and surprisingly, he responded with understanding and acceptance. He even assured me that regardless of the paternity, he is willing to raise the child as his own.

While his response was reassuring, I am wary of his intentions given our short time together. I fear that he may use this situation against me in the future, even if the child is biologically his. I am contemplating running away from both men and handling the situation on my own.

However, my current boyfriend is persistent in his support and presence, urging me not to make any hasty decisions. I am feeling overwhelmed and unsure of how to navigate this delicate situation and communicate my needs to him.

I am reaching out to seek your guidance and perspective on what steps I should take next. Your advice and support mean a lot to me in this challenging time.

Sisters, Please help me.

07/08/2024

Dear Sisters,

I have been friends with my best friend for more than 15 years. There is nothing we don't know about each other—our likes, dislikes, allergies, friends, crushes, partners, secrets; you name it.

We've been so close that we could pass for blood sisters. For about 6 months now, I've been dating my boyfriend. He is everything I want and need in a man, and trust me, he's every woman's dream. To top it all off, he's very rich and caring too.

Sisters, my best friend called me one night to tell me she had seen my boyfriend at a club with some guy, but he was with another girl. My man hadn't told me he was going out with his friends, let alone with another woman, and so I flipped. I asked for the location and immediately stormed the club.

He was very close to the lady, and they were chatting and having a very nice time. They hugged, whispered in each other's ears, danced together, etc.

I immediately showed my face when they got onto the dance floor and didn’t listen to anything. I instantly created a scene, and my boyfriend was signaling me to stop, but I didn't listen to him.

I called him a flirt, a cheat, and an unfaithful man. I insulted both of them and left. He followed me, trying to explain things to me, but I didn’t give him the chance to. This time, my best friend showed her face and was trying to calm me down. I sat in my car and drove off.

He came to my house all week trying to apologize, but my best friend advised me not to forgive him because he's a cheat.

She would pick up my calls on my behalf to talk to him, and I didn't see anything wrong with it.

Sisters, it's been 4 months since that incident, and my best friend came to me to tell me she’s getting married.

Can you imagine who she is getting married to?

The same man she advised me to break up with. I'm confused.

She has been begging me for forgiveness since she mentioned this to me. She said she was jealous of the perfect relationship I was blessed with.

To make matters worse, the lady my boyfriend was with happened to be his favorite cousin who had just returned from London that evening and wanted to party.

I'm so pained.

I feel manipulated.

I destroyed my blessings with my own hands.

What should I do to my best friend?

Sisters, I need your advice.

19/07/2024

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18/07/2024

Dear sisters,

This one is called matchmaking gone wrong.

My lady friend, who is in her late 30s, asked me to connect her with one of my male friends. She desperately needed a lifetime partner because she was beginning to feel lonely.

So, I connected her with one of my friends whom I knew would treat her right. To my surprise, they hit it off immediately after exchanging contacts. My friend couldn't stop talking about her, and coincidentally, the feeling was mutual. He even promised me that she was his last stop. The only thing left was for them to meet in person, as my friend worked out of town and only came around every two months.

The day for their meeting finally arrived. Right after their first date, my lady friend started growing cold toward him. My friend got worried and asked me to inquire about the issue. After beating around the bush many times, she confessed that she lost interest because he was short.

Hmm... this was difficult, but I managed to come up with something to help my friend back off without feeling bad about his height.

Fast forward, my lady friend asked for another match. Honestly, I hesitated, but when I shared her photo on my status on her birthday, my friend in the UK showed interest and asked for her contact.

I gave it to him because, why not? After they started talking, things kicked off. This time, she asked about his height and was quite satisfied with this match.

They kept talking, and when she got comfortable, she told her new man that she had a child with another man who was no longer in their lives.

Well... this shook her new man. He immediately told her that he couldn't father another man's child and suggested they break up.

My friend is now very hurt and feels discriminated against. She is angry that the guy rejected her because of her child and is now blaming me.

What should I do? Wasn't she the same person who rejected someone because of his height—something he had no control over?

I am honestly confused.

18/07/2024

Dear Sisters,

I am a 45-year-old woman, married to a 47-year-old man in the US. We’ve been married for 10 years with no children.

Last month, my husband traveled to Ghana to take care of a project we are working on. Before this particular trip, all his earlier trips were with me. This time round because I wasn’t with him, we spoke as frequently as possible about everything a married couple would talk about. One night, during one of our long conversations, I heard a woman talking in the background. I thought it was just a movie playing, so I did not pay much attention to it.

When my husband returned from his trip, everything seemed back to normal, except for my constant worry about our childless marriage. Every hospital we had visited said there was nothing wrong with either of us.

One morning, I woke up and decided to encourage my husband to try having a child with another woman. I was willing to take the child in as mine and even co-parent with the other woman. Right after suggesting this, my husband burst into tears. He said he had a confession.

His confession was that he already has a child with another woman. Honestly, I was excited for him. I was eager to meet this child and even start scheduling visits. He asked me to calm down and proceeded to say that there was another child and a third on the way. The woman was pregnant by him again.

This shocked me! What? All this happened under my watch? I became curious about who the mother of his children was. Sisters, it was none other than my own younger sister. Herh! My sister?

Eii… how did this happen? I asked my husband if he thought my family would be happy to hear this. He then revealed the full story: my mom was very much aware.

I called my mom, and she confirmed this. She said this was no news and I should stop overreacting.

My husband is asking for forgiveness and wants me to allow his kids and my sister to come live with us because he filed for citizenship for all of them.

How can I live with this? I know I was initially open to him having a child with another woman, but I wasn’t expecting this to happen with my sister.

Sisters, what should I do? I want to leave the house to them!

05/07/2024

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21/06/2024

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24/05/2024

Dear Sisters,

I would like to keep my identity from the public, so you can call me, Esi for now.

I have been dating my boyfriend for some years now and I must say he is a very good man. He treats me like a queen all the time. His mum has treated me like her own child ever since he introduced me to her and I have a very beautiful and cordial relationship with her. I really love and respect her so much but there is one thing I can’t stand about her, my mother-in-law is always asking me for money behind closed doors. After which she would caution me not to tell her son. She did that 3 times when I was still schooling at the university disregarding the fact that I am a student who has also been taken care off.

Sisters, my family is well to do but nonetheless, I didn’t expect her to be behaving in that manner towards someone in school. And I also don’t understand why she doesn’t want her son to know about this. I make sure to give her presents including money on anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas, Easter, and even on normal days.

I travelled to the UK for a project and I haven’t returned to Ghana yet. Sisters, can you imagine my mother-in-law still asks me for money even though I’m currently in the UK? I don’t understand this because her kids take very good care of her and she is equally working and earns a salary monthly.
I am very concerned about this behaviour of hers, I have a strong urge to tell her son about this but I don’t know if I will ruin the relationship I have with her and cause problems between her and her son if I tell her son. But I don’t know if she will continue with this when I marry her son. Even though I like her, I find this behaviour of hers really disturbing.

Sisters, what should I do?

I really love my man and I wouldn’t want to lose him for anything.

Please help me!

24/05/2024

Dear Sisters,

I have been married for 3 years now, I love my husband very much but there is one thing I cannot stand about my husband. He likes to make friends with females too much. He is always around women and I don’t find this interesting. In fact any woman he finds on social media or at events, he would take their numbers and immediately get chatty with them. It just doesn’t end there, my husband has slept with some of these ladies and unfortunately I know about all that. Anytime I confront him, he brushes me off and treats it as if it’s not a big deal. He would say and I quote “You worry too much, they are just my friends, mind your own business and me leave me alone”

Sisters, I’m very confused.

How can I mind my business in my own house? Is my husband’s business and well being not my business?

I really need your advice on this matter because I don’t understand what is going on.

My name is Dee!

24/05/2024

Dear Sisters,

I want to stay anonymous.

I have been married for 10 years and am gifted with 3 beautiful and intelligent children.
Three years into our marriage, I decided I want to completely ignore my man, to put on self love because he switched character :from quiet, humble and shy; to demeaning, manipulative and insulting. My decision worked very well for me because I've been able to save enough to work on future retirement projects. I'm a happy mother, with my children but the same cannot be said about me being his wife.

My problem is, he is still too insulting. I reported his attitude to some significant persons in his life ( his pastor, church elder and a family elder) to talk to him, but he hasn't changed. I'm most times angry because of him. I'm afraid my children may also learn this bad habit.

Should I end this relationship?

Sisters, please advise me.