12/08/2019
Lately I started to wonder, what if I set too many boundaries? Each time the thought crosses my mind, I inch closer to the unspoken truth that I may be using boundaries as an excuse to avoid…well, people. 🙅🏽
Don’t get me wrong — boundaries are great. They are mental, emotional, or physical limits you put in place to help you manage your personal, work, and familial relationships. Boundaries help you make sure you’re able to exist in your relationships as a happy individual, basically.
But like everything else in life, finding balance helps maintain healthy limits. That makes a lot of sense. For example, having boundaries that are too restrictive or too permissive can lead to uncomfortable situations and, if you’re a loner like me, endless Friday nights re-watching Rick and Morty. Or worse, awkwardly oversharing on a first meeting. 😱
I'm not saying my experience should deter you from setting boundaries, if anything, it should serve as a lesson that while boundaries are amazing -- healthy boundaries are *even* better. Are you setting boundaries correctly? I share a worksheet that may be of help in my newest blog post (ohh, it's been a minute): "Let's Talk About Boundaries".
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