12/11/2020
How many times have you called yourself the following?
A Bad Mom
Worthless
Stupid
Boring
A Failure
Unliked
Unlovable
For me, these words and feelings were, and still are, on repeat in my head.
Around and around and around.
And each time I would repeat it to myself, those feelings grew stronger and the belief became more real and a bigger part of my identity.
For a very long time in my life, my anxiety has been my constant companion. The stress around being a new mom, simply gave it gasoline.
The limiting beliefs I had carried with me into motherhood, had unsurprisingly followed me there too.
Until one day, I said f* it and it all came out. Over a bottle of wine, every fear and belief that I had been pushing down and swallowing since Charles was born, came up.
After the tears had run dry and the wine bottle was empty, I realised that by trying to hold onto the image of a "good mom", one that holds it together, has no doubts and is sure & stedfast, was slowly killing me.
By continuing to push down those feelings, and not acknowledging our fears and the limiting beliefs we carry, we are not only doing ourselves a disservice but our children as well.
So here it is, in case you're not ready to believe it yourself yet. Repeat after me.
YOU deserve to be happy, vulnerable and brave.
YOU deserve to be able to express frustration, fear, anxiety & helplessness in a safe way that BUILDS YOU UP instead of tearing you down.
YOU deserve to look in the mirror and say, "I may not be perfect, but I love who I am". And your children deserve that too.
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