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16/01/2025

Good morning ma'am please ma'am post this for me 🎉🎉🎉 Bitumen was found in my mom farm land and the company people are coming tomorow for negotiation but we don't really know what to tell them or the amount of money to call... Please I need people with experience to help us .... Thank u ma'am

15/01/2025

good afternoon ma
please post for me and hide my 🆔 please my people I need advice am so confused and Don't want to make a mistake to regret in future am 24 years old and I got pregnant and my man ask me to keep the pregnancy so I told him that if he really wants me to keep the baby that he should go and see my people let them know him and also know that he is responsible for the pregnancy he accepted and after informing my people that he is coming we go and come back everything went well but he let them know that after given birth he will come and do the necessary things needed because in my tradition you can't pay a woman bride price when she is still pregnant to cut the long story short we also tell them that I will come over to the village to give birth and they said no problem but where I need advice now is that my condition now I can't go to the village again I can't even travel far because I can't sit even inside keke for just 20mins and now all my leg swo.llen we called my mom to inform her that I can't come to the village again if she can come here and take care of me she said she can't come that as long as they haven't pay my pride Price that is not right for her to come and do omugwor here that I should try and come to the village as it is my first time of given birth she could like to take care of me her self and do the necessary things needed for me and my baby but me now I can't go so I don't know if is bad for me to look for someone else to do it here for me since she said she can't come or beg the guy mum or sister to come over and do it for me please is it right for someone else to do it when she is still alive because me I can't travel I can't go to the village am 8months gone and all my leg is swollen and I live in delta state my village is Ebony state or should I just try anyhow and go stay with her please my people help me advise me on the step to take please 🙏🙏🙏

15/01/2025

Hi ma I'm from Kenya indeed your help my story goes like this i have been in a relationship for four years now but this person has been insul.ting me we all kind of words and be.ating,,so when he do so he will apologize later but he do the same thing again and he will keep apologising so two days ago he be.at and in.sult me with my family and i know he will apologize again sometimes he will tell me that he will kil.l me yet we are not officially married we are only dating please ma i need your help what should i do

15/01/2025

Good morning Madam...
Please hide my identity..I got married to wife 2019. Before the marriage she was staying alone and rej.ected by siblings n parents reason she said was spiri.tual issues.
I met her, open a computer business for her manage and reunite her with her family.
Her parents don't like brotherhood of the cross and star wish I am a member she joined my faith and lies to her parents and they accept us to marry.
After our first child on 2020 we decided to space children because of to much loads which her siblings were staying with us in one bedroom apartment. I give her everything she want including freedom.. permitting her to way ever she want to because I trusted her. She even bring her ex to our house and claimed that he want her ex to date her junior sister during her junior sister birthday because my wife is the first daughter. I was very a.ngry when I later realized that he was her ex. We control birth by monitor her system when free but when she took-in she will complain of spiritual issues and do away with it. The last one happened on August 2023 and she bleed much. After that she went for scan and told me her womb wound but did not print the scan results for her. I know ask her come let go hospital together and check she refused. When I notice her flow was not normal I gave money to go check her system with the midwife that handle her during our first child (girl) she refused and go and meet on e pastor she has being working for in tem of spiritual cleansing for people. On 28 April 2024 she pack and leave my house to unknown destination. I cry beg her to come home she refused and will only visit to check on our daughter of 3years that was with me and her siblings. After about 3 months I reported to her parents and they summon her to come with test results she claims to have wound in her womb. She came with a result and her was angry because she did not do the test in my present and for married woman leaving home to unknown destination is an abom.ination in our tradition. Her parents pleaded that they don't want divorce and that I should do traditional cleansing of Ekpo-Nkaowo since she confess of sle.ep with another man. I accepted it but she still stand her ground that she don't want the marriage again. I shows the scan results to doctors and they all affirm that nothing happened to her womb only ur.inary tract infe.ction was notice in the result.
Is much...
But now the issues is ....
She has ab.sconded with my daughter to unknown destination and den.ied me the right to see my daughter and I asked her to send me the account details of the school our daughter is schooling so I can pay school fee and visit her in the school she refused. Her parents on my neck now that I can't control her as husband and blame me of too much freedom I gave her and if we have divorced I should bring a written note to clarify it. These parents have refused to collect the pride price each time I approached them after our marriage then, they said we have finished everything concerning the marriage. But some finding during this fracas period and church revelation show that the man is NOT my wife biological father and that rekindle my memories to what happened during the marriage which I cannot explain now.
I have filled for divorce in customary court in her village but she refused to come out rather send in a lawyer. Then on social media she is saying our marriage is not over accept God approve it.
Our first hearing is on Monday..
Please I need your advice and please will the customary court handle welfare (custody) of a child.

14/01/2025

Pls post.
Good evening barr and Happy New Year.
Pls I need clarification on this, my Cousin sister who has been married for 10years to a violent abusive man filed for separation last year 2023 and the husband countered and asked for Divorce. After sometime,the man came back begging my sister (his usual tac.tics), he went with family and friends and after much pres.sure and promises of him being a changed man, she considered him for the sake of their 3kids like she says. But the thing is,they just aba.ndoned the cases of separation/divorce and child custody suit they both filed. 1 years plus later,it turned out that the abu.se still continued and now she wants to finally divorce him but the question now is, is she going to file a fresh suit or is the aban.doned suit still valid? Meanwhile,her lawyer has traveled out of the country so is she starting a fresh case? Is an unclosed aban.doned case of over a year still valid?

14/01/2025

Good evening ma,pls hide my id...I have a question to ask....there was a place I was using before work(container),along the line I thought of changing my place so I can rent the place out,pls note I HAVE NEVER OWE THE OWNER OF THE LAND,I always pay for the land rent before it expires,last year around August the owner of the land came that he want everyone out that some people are owing him,later her didn't come around again, around October he send lawyer to the place that when each one money due that each one should leave the place, so I thought of calling him because demoun.ting the container to another place and mounting place will be quiet expensive and I am not buoyant enough for that,so he later said he want to increase the rent,in which he told me how much he want to b collecting for my own space....my money is always due by February....but he said if I want him to give me notice I should pay btw Sunday (5/1/25)-wednesday(8/1/25)...so I try to pay him today 7/1/2025.......I later call him to ask if he has seen the money because he doesn't acknowledge whenever I paid.....the next thing he said s that he want to refund the monet back that if am to pay now i will have to pay as if i jus want to secure the land, which includes paying for agent, agreement etc fee...now my question is....is it ok for someone that has been occuping somewhere to pay for agent etc twice because i paid it then when i want to acquire the land,i will be at the comment section,thks ma

14/01/2025

Good afternoon ma please advice me. I am staying with my elder sister but the issue is that her husband is always bea.ting her over every issue. He doesn't even care if am there or not and family members are tired of talking to him to stop bea.ting her. I have begged my sister to leave him but she will be saying it's not that easy to leave marriage.

I am not happy with her situation so I payed some boys to be.at up her husband for bea.ting her. On Friday night he be.at her again and I was very ang.ry and I called the boys again because they are my friends in the area and they caught him on Saturday and be.at him up. Since that day he has been at home because of the pai.ns from the beat.ing. He has been acc.using my sister of sending people to bea.t him that how come he gets bea.ten after they have a fi.ght. My sister is not aware of what I am doing and she told him she is not aware that it's coincidence. But since then he has not bea.ten her because they really bea.t him up this second time. Please ma should I tell my sister that I am the one that is sending those that are beat.ing her husband or I should keep quiet? Should I continue sending them to be.at him until he stops beati.ng her? I really want to help her ma.

14/01/2025

Good morning ma and Happy New Year
Please I need your advice privately.
I had a boyfriend and was deeply in love with him until I got preg.nant in 2022. When I told him I was pre.gnant he was happy but after some hours he called and said I should term.inate the preg.nancy reasons being that I was the bread winner of my family and that he wouldn't want my family to suf.fer because I was pregnant. I declined telling him I was going to keep the pregnancy. To cut the story short, my family got to know about the pregnancy, called him and asked him to do the needful but he refused. He changed from the good man he used to be to somebody I don't know anymore. God helped me, I gave birth to my child that was when his family decided to visit to see if the child is actually theirs and since then they have not been visiting except one of them. My baby daddy can stay for 3 months without coming to visit the baby not that he's not around until one day when he came my dad in an.ger asked him to stop coming since he's being forced to come visit his own child. It came to the time when the child was to be enrolled in school, I told him he said I should search for school which I did and told him the registration, he refused until I had to pay for the registration and school fees. Since my dad asked him to stop coming he has never made efforts to try and come to the house. His excuse is that he was asked never to come to the house again instead he will ask me to bring the child to a bar to see him. At a point I was no longer comfortable with this method as I felt it's not a safe place for a child of 2 to be so I told him I wasn't going to bring my son out again in such atmosphere that if he wants to see his son, he should come to house. He still hasn't come till now. The only thing he does is to send 15k or 20k monthly but not every month for the child's upkeep. No one cares about my child in his family. It's just my family who has been taking care of my son for me when am off to work and picking him up from school. Whenever we have a conversation he keeps telling me that am just taking care of the child temporarily. What do I do?
Note: All that my son is using till date, I provide. The 15 to 20k is only used to buy some packs of cereals because that's the food he likes eating always.
Please I need an advice on what to do as regarding my situation. Thanks ma

14/01/2025

Good morning madam NkyLaw. I commend you for what you are doing on social media. You are really trying and God will bless you and announce you for greatness. Please I need your professional advice concerning my relationship because I am 42 years and I want to marry but I don't want my wife to share from what I have before the marriage. Women have shown me pepper in this life because of money and right now I have a lady I have been dating for two years and I want to marry her by Easter. She is a good woman but I am sc.ared if she is after my money but just pretending to be good. I am saying this because I have two houses, two cars for now, lands and businesses that are doing well. I don't want a woman that will marry me today and tomorrow she will say she wants divorce so that she can have a share of my property, something she didn't know how I suff.ered to get.

Please I want to tell my woman that we will sign an agreement that she will not have a share of what I have before marriage in case we want to divorce. If she agrees to sign I will marry her but if she refuse I will not marry her and I will find another woman that will agree to sign. Is this allowed in law? Am I doing the right thing? I am seriously hoping to hear from you and I will agree with anything you say because I have come to trust you on social media.

Can I enter an agreement with her on that?

13/01/2025

Good morning ma please post for me Good morning audience please Advise me my husband always be.at me on any little issue last night he be.at me that I fai.nt if not for the sake of our neighbors I could have di.ed, just because of phone if he owes my phone and I tell him to give me is a problem, last night he was calling his mum with my phone and I went to go and buy something cause the mum has already called me in the night that she is inside market that she will call back if she reach house when I came inside i just ask is she the one that called u that's how he get an.gry and be.at me to stu.por and am trying to go out with my 2 kids 4yrs and the new one is 6months he was be.ating me with the kids is neighbour's that rescue me he said let them leave me let me di.e if I want to di.e have decided to find someone to adopt my kid's since last night cause my mum is struggling with my younger one's I don't want to be a burden for her, please am i making the right decision

13/01/2025

Thanks to everyone who shared their sincere views about me. I read all your comments and honestly, you all became my mirror and made me realise some parts I never paid attention to about myself. You all contributed in bringing out the different versions of me I never knew existed and I am grateful for your kind words. 😘😍🥰 But you people didn't say that I can be naughty at times, I am not always a serious person o so don't be surprised if I go gaga. 😂😂😂

13/01/2025

Good evening ma
I got married to my husband for 8yrs now and we r bless with 3kids a boy n 2girls.my husband got another woman pregnant n he always said he will marry her as second wife,for 3yrs now he lives with her aban.don me n his kids.the new wife always like to thr.eat my life by saying he will kil.l me no case will be treated in the court cos he have what to use n backup,my problem is my husband always stand with him only so please what should I do legally to make him be carrying the responsibilities of my kids (paying their school fees, feeding money etc) I don't want divorce but I really need separation because I can't live in the same roof with his new wife cos she can ki.ll me as she said.
Secondly,I don't want my children to live with my husband cos the new wife can do ev.il to them

13/01/2025

Good evening ma
Please I need a legal advice and how to go about it
My husband is a soldier we are separated for 2yrs7month due to some misunders.tanding, I have two kids for him but he's not doing his responsibility to the children as the father. He gives them #20000 every month. We married legally both traditional, court and church. We are separated but not divorce. I want to divorce him legally and how can my children get their right from him
Thanks ma
Pls post anonymously for me

13/01/2025

Good evening NKYLAW , please need your advise and keep me anonymous , I am married with 4 children we do traditional and court marriage. What can I do my husband do stay for 1_ 2 years without having inti.macy with me and we living in the same house, if i complain to him he will tell me that we are not looking for children that there's no need for that, but he always trying to have se.x with the children living with us and they always reported him to me, and I do con.front him sometimes he de.ny sometimes accepts it . Because of that is behaviour we are not living with any girl child accepts our children. And I never che.ated on him before he always accus.ed me of that. In a case like this what should I do.

13/01/2025

Good day ma pls help me share for advice,
My father in-law is a pastor in (deeper life church)
He arrange for me to get married to his son, the father is the one that made all the arrangements to food and clothes,

We got married in (the Act) 2021, the marriage only lasted for 2 month
Before I left his house, but I never knew he was in a serious relationship, we had a misunderstanding then I told him that even though his a graduate he doesn't know what he want, after that day he asked me to leave his house, he later went back to his ex girlfriend and they had 2 kids now, after our marriage he was behaving like someone they for.ce to marry me, our separation is going to 4 years now, we have not talk to each other for this past years, all he kept saying is that he doesn't want the marriage any more, I have not said anything for this years because his father is one paying my school fee, pls how do I go about it so I can be Free from this marriage.. Because I discover that he never liked me his father just for.ce him to marry me because he doesn't want his son to marry outside his tribe..

12/01/2025

Good morning ma, I am sorry for coming into your dm, but I need to know what the law said in this

my mother-in-law knows she's HIV positive and she went ahead to be breast.feeding my son of 2 and 8months, knowing full well that, she is having discha.rge in her bre.ast, I caught her doing it, she den.ied in front of me, I was shoc.ked, my son is on medication now, but I don't know if that was her first time of breastf.eeding my son,

12/01/2025

good morning ma
Ma, please I need advice, I had a son in 2016 and I separated from his dad when he was 7 months old, after 7 years of raising him alone, I decided to take him to his dad last year December
Although he was happy at first that he had a son as grown up as this because he never saw him from that 7months to 7 years. No visit and he didn't send a dime
He got home and his wife (not legally married but had a son for him) refused my son from moving in with them
He called me and beg me to take the child back to save his home which I did but I told him I need support especially school fees and he promised to support. school resume and this man ignored us, telling it's my duty to take care of my son, after 3 weeks of resumption I took my son back to him until he's ready to support
And he sworn that I will never see my son again for returning him, since January Las year till now I haven't seen my son
I traveled to village and someone told me my son is with the dad's mom and looking very bad, I couldn't go there because we're not in good terms since the incident
What can I do to have access to my son
Or to take him fully
We were not legally

12/01/2025

There is nothing like Mr. & Mrs.The law does not recognize the first way of writing names as a couple and this doesn't favour women.

When you buy property with your husband and you use the first way, then you might be chea.ted because your name did not appear in it.

If you have made this mistake already, it's not too late to go and correct it and protect your interest in that marriage.

You can as well write your names without including the Mr & Mrs.

Remember, any woman can be the Mrs.

Let me also state it here that change of surname after marriage is not compulsory. It's your decision to make. As such if you did not change your surname after marriage, use your existing surname instead of your husband's surname.

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