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08/11/2023

Asking for a favor from everyone. Could you please post this and share with your friends and family.

I have been on leave for the past few months/weeks on Leave without Pay. I am healing and feeling much better but I still have a long road ahead to full recovery.

If you know ANYONE that is paid by the federal government and have any Annual Leave they can donate to me, please have them contact me for the information.

They may have use or lose that they don’t know what to do with and instead of giving their time back to the government, hopefully they can donate any annual leave.

If you know anyone and if they know anyone willing to donate anything (I don’t know if there is a minimum) that would be amazing.

Please share and donate if you can.

Thank you!

Ps. Federal Employees do not get short term or long term disability. We only can used our banked time or borrow from the future. I was only allowed some sick leave and its not a lot.

02/07/2023

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03/04/2023

I used to think

02/02/2023

This was a very interesting thought. Something I’m going to try to do.

Simply telling a child “you can say no” is not as effective in teaching them how to say no as actually being ok with them saying no to you.⁣⁣
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We have to actually get comfortable with our children saying “no” to us, for them to feel safe saying “no” to others.⁣⁣
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Not all the time… not every moment…. but sometimes. We certainly need to try and not demonize a child who does say “no” with confidence. Praise your child’s “no’s” more than their “yes’s.” ⁣⁣
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The pushing back against another’s commands and asserting one’s own voice is learned best in a safe place with unconditional love and acceptance. We hope our home is that place for our children. If they do not feel safe to say no to us, then they may struggle to say “no” to others when they really need to; predators, peer influences, etc.⁣⁣
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Secure attachment is the bi-product of a relationship built on trust.⁣⁣
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Learn more about how building trust through secure attachment with my latest 📖 👇⁣⁣
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Finding Your Calm: A Responsive Parents Guide to Self-Regulation and Co-Regulation⁣
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02/02/2023

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I have a simple message today, but it’s one that can lead to your child being disciplined, motivated, responsible and thoughtful.

You must learn to accept your child on a very deep level, so that you actually like them and enjoy them.

17/01/2023

https://www.facebook.com/100044608261563/posts/737040971126172/?mibextid=cr9u03

We don't have to give time outs.
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We don't have to leave babies to cry themselves to sleep.
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We don't have to think up random ‘consequences’ to manipulate behaviour.
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We don't have to count to three.
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We don't have to threaten or reward or punish.
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We don't have to repeat the patterns of the past.
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We don't have to hurt our kids to grow them.
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Mother nature will grow our children, our job is to walk alongside them.
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Our job is to grow ourselves up. To heal our own hurts. To acknowledge our unmet childhood needs. To expand our emotional intelligence. To elevate our consciousness. To deepen our awareness. To become expert listeners, messy playmates, and silly joke tellers.
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Our job is to have fun. To evolve. To learn. To trust. To connect. To change the game. To break the ‘rules.’ To hold our families sacred.
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We don't have to hurt them to grow them into good humans. Acceptance is always the need. Kindness is always the answer. Love is always the way.


How do we parent our children without punishment, coercion, manipulation, bullying, yelling, threatening, etc? Connection. Conversation. Compassion. Curiosity. Cooperation. Compromise. Building trust. Giving and earning respect. Guidance. Listening. Support. Modeling. Acceptance. Humor. Mistakes. Honesty. Openness. Healing. Laughter. Shared experiences. Learning together. Playing together. Forgiveness. Delight. Making memories. Crying together. Trying together. Holding each other. Helping each other. And buckets and buckets of love.
-L.R.Knost
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Fighting a rare, incurable cancer, but I'm still here!💞 L.R.

13/01/2023

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21/12/2022

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Parenting is hard. It just is. And parenting tiny humans with big emotions while being a big human with big emotions ourselves can feel overwhelming, terrifying & just flat out impossible.
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So sometimes we unconsciously slip into ‘don’t rock the boat’ mode. We think, if we can just keep everyone calm we might just survive our children’s childhood without losing our minds or damaging our children too badly. So we shush & we redirect & we say inane things like, “Calm down!” and “You’re fine!” and “Stop overreacting!” and “You’re okay!” and just generally live life like emotions are some kind of whack-a-mole game that’s been set on fire & it’s our job to run around with wet towels & smack those big emotions down before we lose control. It’s exhausting. And it’s pointless.
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Here’s the thing, parents: Your children are still going to have all of those normal emotions. They’re just going to start hiding them from you. And without you as their safe place to run to when they’re overwhelmed or scared or sad or frustrated or hurt, they’re going to be left alone with deep wells of pain they don’t know how to process. That pain won’t go away on its own. Over time it will either begin to erupt in bouts of rage, seethe into lies & sneaky behaviors, fester until it develops into self-hatred & self-destructive behaviors, or settle deeply into a child’s heart & result in depression or anxiety or shame or extreme sensitivity or a rigidity that demands perfection from themselves & others or a hardened heart that never learns to give & receive love.
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Here’s a mantra to help you breathe through that moment of panic when your little one is upset & your first instinct is to shut them down. Memorize it. Or write it down. Or take a screen shot & make it your screensaver:
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“This is my child’s crisis, not mine.
Emotions are okay. They will pass.
I can weather the storm with them.
I can guide them gently back to calm.
I am their safe place.”
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Remember, tenderness is not weakness. And control isn’t the goal. Healthy humans are the goal. Love heals. Hugs help. They don’t have to go it alone.
-L.R.Knost

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15/11/2022

This is what I try my best to do with the ones I love.

It can be difficult to do but this is how I am able to help my son grow. It helps me grow as well.

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=449071267397393&id=100068835715754

13/11/2022

This is such an important concept and very difficult to have that mindset shift. But read this. Over and over. This is what works in the long run. Or only with the relationship with your loved ones but with anyone.

Break the cycle.

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"Influence" is one of my favorite words! It was something that guided me all throughout the years.

It was so clear in my interactions with my kid that the more control I took, the less influence I had. It was not subtle when I started to pay attention.

When I was interacting with my kid I would ask myself, is this helping to nourish my positive influence in this person's life? Or is this putting up some kind of barrier between us? I would let that question guide my choices. Again, it was not subtle

After a couple of decades of doing this work, I am blessed with such a deep rel with my 25-yr-old. Even just writing that I get emotional, because it's one of the best things in my life. To this day we are learning partners. We share in each other's lives, both our struggles and our joys. Even though she's living in her own apartment on the other side of town, we feel deeply connected.

This kind of parenting can be terribly inconvenient at times, I know that. But the effort is worth it. It's lifelong effort because it's a lifelong relationship! After 25 yrs, my kid knows the one thing she can rely on is my effort, if not my ability, she knows when I fall, I'll get up and keep marching towards Non-Coercion, Collaboration, Respect, Communication, and Deep Connection. She can rely on my learning mindset.
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Posted • Flourishing Homes & Families The simple reality is that we can’t actually control our children. At least not for very long. But we can control ourselves, and share our strength, our calm, and our unconditional love. And while we can't control our children, we can help them learn self-control, not by controlling them, but by modeling self-control and teaching them what it looks like - over and over and over again.

04/11/2022

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Kindness will always matter. ❤️

03/11/2022

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My 5-year-old left his library book at home.

I didn't have to bring it back to him—but I knew he wouldn’t be able to check out a book that day at school without it.

So, I hopped in the car, and delivered it to him.

Yes, I know he needs to learn about responsibilities and yes, I won’t always be
there to help.

But I am now.

“Thanks, Mom,” he beamed when he saw me after school.

I didn’t have to vacuum my 14-year-old’s bedroom, she’s old enough to do it on her own. But I did it anyway. Because her days are filled with homework and sports and extracurricular activities, and this gave her more time to just be a kid.

“You vacuumed my room! Thank you!” she told me.

I didn’t have to watch a movie with my 12-year-old. It was already late. We were both exhausted from a week full of activities. But watching movies used to be our thing and life has been so busy lately, we simply haven’t had the time.

So that night when she asked me, I made time.

She didn’t tell me thank you, she didn’t have to. Her long goodnight hug said it all.

My dad didn’t have to start my car on those cold mornings before school, but he did it anyway. Even when I was grumpy. Even when I didn’t tell him thank you. Because he knew a warm car gave me a good start to my day. And I knew, a warm car also meant, “I love you.”

25 years later, when I start my cold car, I think of Dad and remember that love.

Friends, the holiday season is coming. And I know sometimes we get caught up in all of it. We want to buy the fancy gifts to tell our loved ones how much they mean to us or we feel guilty if we can't buy much at all.

But I promise—the best gifts are found in those small moments. That's the stuff they will always remember.

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23/10/2022

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Our words become a child’s narrative- and it’s not just the words we speak to them, it’s the words we speak about them. Listen carefully to the story you tell about your child for eventually it will become a part of who they are.

Parents Raising Strong-Willed Kids

11/10/2022

My son is almost a teen. I need to remember this.

I have found that there are certain premises that, once accepted, will ease the heartache of parenting a grown child.

10/09/2022

A great tool for anyone that works with kids or even adults.

Content provided on this page is taken from Lives in the Balance, and is used by permission. Please visit the website for many more resources. Videos are provided here only as a service to SBCSC teachers who are not able to view Vimeo content at school.

05/09/2022

If we want our kids to grow into emotionally healthy and respectful people we must model respect ourselves. It starts with us - here's how to do it.

31/08/2022

Maybe your special needs child just needs you - http://beautifulinhistime.com/2016/01/05/maybe-your-special-needs-child-just-needs-you/

30/08/2022

Helping children feel safe in every way— physically, emotionally, culturally and socially— provides the foundation for a regulated or balanced state that supports and positive social interaction. If we are going to “lend students our calm,” we first have to understand and manage our own , energy and tension and recognize what calm feels like for ourselves as well as what it feels like to be overstressed.

The MEHRIT Centre, Ltd. has a great collection of courses and resources for .

➡️️ https://self-reg.ca/educators/

27/08/2022

27/08/2022

This is our time to write our memoirs into the pages of history. The choices we make, what we do, what we don’t do, will be remembered with pride and celebrated or remembered in horror and reviled. Our choices matter today. They will matter tomorrow. And they will resonate into the future. The question of our lifetime is, “What are we doing to make this world a better place for our children and for everyone’s children?” and the flip side of that question is “What are we doing to grow better humans for our world?”
-L.R.Knost

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Fighting a rare, incurable cancer, but I'm still here!💞 L.R.

24/08/2022

Bedsharing can be one of the greatest blessings of parenthood. When I started I had no idea what to expect. So, I asked my community to share their stories.

24/08/2022

14/08/2022

My son is “Brandon”. He was the kid hiding under the table.

Now with the right supports he’s thriving.

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