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11/09/2021

06/15/2021

❤️ Love is scarce lately; so many messages out there it isn't apparent. I know God never intended for Love to be so complicated. Humans have damn near made it impossible. If you see love recognized, respect, accept and do your darnedest to hold onto it.

03/20/2021

Last year this time, it seems like we were in line with our dreams. We're doing our things until the pandemic crushed some of our steam. So many precious lives were lost. We had a fool who that he was the boss. It's 2021. It is time to change our position. One thing is for sure love is needed on every level. Let's get back to loving.

11/18/2020

Love is one of the most powerful forces in the world, but it’s often misunderstood.

I’d love for you to do a random survey on any street in your city and ask the question, “What is love?” I can guarantee you will receive countless different definitions, like “It’s an invisible force that comes from the universe,” “It’s a raw emotion that came through evolution,” or “It’s the connection between two people that brings them together.” All these answers are valiant attempts to describe something that has launched ships, started wars, built families, and changed the course of humanity.

Has love ever provoked you to do sacrificial or foolish things? Tell us about it.

11/09/2020

Love, how do you find it and keep it?

09/22/2020

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09/22/2020

Good morning,

Wow, one day, it was beautiful and warm, and while we are still in a pandemic, we are always close to home; we still love the gift of summer.

Fall starts today, and it has cooled things down. I had to cut my heat on - looking side eyes in September. I never had to do this before, but it was cold.
We started the fire pit over the weekend while still trying to take advantage of the last summer weekend.

As usual, life is moving along and taking most of us with it, but don't get too comfortable. The road can get bumpy, and you can get bruised, so slow down and think, plan, and implement. I'm always changing, but I focused on the best of me. As we move forward, think about the best of you and how you can merge that into your phase.

Do you ever think about how lonely one can be?
One is the loneliest number that you'll ever do
Two can be as bad as one
It's the loneliest number since the number one.”

Ecclesiastes tells us, “Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, NIV) Although we all need to develop alone times with God, we must build strong connections with people.

Who’s going to love you in the middle of the night? Let's work on this.

You can master Tuesday, with style. Live, Love, and Peace.

07/28/2020

This is a week for learning, or remembering, how to love yourself. It’s a week for believing, or trying to think, that you matter and that you’re enough. In the face of the chaos happening all around you, it can seem silly, even wasteful, to talk like this, but that doesn’t mean it’s not true. No amount of personal shame will mend the world. Telling yourself you’re inadequate won’t make you stronger or braver, or more ready to show up and fight. So this week, try loving yourself instead and seeing what magic blossoms from there.

07/23/2020

Removing your Barriers to Love:

Your task is not to seek love but merely to try and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. – Rumi

Love is so intoxicating, yet so complicated. We struggle with receiving it, giving it, and allowing ourselves to luxuriate in it!

We are such sensitive beings.

We crave love from the deepest part of who we are, yet we do so many things to stop ourselves from getting it and feeling it fully.

How do you shut down, shield your heart, and block yourself from the tender tendrils of love?

For each person, the barriers are different. For many, the walls began being built long before you were verbal – as babies and young toddlers, you unknowingly began laying the bricks.

Maybe…

…you experienced a suspicious glance from a primary caregiver, and your body absorbed the glance as a threat to your open heart.

…you were hungry, and someone didn’t feed you right away. Your body yearned for nourishment that it didn’t get. Your body then sent signals to your brain that you weren’t necessary, you weren’t seen, you weren’t loved.

…you weren’t held much as a baby. Your body felt that absence of human touch. Your body learned to protect you from getting close or allowing yourself to be “held” as an adult.

Even if these examples don’t resonate for you, in some way, you have spent decades building unconscious body, mind, and heart barriers against love — as a loving act of self-protection. Unfortunately, you may still be protecting yourself from false threats.

Ok, so you may be wondering how you now come back to love, how to express emotion in a relationship, and remove those barriers? Great question ;-)!

Breaking down the barriers to love begins with self-awareness and self-care.

Start with your body.

The key is that you are taking steps to honor being in your body without trying to change what you feel or force the feelings to be different than what they are.

This may mean doing a simple body scan a few times per day to begin the process of self-awareness.
Maybe you take a conscious bubble bath 1x/week, where you have no distractions, and you feel what it’s like to inhabit your body.

Maybe you get a regular massage, or you step up your exercise regimen, but make these conscious, compassionate steps toward understanding your connection to loving yourself (not a checklist of “To-Do’s” to improve the shape of your body).
Then, check-in with your mind.

I was noticing how you speak to yourself. Is it loving, compassionate, and accepting? If it’s not, see how your negative self-talk feels in your body. Notice if what you’re saying sounds like the voice of someone from your past (a teacher you once had, mother/father, friend from the past, sibling, a past romantic partner…or other). Consider reading this post to work on your self-criticism.

What are your core beliefs when you are in a
relationship with others? For example, do you tell yourself that you are annoying, a burden, or unlovable…? Do you make lists of reasons why people won’t want to be close to you or wouldn’t like and accept you as you are? Again, notice how you feel in your body.

Next, check-in with your heart.

Right now, as you breathe, does your heart feel open or closed? Is it tight and constricted or light and secure? Trust whatever you sense to be right at this moment. Notice if you don’t trust it and allow that to be information about a barrier you have toward love and trust within yourself.

With all of this information, you can begin to do what Rumi’s poem suggests: “seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against love,” and then you can start to work through those barriers gently.

Finally, overdose on self-care.

If you don’t treat yourself with care and love, you won’t be able to give or receive it.

Here are some self-care ideas to get you started…

Make quiet, alone time a priority – schedule it into your calendar (even if it’s only 5 minutes per day).
Eat a healthy meal, sitting down at a table, without multi-tasking.
Take walks in nature, if possible. If not, skip quality and take a step anyway. Movement helps to remove the cranks.
Stretch, at least 1x/hour, even if it’s while sitting down in your desk chair.
Hydrate.
Listen to your favorite music.
Make a list of the things that you know you are good at. Revisit this list often.
Do something creative.
Meditate or try this moving meditation.
Write down whatever comes to your mind/body/heart. Consider infusing something you are grateful for.
Take a yoga class.
Call someone you love and tell them how much they mean to you.
Rest. Take naps and get a good night's sleep as much as you can.
What else would you add to the self-care list?

Happy Love Day, friends. I hope you enjoy the journey toward unblocking love and allowing it to flow in.

Love, Wanda

07/18/2020

WOMEN, there are all types of women. Women are the center she brings life. There is no life without women. No matter how many people attempt to invalid our God-given right. Women are the center, and nothing will change that fact.

Women are not perfect and seemingly have been under extreme pressure to find the perfect look.
We have women interchanging cultural differences.

The thing is, I can't wait until big fake plastic butts are a thing of the past. How did we get here?

I don't have a problem with plastic surgery. I have a problem with women believing that their ass is more important than their brains.

Is the heart more important than the brain?

Does anyone think about integrity? Classy ladies? What happened to this type of woman? They are plenty the focused turned to the younger generation.

Did women achieve more marriages with the plastic ass vs. the real one?

07/17/2020

Lately, I notice that people are saying that they are purposely staying single. I answered why I believe that most people are alone or at least why I would be unattached. Here's why I think healthy, loving people would choose to remain single.

By forced. The environment is full of dubious individuals, so you are forced to stay away from people because it's not worth your peace, your stability, your body, your soul; so, you learn more about who you are and what you are not willing to accept, especially in years of vitality. Loving yourself becomes your mantra.

If you are single on purpose, share with us why?

07/14/2020

Adult friendships are one of the most powerful, transformative forces we can experience in our lifetime. But let’s be honest, sometimes we can get on each other's last nerve.

Don’t internalize the messages you get from the outside. If you do, you will find your frustration build because you will think your friendships are on hold when you’re not getting the response you have been looking for. Keep the faith. Not every thought is healthy or helpful. When the relationship feels strained, relax, apologize, and move on.

Never underestimate the power of filling your life with compassionate, supportive people. May this conversation be a loving reminder to invest in the folks around you. Love is available to you, and we've created the access. So, hold on, it won't be too long

Love will find away

07/12/2020

It seems like everyone has been touched by infidelity. This pain can be irreversible. If you had someone who loved and respected you and did all the things within their powers to enhance your quality of life, showered you with affection, and was by yourself during your ups and downs, and you decide you were unhappy and step into an entanglement.
The pain can be greatly unforgivable.

We have to go through it, then push past the pain. It's not an overnight; event there is no timeline for matters of the heart.
Not every thought is healthy or helpful. We need to confront our subconscious self-talk and speak life to every situation. I listed the four primary emotions people struggle with:

Fear of failure

Fear of rejection

Fear of punishment

Shame

Are you willing to fight for personal progress?

07/12/2020

I’m excited to announce my new Lover'sQuest Online.” app" and a podcast.

Every episode, I’ll sit down with married, divorced individuals along with the singles, dating coaches, and more to find ways to navigate through this pandemic to find the right person for you.
The show's goal is to provide in-depth convos about how we can all capture the love of our life and make it work.

September, we're opening the door to new heights.

We got to love on our minds, narrowing the gap between being single and finding love.

Two is better than one; there is so much fun.

07/11/2020

Do you think after 20 years of marriage, one can use their childhood trauma/drama as their excuse for having an affair?

In my opinion, Jada should have been apologizing for her transgressions vs. making excuses for them.

And, of course, we are not here to judge, but here's a woman in the late 40's tapping into her childhood experiences and using that as an excuse.

I'm not buying into the segment that they were separated.

Will Smith is hurting.

07/05/2020

How long have you been single?

07/04/2020

Greetings from New Jersey from my house to yours. I have been in quarantine since April 1st. Even so, I have not been binge-watching TV shows—I have been using the time to create surprises for you. I will have a big announcement coming in September,

There will be other surprises coming down the pike, too. I have been using my time alone, very productively!

07/01/2020

Delicate does not mean weak. Kind does not mean naive. Generous does not mean pushover. You are allowed to be a pure, wholesome person. Don’t worry bout the negativity cast out by those who are jealous or filled with darkness. They want to bring you down with them. Be the example they can aspire to. Being good in this world makes it a better place, period.