Mixed Messages

01/15/2025

01/15/2025

We don't get to choose who we fall in love with.
It's not a voluntary process.
It's an involuntary process.
It's a very real chemical reaction that occurs based on how your mind gives meaning to your interaction with another.
However, we do get to choose whether or not we engage with this person, choose a deeper life with the person, and use our psychology, our spirituality, and all of our intuitive capabilities to determine if our object of desire is good for us or bad for us.
Our childhood determines whether our perception of love includes neglect and abuse.
If it does, then we will spend a great deal of time determining whether the person we fall in love with is on our familiar patterned track of non-love, or if they are on our upward growth curve of healing.
If the person we are in love with falls into patterning that is a restimulation of our original dysfunction, the goal is to learn to walk away from that.