Inner Child Tribe

02/07/2025

“I am an actor—not a reactor.
Today I will talk about my angry feelings rather than just blowing up. My uncontrolled outbursts damage those I love and shatter all possible lines of clear communication.
My parents provided no positive model of how to deal with emotions in a healthy way. Anger was either repressed entirely or spewed forth in rage or cutting criticism. I learned to stuff my anger, only to have it suddenly explode like a volcano. I no longer want to be controlled by my parents’ example or by the reactions of the child within me. He is emotionally stuck between being a “terrible” two-year-old and a rebellious adolescent. I will not allow him to control my life any longer.
Today if I feel hurt or angry, I will talk about my feelings instead of just blowing up. I am responsible for my own happiness and peace of mind.
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Excerpt From
Affirmations for the Inner Child
Rokelle Lerner

‎Health, Mind & Body · 2010

02/02/2025

“I ALLOW MY HIGHER POWER TO ENTER MY LIFE TODAY, AND CHERISH THE SERENITY THAT FOLLOWS
Today I will set aside my ego and I will realize that I have an undeniable connection with a Higher Power. The connection is renewed by insightful discoveries, in moments when I am stirred beyond words, and during instants of wonder and amazement.
I trust the serenity my Higher Power provides. I am in touch with the irrefutable reality that life has meaning—all life, My life. I rejoice in being a part of the universe. I am cared for and protected by my Higher Power.”

Excerpt From
Daily Affirmations for Adult Children of Alcoholics
Rokelle Lerner
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‎Health, Mind & Body · 2010

02/02/2025

“FEBRUAR­Y 2—SURPRISES
Today I will be open todelightful surprises.
Today I will reclaim my joy in surprises. Life holds many delightful surprises in unexpected places and at unexpected times.
When I was growing up, surprises always seemed to bring pain and disappointment, not joy. I learned early to see life in muted colors; I didn’t expect much of anything. Each day was like the day before. The dull sameness felt safe.
Today I will let joyous surprises into my life and watch the face of my inner child shine. I will thrill to the fact that I do not know exactly what will happen to me today. I may have a quiet surprise. I may look down at a crack in the gray pavement and see a tiny flower growing there despite all odds. I may have a pleasant surprise. I may look up with a smile and have a stranger return my smile. I will surprise myself with my reclaimed ability to feel wonder.”

Excerpt From
Affirmations for the Inner Child
Rokelle Lerner

‎Health, Mind & Body · 2010

01/03/2025

“JANUARY 3—TERROR
My precious inner childis not afraid.
When I was a child, I was terrified of the dark. There were monsters under the bed and in the closet. Burglars might break in at any moment. Night sounds were a cause for alarm, shadows were menacing. So I learned to shut my eyes and go to sleep until morning, when the terror would be gone.
Now I know that dark holds no terror but my own fear. Tonight I will make friends with the darkness. I will listen for the night sounds and discover what they really are. That slowly opening door is a tree creaking. I hear the sound of people on night shifts driving their cars to work. I hear babies crying to be held.
As I listen with my new night ears and see with my new night vision, I discover that life continues in the dark as surely as it does in the light and that both together make one whole day.
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Excerpt From
Affirmations for the Inner Child

‎Health, Mind & Body · 2010

12/28/2024

“I AM RESPONSIBLE AND ADAPTABLE
I can recognize the limits and expectations in every situation. I know that in every circumstance there is certain behavior that is acceptable and behavior that is unacceptable. I take care of myself when I respond to limits in ways that are productive for me.
My urges to “act out” or behave shamelessly originated in my alcoholic home. It was there that I learned to confuse spontaneity with destructiveness. How many times was I embarrassed by inappropriate alcoholic behavior? It was difficult at best to find adult models who were responsible and consistent.
Today I practice the skills of healthy responsibility and adaptability. When I am in charge of my behavior, when I can adapt to “existing limits, I will be more effective in achieving my goals. I will not allow my defiance or fear to propel me into embarrassing situations. Being kind to myself means learning to recognize and respond to limits.
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Excerpt From
Daily Affirmations for Adult Children of Alcoholics
Rokelle Lerner

12/28/2024

“DECEMBER 28—MISTAKES
I embrace my humanness.
I can free myself from perfectionism and learn from my mistakes. My inner child is a fearless student and knows that mistakes are a necessary part of learning. Mistakes lead to knowledge and knowledge leads to success.
If I make a mistake and acknowledge it, I am on the way to achieving my goals.
While growing up, I feared mistakes and took inappropriate responsibility for what went wrong in my family. I limited both my risks and my opportunities to explore.
Today I will free the child within me to explore and take chances. I will transform my failures into successes and join the human race.
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Excerpt From
Affirmations for the Inner Child
Rokelle Lerner

‎Health, Mind & Body · 2010

11/23/2024

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11/07/2024

We will be victorious if we have not forgotten how to learn.

— Rosa Luxemburg

For most of us the struggle was long, painful, and lonely to the place where we are now. But survive we have, and survive we will. The times we thought we could go no further are only dimly recalled. The experiences we were certain would destroy us fit ever so neatly into our book of memories.

We have survived, and the program is offering us the means for continued survival. Step by Step we are learning to handle our problems, build relationships based on honesty, and choose responsible behavior. We are promised serenity if we follow the Steps.

Gratitude for our survival is best expressed by working the program, setting an example for others, helping those women who haven’t yet attained victory. We must give away what we have learned to make way for our own new growth. There are many victories in our future if we keep pressing forward, opening new doors, and trusting in the process of the program and its promises.

I am still willing to learn or I wouldn’t be here, now. There are victories in my future. I will look for a victory today. It’s certain to accompany responsible action on my part.

11/06/2024

The main thing in life is not to be afraid of being human.

— Pablo Casals

The “shoulds” of our lives can be found all around us. We should think before speaking. We should not cry. We should go to our meetings. These “shoulds” usually serve as good guides for us, but they can intrude on us. If we give them power, they only condemn us and give no useful help. At times we hide behind the “should” because we don’t have the courage to live with the insecurity of being human.

If someone at work gets an unfair shake, it takes courage to speak up and say what we think. We may have an impulse to reach out to a stranger, but it takes courage to do it. When an inner feeling emerges from our honesty, fear may prompt us to avoid it, and we need to call on our courage. That is how we fulfill the uniqueness of each of us.

I am alive as a man and a human being. I will not shy away from opportunities to express my humanity.

11/06/2024

Don’t try to comprehend with your mind. Your minds are very limited. Use your intuition.

— Madeleine L’Engle

Behaving the way we honestly and sincerely believe God wants us to behave eliminates our confusion. When we contribute in a loving manner to the circumstances involving us, we carry God’s message; and that’s all that’s expected of us in this life.

This recovery program has involved us in the affairs of many other people. We are needed to listen, to guide, to sponsor, to suggest. Each time we have an opportunity to make an impact on another person, it’s to our benefit, and hers too, to let God direct our conduct.

Too often God’s message is missed due to our selfish concerns, but it’s never too late to begin listening for it. God is forever at hand, awaiting our recognition. We can be mindful that the ease of our lives is directly proportional to the recognition we offer.

Right conduct is never a mystery to us. We may not always choose to do it, but we never fail to know what should be done.

I will trust my conscience to be my guide every moment.

11/03/2024

I, God, am your playmate! I will lead the child in you in wonderful ways for I have chosen you.

— Mechthild of Magdeburg

Our relationship with our Higher Power is not all solemnness. Facing the pains and guilts and griefs of our codependent relationships and our addictions might lead us to think recovery is only serious business. Not so!

This program liberates us from the heaviness by facing it. We are not meant to stay stuck there. Recovery teaches us to enjoy life. Our Creator has concocted a world of many pleasures and delights to play in. As we progress in our recovery, we learn to let our hair down and play. Some of us have become more able to enjoy good-natured rough-housing with our children. Maybe we have become freer to joke and banter with friends. Our spiritual lives grow with good-natured fun.

I am grateful for the child who still lives in me. He keeps alive my delight in the world.

10/31/2024

All Our Needs

And my God shall supply every need of yours according to His riches in glory. . . .

— PHIL. 4:19

This verse has helped me many times. It has helped me when I have wondered where my next friend, bit of wisdom, insight, or meal was coming from.

Everything I need today shall be supplied to me.

People, jobs, what we have at our immediate disposal, are not our source.

We have tapped into a Greater Source, a source of infinite and immediate supply: God and His Universe.

Our task is to allow ourselves to come into harmony with our Source. Our task is to believe in, and look to, our true Source. Our task is to release fear, negative thinking, limitations, and short-supply thinking.

Everything we need shall be provided to us. Let it become a natural response to all situations, and all situations of need.

Reject fear. Reject short-supply and limited thinking notions. Be open to abundance.

Cherish need because it is part of our relationship to God and His Universe. God has planned to meet our every need, has created the need within us, so God can supply.

No need is too small or too great. If we care and value our need, God will too.

Our part is taking responsibility for owning the need. Our part is giving the need to the Universe. Our part is letting go, in faith. Our part is giving God permission to meet our needs by believing we deserve to have our needs—and wants—met.

Our part is healthy giving, not out of caretaking, guilt, obligation, and codependency, but out of a healthy relationship with ourselves, God, and all of God’s creations.

Our part is simply to be who we are, and love being that.

Today, I will practice the belief that all my needs today shall be met. I will step into harmony with God and His Universe, knowing that I count.