Annaleise Affirms LLC- Certified Relationship Coach

06/27/2025

Just because they’re better than your ex doesn’t mean they’re good for you.

Some of y’all are in relationships that only feel healthy because your last one left you broken. Your ex had you walking on eggshells, crying yourself to sleep, and questioning your worth — so now the new one comes along, doesn’t cheat (yet), says good morning, maybe even posts you once… and suddenly they’re a prize?

No. You’re just relieved.
You’re mistaking “less pain” for real peace.

Let me say this loud:
A polished piece of s**t is still a piece of s**t.

Just because they’re not as loud with the disrespect doesn’t mean they’re not slowly draining you in other ways. Being better than the person who broke you is a low-ass bar. And if that’s all it takes for someone to feel like love, baby… you’re still healing.

Stop calling it alignment when it’s really just an upgrade from disaster.
Stop confusing comfort with connection.
Start asking: Do they actually pour into me — or do they just hurt me softer?

Because if the best thing you can say about them is “at least they’re not my ex,”
you’re not in love —
you’re in denial.

06/25/2025

You keep letting go of one toxic person just to replace them with another dressed in a different kind of chaos.

Different voice. Different face. Same emotional war.
Same manipulation, just smoother.
Same pain, just packaged better.

You don’t need a new distraction, you need healing.

Because if dysfunction feels like home, you’ll keep inviting it in and calling it love.

It’s not enough to just walk away from the toxic — you have to unlearn why you were drawn to it in the first place.
You have to stop confusing intensity with intimacy, and silence with peace.

Break the cycle.
Heal the parts of you that think love has to hurt to feel real.
You don’t need another lesson. You need restoration.

Stop repeating the same heartbreak with different names.

06/23/2025

Weekend Reflection: I Took a Step Back — and It All Became Clear.

This weekend gave me space to pause…
to breathe, to process, and to finally admit what I’ve been avoiding:

I know what’s for me and what’s not.
I know what feeds my spirit and what drains it.
I know who aligns with my peace and who disrupts it — even if I didn’t want to admit it before.

I’m no longer ignoring the signs.
No longer confusing comfort with purpose.
No longer pretending I don’t hear the voice inside me getting louder: “You were made for more.”

Growth isn’t always loud.
Sometimes it’s the quiet decision to stop showing up halfway for yourself.
To aim higher — not for perfection, but for peace.
To be better — not for applause, but for alignment.

And most of all…
to walk like you finally know:
I am exactly who I think I am.

06/19/2025

Nothing feels like a loss to me anymore. If it left, it wasn’t mine. If it hurt, it taught me. If it broke me, it built me better. I’ve learned that what I thought I wanted was often a distraction from what I truly needed. These days, I don’t mourn what walks away—I trust that it was either God’s protection or a divine redirection. Either way, I’m covered. Always have been. Always will be.

06/17/2025

Check out my interview! ❤️

Michelle Annalíese Coles, a renowned author and relationship expert, joins us to discuss the complexities and shifts in modern relationships.

06/12/2025

With Father’s Day approaching…

I just want to take a moment to say this:
Fathers matter. More than they’re often told. More than they’re often shown.

Too many times, their efforts are downplayed, their pain ignored, and their presence taken for granted. But with Father’s Day around the corner, let this be a reminder:

We see you. We need you. And you are appreciated.

To the dads who show up tired but still give their all…
To the ones breaking generational cycles in silence…
To the men raising children with integrity, strength, and love…

You are not invisible.
You are not replaceable.
You are not forgotten.

So whether you’re a biological father, a bonus dad, a stepdad, a grandfather, a mentor, or the man who stepped in when someone else stepped out—this message is for you.

Thank you for your consistency.
Thank you for your sacrifices.
Thank you for being the kind of man this world still needs.

Happy early Father’s Day. You’re more than worthy of being celebrated.

06/09/2025

Word of the Day: Comprehension

It’s easy to hear someone’s words.
It’s harder to listen.
But true growth begins when we seek to comprehend—not just what’s said, but what’s felt.

Comprehension isn’t just for books or classrooms. It’s in the silence between apologies, the unspoken pain behind someone’s smile, the depth behind a decision you don’t agree with. It’s the maturity to say, “I may not understand fully, but I’m open to trying.”

Today, I challenge myself to comprehend more deeply—people, situations, even my own heart.
Because without comprehension, we judge too quickly, love too shallowly, and grow too slowly.

06/06/2025

It’s Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month.

Too many men are taught to be strong but never soft.
To provide, protect, and perform—even when they’re barely holding it together.
To swallow pain in silence and call it power.
To break in private and still show up like nothing’s wrong.

This post is for the ones who never got asked, “How’s your heart?”
For the men who carry everything and still feel like it’s never enough.
For the fathers, sons, brothers, lovers, and friends who are hurting behind smiles and shutting down just to survive.

You deserve more than survival—you deserve peace.
You deserve safe love, not just respect when you perform.
Support that doesn’t wait for you to fall apart to finally show up.

I root for your healing.
I root for your softness.
I root for the version of you that’s finally free to feel.

Because your mental health matters—today, tomorrow, always.

06/06/2025

You Can’t Build Stability With Someone Who Turns Every Conversation Into a Crisis.

There are people who live in emotional extremes —
one moment, they need you desperately…
the next, they push you away like you’re the problem.

You speak with care, and they hear criticism.
You set a limit, and they feel betrayed.
You stay calm, and they spiral harder — because your balance threatens their dysfunction.

That’s not a connection. That’s an emotional landmine.
And no matter how careful you are, eventually… it explodes.

Truth is…
You can’t save someone who refuses to self-regulate.
You can’t heal through relationships that run on confusion, volatility, and guilt.

Being “there for them” should never cost you your mental or emotional safety.

Stop absorbing their instability like it’s your responsibility to carry.
You deserve steady. You deserve clarity. You deserve to feel safe — not constantly on edge.

It’s okay to love people and still outgrow the environments they create.

Self-preservation is not abandonment. It’s self-respect.

06/05/2025

Stop Measuring Relationships by History — Measure Them by Energy.

Just because they’ve known you the longest doesn’t mean they love you the best.
Just because they’re blood doesn’t mean they respect your boundaries.
And just because you once needed them… doesn’t mean you still do.

Growth forces you to re-evaluate the roles people play in your life —
not from a place of bitterness, but from a place of clarity.

Ask yourself:
• Does this person truly see me?
• Do they add peace or pull energy?
• Are we growing together or just attached through habit?

Every relationship isn’t meant to last forever —
some were only meant to teach you how to choose yourself without guilt.

You can love people and still choose distance.
You can forgive people and still protect your peace.
You can honor the past and still release the connection.

This season is about alignment — not obligation.

Let energy be louder than loyalty.

06/04/2025

Every Relationship Is a Mirror — Some Reflect Love, Others Reflect What You Still Need to Heal.

Not every wound came from a partner.
Some came from family who only loved you when you were convenient.
From friends who clapped when you were broken but disappeared when you got whole.
From people who only reached out when they needed something — never when you did.

But here’s the part we don’t always talk about:
Sometimes it’s not them anymore.
Sometimes, it’s you choosing to stay connected to what you’ve already outgrown.
Tolerating the bare minimum because it’s familiar.
Calling it loyalty when it’s really self-abandonment.

Not every relationship deserves a front-row seat in your life just because it’s been there the longest.

Start asking yourself:
“Does this connection honor my growth… or pull me back into survival mode?”

You’re allowed to walk away without guilt.
You’re allowed to choose peace over proximity.
You’re allowed to outgrow people — and still love them from a distance.

Every version of you deserves better — even the one still learning how to let go.

06/03/2025

Some Of the Pain You’re Carrying Isn’t from What Happened — It’s from What You Keep Repeating.

Yes, they hurt you.
Yes, life threw you curveballs.
Yes, you deserved better.

But at some point… it’s not just about what they did.
It’s about what you keep choosing.
What you keep allowing.
What you keep explaining away even though your spirit knows better.

Accountability isn’t shame — it’s liberation.
It’s the moment you stop romanticizing your own survival patterns.
The moment you admit that healing isn’t about being right — it’s about being free.

So if your peace feels distant…
If your energy is off…
If you’re repeating a season you swore you graduated from…

Ask yourself this, without judgment:
“What part of me is still afraid to let go of what I prayed to outgrow?”

You’re not stuck. You’re just still deciding.