Annaleise Affirms LLC- Certified Relationship Coach

10/18/2025

Someone can go from being the place you run to, to the place you guard yourself from. A safe space ends when their actions shift. It shows in the way they dismiss what matters to you, in the moments they fail to show up, in the care they no longer give.

Safe space is not about easy days or light conversations. It is proven in how someone handles you when life is heavy. When their choices bring pressure instead of peace, when their presence feels like weight instead of comfort, that space is no longer safe.

A safe space is only real when actions protect it. Once their actions tear it down, it is no longer a safe space, it is just another place you outgrew. -Míchelle Annalèise Coles

10/18/2025

Life will take you through different levels and each new level requires a new version of you. Growth is not easy and it is not gentle. Along the way you will notice some people start to fall off. Sometimes it is not because you did anything wrong but because your elevation makes them uncomfortable.

The journey has a way of showing you people’s true intentions. Who claps for you when no one is watching. Who suddenly goes quiet when you win. Who is present only when you are struggling but disappears when you find your footing.

As you rise, understand that every step forward will cost you something. It might cost you friendships. It might cost you relationships. It might even cost you parts of yourself that you thought you could never let go of. But it also gifts you clarity. It gives you peace. It teaches you who is meant to walk with you and who was only meant to stand at the starting line.

Your journey is proof that growth is not just about reaching higher ground. It is about seeing more clearly who is truly aligned with your path. Some people are seasonal, some are lessons, and a rare few are lifelong. The ones who are still standing with you after everything are the ones who are meant to go the distance. - Míchelle Annalèise Coles

10/16/2025

As a woman I know I cannot teach my boys how to be men. That path belongs to their father. But what I can do is shape their hearts. I can raise them to be decent human beings. I can show them how to be responsible, how to carry themselves with integrity, how to treat people with compassion and respect.

I thank God they have a father who shows them what manhood looks like. He teaches them the strength, discipline, and courage I cannot give them.

And the same goes for men with daughters. A man cannot teach a girl how to be a woman but he can teach her what love from a man should feel like. He can set the standard for how she deserves to be treated, so when the world tries to hand her less, she knows better.

That is the truth of parenting. We give our children what we can, and we lean on each other for what we cannot. Together we raise not just sons and daughters, but people who are whole, people who know who they are, and people who will carry that truth into the next generation. - Míchelle Annalèise Coles

10/14/2025

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I wrote this book with women in mind but men can read it and relate to much of what is inside. It speaks to anyone who has ever battled doubt, silence, or the weight of not feeling enough.

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✔️ Setting boundaries that protect your peace
✔️ Embracing flaws and rewriting your story
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08/22/2025

Life has a way of teaching us in different forms. Sometimes it’s through heartbreak and disappointment, other times it’s in quiet victories and small moments of clarity. What I’ve come to realize is the real growth doesn’t come from what happens to us, but how we rise from it.

Growth isn’t always loud or noticeable. It can simply be walking away without anger, forgiving without needing an apology, or finally learning to love yourself even when others don’t see your worth.

Every challenge shapes us. Every stumble uncovers strength we didn’t know we had. Every season molds us into someone wiser, stronger, and more grounded.

Life doesn’t always get easier, but we get stronger. Collect the lessons, protect your peace, and keep growing because that’s something nobody can take away from you.

08/22/2025

Yeah, they hurt you. But getting them back? That takes too much out of you. Revenge requires you to stay connected to the pain, to hold on to the same people who already showed you they don’t deserve space in your life. Why keep feeding that cycle when your energy is worth so much more?

Truth is, you could spend days replaying what they did, dragging your spirit through the mud, trying to prove a point they’ll never truly get. Or—you can redirect all that fire into the people who are still standing with you. The ones who value you, who see your worth, who don’t make you question yourself.

When you shift your focus from the negative to the ones who genuinely show up, your peace grows. Your spirit feels lighter. You realize that nothing they did has the power to define you—because you’re still here, still standing, still loved.

At the end of the day, peace feels better than payback. Healing hits harder than revenge ever could. And when you stop chasing closure in broken places, you find freedom.

Healing is the loudest clapback you’ll ever give. ✨

08/15/2025

When you treat people right, good things have a way of coming back to you. But you can’t be out here disrespecting people and then wonder why life keeps knocking you down. You get back the energy you put out—every time. Stay blessed. ✨

07/25/2025

Happy Friday! 💫

We should be so busy building, healing, growing, and glowing that negative people can’t even catch up with us. Let them choke on your peace. Let them miss you while you’re becoming everything they said you couldn’t be.

Live your life with intention.
Love with no regrets.
And stay focused on the main character in your story — you.
Because you don’t owe anyone your energy, only yourself your evolution.

07/21/2025

Everyone wants to roll their eyes when they hear the word narcissist—until they’ve actually survived one.

This piece isn’t about pointing fingers. It’s about the ones who stayed too long because chaos felt familiar. It’s about the guilt, the mind games, the silent treatments, and the soul-ties we struggle to break. And most of all—it’s about healing.

If you've ever questioned your reality while trying to love someone toxic, this one’s for you.

📖 Read it. Share it. Sit with it.

Everyone cringes when they hear the word narcissist these days. It's been tossed around so much online that some think it’s just another buzzword, a catchall insult used to describe a bad breakup or a toxic ex. But here’...

07/19/2025

Let’s be real…

Love isn’t just about affection. It’s about accountability. If I love you, I’m not letting you stay where you are if I know you’re capable of more. Love should stretch you, challenge you, and push you toward your purpose.

Love should clap for you when nobody’s watching. It’s the quiet support, the “I see you” when you think no one does. It’s showing up for your small wins just as hard as the big ones.

Love should be a lesson and a mirror. It’s not just about receiving—it’s about teaching each other how to be loved the right way. Because truth is, most of us were never taught. So love says, “This is how I need to be held, seen, and heard,” and the right person listens.

Love should feel like partnership, not pedestal or power struggle. I’m not here to be beneath you, and I’m not trying to be above you. I’m beside you. Equal. Rooting for you.

And real love? Real love allows someone to lead—but also reminds them to stand on their own two feet. Not because you need someone to carry you, but because you’ve got someone who believes in your ability to walk with purpose.

That’s what love should feel like. Not easy. Not perfect. But honest, intentional, and built for growth.

If it doesn’t look like that, it’s not love—it’s a lesson.

07/19/2025

Let me say this for the ones still holding on to potential:

Love should never feel like a battlefield where you’re constantly fighting to be seen, protected, or prioritized.

If someone can’t show up for you when it matters—not just when it’s easy—believe them.
If you have to explain the basics of emotional safety, consistency, or respect… they’re not your person.

You can’t build a future with someone who keeps showing you they’re unstable in the present.
You can’t grow love where protection is absent and silence is used as punishment.

And no—you’re not asking for too much.
You’re just finally realizing that your peace is the bare minimum.

So stop waiting for closure.
Stop waiting for them to “get it.”
Sometimes the deepest healing starts when you finally choose yourself and never look back.

You weren’t hard to love.
They just weren’t ready to love deeply.
And that’s not your fault.

Let go… not because they didn’t mean anything,
but because you finally mean everything to yourself. 🖤

07/19/2025

Some days you won’t feel like you’re making progress. Some days will feel like a mess. But the truth is, the only person you need to outdo is the version of you from yesterday. That’s it. Not them. Not her. Not him. Just you. Keep showing up. Keep choosing growth. Even if it’s one small step, that step counts. Be proud of that.💯