My Child In Heaven

02/15/2025

Every parent of child loss worries that their child will become a fading memory. Please let parents know you remember. Share a story. Share a picture. Say the child’s name. Let parents know you remember.

02/13/2025

Some days the pain feels like it’s more than I can handle. I just want to run away to a safe place where life feels whole and good again. But grief is my constant companion and is now part of who I am.

02/11/2025

I felt it. I felt the pain of my heart breaking the moment I heard those words, “I’m sorry. I’m so very sorry.” And I knew life was forever changed.

02/09/2025

It was heartbreaking to me to see how quickly life carried on for others after the death of my child. My world came crashing apart, and in my mind I thought that others would feel a big part of this pain, too. But, that's not the case. Shortly after the funeral life went on for them without skipping a beat. That part of this grief will always hurt.

02/07/2025

As we enter the season of holidays, the grief we feel because of child loss escalates. The holidays used to be such a time of joy. Since the loss of a child, everything has changed so much. The empty ache for the one who is missing hurts clear to the core of a parent's soul.

02/05/2025

Every parent has so many hopes and dreams for their child. When child loss occurs it’s as though a giant eraser came along and wiped everything away. It isn’t supposed to be this way. Every parent is supposed to live those dreams with their child.

02/03/2025

Sometimes we just need two listening ears and a hug. No elaborate words. No cliches about how things will get better in time. Just someone to listen to our story and “be there”. Simply being there means so much.

02/01/2025

When a child dies there is a roller coaster ride of emotions. Sad. Angry. Disappointed. Depressed. Questioning. Lonely. Fearful. Mistrusting. And more. Child loss affects every fiber within and turns life inside out and upside down. A parent is not supposed to outlive their child.

01/30/2025

When a child leaves this earth there is a hole left in the heart of a parent. That empty feeling can’t be explained with words. It’s a space that is void, yet it hurts deeply and continuously. It’s an empty echo in a space that can only be filled by the child who is no longer here.

01/28/2025

People try to "fix us" -- to "fix our grief" -- because they don't like seeing us in pain. The truth is that this kind of grief - the grief from child loss -- can never be fixed. This is a brokenness that will be with us forever.

01/26/2025

As parents of child loss, there are definitely times when we can feel our child’s presence. But, we will forever long to “see our child, hug our child, hear our child talk”. We will miss the very presence of our child all the days of our life.

01/24/2025

One day, one hour, one step, one breath. That's the only way a parent can travel through this journey of loss. There is no "end point" when it can be said, "I've reached the finish line. The grief is over." This is a grief that lasts a lifetime.

01/22/2025

Does the grief of losing a child really get better? I’m not sure “better” is the word to use. The grief grows less raw over time, but “better”? No. Not better. We miss our child with every breath we take and that part never gets better.

01/20/2025

We cry millions of tears, and millions more following the loss of a child. If only our tears could somehow bring our child back!

01/18/2025

We’re told that in time grief changes and becomes less raw. That’s true. We also know that the grief of child loss is always present. That’s a grief that never leaves. It’s like living under a rain cloud even on the sunniest of days.

02/02/2024