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The Bad Indian Therapist Like the Desi Aunty you can come to for anything! Let’s be “bad” together.

12/19/2024

Think about it: you already have a boundary with your parents and you don’t even know it. Some boundaries are inconsequential.

There’s a difference between living a double life and honoring the natural boundary that develops between you and your parents.

Living a double life means you’re lying or hiding a huge part of your life that, ideally, your parents should know about.

AND as you get older, you won’t tell your parents everything you used to tell them because that’s part of growing up.

The lines between both can be blurred in Indian and South Asian families. But that doesn’t mean it’s “bad” or “good”. It just is.

There are different parts of YOU that show up at work, at school, with friends, with romantic partners, and with your family. These worlds don’t always collide.

Just because your parents aren’t seeing another part of your world doesn’t mean you’re intentionally hiding something important from them. Sometimes boundaries occur naturally.

Keep it simple! Boundaries don’t have to be a big deal.

➡️ Do you know someone who overthinks their boundaries? Send this to a friend who could use my help.

👩🏽‍💻 Resist the guilt-trip and enroll in my toxic guilt course today. DM or Comment “READY” to get started. 💌

12/17/2024

You guilt-trip yourself when you use “But my parents/culture?!?” as a cop-out.

Resist the guilt-trip! DM me READY and I’ll guide you through next steps 💫

I get it—some of you come from very conservative and religious households, but I’m not talking about you.

I’m talking about those of you who use, “But my parents/culture?!?” to avoid confronting harsh truths about YOURSELF.

It’s so easy to hide behind those familiar stories—because they feel safer, more acceptable. But Indians and South Asians are NOT a monolith!

Just because it doesn’t work for other Indian people doesn’t mean it can’t work for you. Your context is DIFFERENT, and not everything can be boiled down to, “It’s just cultural”.

✨You’re not a “Bad Indian” for stepping into your agency✨

Stop guilt-tripping yourself! 👩🏽‍💻 Join my Toxic Guilt course and start embracing your boundaries, trusting your intuition, and redefining what it means to be YOU in a collectivist culture.

💌 Send me a DM with the word “READY” and I’ll send you a link to my course to get started.

12/05/2024

Can I let you in on a little secret?

I used to struggle with this too. I still do.

Becoming a therapist meant having to prove to my parents that this career choice was “worth it”. I had to hustle to prove my worth.

It took me a while to realize that I don’t need to be The Most Liked Therapist or The Best Therapist to be good at my job.

What I’m doing is enough. More than enough. Plenty even.

And I’m willing to bet I’m not the only South Asian American, therapist or otherwise, who struggles with this too. It’s ingrained in us.

It’s hard to let go of trying to be the BEST, because you were taught from a young age to chase opportunities, and to “just be grateful” you have them.

But maybe letting go is the key to gratitude and healing. You don’t NEED to be exceptional to be enough.

Ready to finally let go?

🛋️ I’m accepting new clients (in NY, CA, and FL too)! Hit the link in my bio to schedule a call. Let’s chat ☎️

🤫 P.S. Is guilt driving your pressure to be successful? I have a course on Toxic Guilt for South Asian Americans. DM me READY and I’ll send it your way 💌

11/29/2024

The weight that you’re feeling this holiday season doesn’t have to be your burden to carry.

I know deep down you’re a caring person. And I’m telling you this because you need to hear it:

Your care has to come with discernment.

I know this is easier said than done, and I really want you to take advantage of my skillset.

🌟That’s why I’m giving you 20% OFF my course this holiday season from now until Cyber Monday.

Together we’ll:

* Prioritizing yourself without feeling selfish
* Set healthy boundaries and say "no" with confidence
* Resist guilt-tripping and reclaim your narrative
* Live authentically and embrace your true self

My toxic guilt course will help you achieve this with workbooks, mindfulness techniques, video lessons, and more!

If you’ve been wanting to book this course, now’s your chance to get it at a deal!

💌 DM or Comment READY to unpack the BS together.

11/27/2024

In the next month you’re going to see a lot of “Brown Girl” advice about boundaries, including from me.

I admit—I’m adding to the noise.

And if you’re overwhelmed, I get it. What is there to believe?

If you need to tune and mute Boundaries content on social media, do it.

What “Brown Girl” content won’t tell you about boundaries:

1. Your boundaries are a reflection of your capacity
2. Your boundaries are a reflection of your self-awareness
3. Your boundaries are not contingent on whether or not people around you understand them
4. There is no “good” or “bad” boundary.
5. There are many valid ways to communicate them.

The only “bad” boundary is the one that does not work for you, your situation, and your specific context.

When you’re raised in a rigid culture, you were likely raised in the context of a moral hierarchy: there’s “good”, and then there’s “bad”.

There’s no room for nuance. Which is why so many of us think that communicating boundaries is the same thing as having them. A lot of us don’t know how to be ourselves.

☯️ The dichotomy of “good” and “bad” is what’s fu***ng all of us up.

I promise it does not have to be this difficult. The only difficult thing is the commitment to yourself.

🤬Sick of the madness? Let’s unpack it together.

💌 Shoot me a DM with the word “READY” and I’ll help you get started.

11/20/2024

The weight of that guilt DOES NOT belong to you!

If you come from a tight-knit, community-oriented culture, you might think you need to please others and feel the overwhelming sense of guilt that can follow.

In my course, "Detoxify Your Guilt," we'll unpack this BS together.

You'll learn how to break free from toxic guilt, set healthy boundaries that belong to YOU, and prioritize your own needs.

The best part? You'll get BONUS LESSONS packed with additional insights and exercises:

🎉Communicating with Empathy
🎉Forced Forgiveness and Toxic Guilt

🙌🏼 Ready to break free from what doesn’t belong to you?

💬Comment or DM "READY" to enroll in the course. Let's “detox” together 💌

11/20/2024

***TODAY****

Not looking forward to family gatherings post-election? 😫

This season doesn’t have to be filled with stress and resentment 💔

Imagine a holiday season where you feel responsible and in control of YOURSELF, where you can enjoy quality time with loved ones without feeling drained.

That’s the power of setting boundaries. They’re not for other people. They belong to YOU!

JOIN my webinar and learn how to:
* Set healthy boundaries for you
* Communicate your needs effectively and
* Break free from toxic narratives

🤫 PLUS an exclusive offer just for you!

My spots are limited! DM or comment “JOIN” to secure yours 💌

11/14/2024

Ever felt drained after family gatherings? 😫

Or maybe you’ve agreed to expectations you didn’t really want to meet?

It’s time to take back your peace.

Join my webinar and learn how to:
* Set boundaries authentic to you
* Communicate without feeling guilty
* Break free from unhealthy dynamics

Let’s make this holiday a peaceful one!

💬 Ready to break free? DM or comment “JOIN” to secure your spot.

11/11/2024

I’m confused as to what went wrong here. In my opinion, the content of her message wasn’t relevant to the matter at hand. When I pointed out her colorblind racism disguised as “it’s just cultural”, she changed tunes and argued that it wasn’t her point. She’s commented on my posts before, lamenting that I don’t make posts specific to *her* experience. I’ve also seen her comment on any post that’s the slightest bit critical of cultural norms in our diaspora. So I feel the need to clear things up:

1. Just because I’m a South Asian therapist does not mean I’m for all South Asians. Just because I’m an Indian American therapist does not mean I’m for all Indian Americans. There’s a reason why I have 13k followers and not 200k. I’m not for everyone, and neither are you.
2. If this upsets you, I’m not the therapist for you. You’re not my client, nor are you the kind of client I would want to work with. I am not obligated to be like all the other Brown Girl Therapists in any way shape or form.
3. Following me does not make you my client. Frankly, if you’re not paying me for sessions in real life, I owe you nothing. My page is not your dumping ground for your emotions. I’m kind, but I’m not nice—I’m liberal with the block button. No apologies.
4. Not everything has to be specific to your experience for it to be true. This is called “What About Me?” Mentality and I’ve attached some videos about the TikTok Bean Soup trend to help provide context as to why this is fu**ed up.

If you’re looking for a therapist who’s only going to say positive things about our diaspora, you’ve come to the wrong place. I put this information out here not because I hate my culture, but because I want to educate us. You can choose to take in this information, but I cannot make you. You cannot make me do anything I don’t want to do either. That’s life.

11/10/2024

An Indian woman: “Black women are always centering themselves 🙄”.

As they should. Isn’t it sad they’re willing to do what you’re too afraid to do? 🍵

While you’re at it, maybe you should retake the Sociology and African American Studies courses you claimed were “Easy A” courses during your pre-med track in college.

The BEST way to heal from your people-pleasing anxiety, your perfectionism anxiety, your toxic guilt and toxic shame is to unlearn anti-Blackness that permeates our culture. Therapy can help, but if it doesn’t include this aspect, you might never find the peace you’re searching for.

Shadow work is such an important part of therapy. We’re all trying to escape what we believe are the worst parts of ourselves rather than befriending our shadows. Ask yourself: who does this person look like?

The need to constantly prove your inherent “goodness” is keeping you stuck in the “What Will People Think/Say?” Mentality. Are you practicing the values you claim to have, or do you just want to FEEL right?

This is what it means to be disembodied. This chase is keeping you disconnected from your body and your spirit. Learn to let go of proving your goodness and accept that you will always be “bad” to someone. Don’t let that be an excuse to punch down on others.

🫶🏼 Did this resonate? TAG an Indian American who needs to hear this today 🏷️

11/06/2024

See you all soon.

09/30/2024

Stop thinking you’re a bad person for setting boundaries! It’s okay to say no and prioritize your needs.

When you start believing in yourself and your autonomy, you’ll find it easier to communicate your needs effectively. This confidence can help you overcome the fear of being blamed or scapegoated.

Empathy is key. Communicate your limits with understanding and compassion. Not everyone will react perfectly, but that doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong. Their reactions might reflect their own issues. By approaching the situation with empathy, you can avoid unnecessary conflict and build stronger relationships.

Self-care is non-negotiable. You deserve to be heard and respected and Setting boundaries is not selfish.

🫵🏽 Ready for your guilt detox? Join my course, Detoxify Your Guilt, and learn how to unpack your toxic guilt, align your actions with your values, and set better boundaries.

Comment READY and let’s get you started on your journey to better boundaries 😊

09/29/2024

We would like to welcome Nadia Aziz, MA, LPC to our Collective Grieving Healing Circle, taking place on the last Monday of every month (with the exception of December).

Join me and my colleague Padmini Singh Jagpal, and Nadia Aziz to process the heaviness of the world

And turn our collective grief into action!

When: Monday, 09/30/2024 from 7:00-8:30 pm EST
Where: Zoom
🎟️: FREE
🔗: Register in bio!

Visit my link in bio to register today and SHARE with someone who is struggling!

09/26/2024

We’ve all been there - feeling overwhelmed, overextended, and unsure how to say “no.” Boundaries can sometimes feel like walking on eggshells, fearing rejection or guilt. But it’s essential for maintaining your mental health and fostering healthy relationships.

As a therapist, I’ve seen firsthand how effective communication and self-care can your boundaries mindset without feeling guilty unhelpful guilt.

Swipe for how to communicate with empathy (no more guilt trips!), even when you feel the pressure to say yes. ➡️

✍️ Take a pause (because impulse reactions rarely end well!)
✍️ Communicate what you’re going to do (without becoming a doormat)
✍️ Honor the emotion behind the other person’s request (so they feel heard!)

Bonus: You don’t have to be perfect at boundaries! Let’s ditch the guilt and start taking care of ourselves.

P.S. Still struggling? I’m a therapist in California taking new clients! Link in bio for a free consult. (And yes, I also have an online course for guilt)

09/24/2024

Shoutout to all the solo therapists out there, holding down the fort day in and day out.

I know firsthand the challenges of running a private practice without the support of other resources. It’s a balancing act between providing quality care, managing the business side of things, and maintaining your own well-being.

But you’re doing it, and you’re doing it well. I’m rooting for you!

Running a business as a self-employed person is not easy. Whether you’re a therapist, a business owner, or a freelancer, it’s important to remember that you feel this stressed for a reason. It’s not uncommon to have a hard time focusing and staying on top of things.

This is especially the case for South Asian American business owners who don’t fit the stereotypical mold.

Tired of the ‘Model Minority’ stereotype? Same. Not all South Asians come from humble beginnings, but those who do tend to be represented more, and then get to speak for all of us. But what about the other 10%? What about South Asian Americans who aren’t Indian?

If you’re a South Asian woman business owner, you don’t have to be like the other Brown girl bosses to be successful! We’re a vibrant community with a rich history and a wide range of backgrounds. Let’s embrace what makes us unique and tell our own stories.

You’re more than just a business owner. Keep going!

If this resonated with you, follow me at The Bad Indian Therapist today!

09/01/2024

Do you get “analysis-paralysis”?

If you don’t like second guessing yourself for making choices that are good for you, then your guilt needs a little “detox.”

Guilt is the belief or acknowledgement that you’re doing something wrong, or that you’re not following through on an obligation or duty. Sometimes we feel this way when our decisions are not aligned with others’ values or opinions. Sometimes this can feel forced.

It actually IS important to take others’ opinions into consideration, but you get to decide who, what, and HOW MUCH!

Second-guessing ourselves can be an important part of learning how to make decisions, but when it overflows into every area of your life and all your decisions, the core of it may be toxic or unhealthy guilt, or an unrealistic sense of obligation to others.

Not every decision you make has to be under a microscope. You can learn how to make decisions just for you without guilt ruining your life!

Remember, there’s no one “perfect” choice. Just the decision that is best for you and your circumstance.

Do you struggle with believing that everyone is watching you to make the “wrong” move?

👩🏽‍💻Enroll in my self-paced study course, Detoxify Your Guilt to find the balance between trusting yourself and including opinions that are important to you.

➡️ And SHARE with someone who struggles with self-doubt.

08/30/2024

Caption: When we act from a place of unhealthy or toxic guilt, we can get caught in the thinking trap that nothing we do will be enough.

Sometimes, guilt-tripping can be unintentional and can come from many different places, within the family structure or even generationally. This doesn’t make the behavior okay, but it does explain why it may be happening.

Whether guilt-tripping is done intentionally or unintentionally, it can activate our people-pleasing tendencies. We may have the impulse to make the feeling of guilt “go away” because it feels so intolerable. Who wants to feel like a sh*tty person because they couldn’t meet someone else’s needs?

When we make decisions from a place of trying to get our guilt to go away by taking care of others’ emotions and please them, everyone ends up losing. You’re not showing up as your best self; you’re showing up as your exhausted and resentful self.

So how do we learn to identify when we are being guilt-tripped? How do we learn to make peace with it rather than suppressing it?

🌟 Guilt isn’t going to go away but there is a way to navigate through your relationship with guilt and understand that it does not need to control your life or your decisions.

👩🏽‍💻This is why I created “Detoxify Your Guilt”, my online self-study course for South Asian Americans who struggle with decision-making, boundaries, and feeling overwhelmed with obligation.

👉🏽Learn how to identify what you’re feeling, move through it, and not drown in the toxic guilt that comes with always trying to please others.

🔗Learn more at my link in bio and enroll now!

08/29/2024

With the ever-growing presence of pop-psychology (which has it’s pros and cons), the word “toxic” gets thrown around a lot.

I often see it used as an insult or a way to put someone down, but this needs to be more nuanced and contextualized. What exactly do we mean when we say that something is “toxic”? Can we be specific here?

Toxic is something that shows up when we put too much weight or too much value on certain things in life, and that includes how we act, respond to, or utilize our emotions.

💗Emotions are value-neutral. They’re not good. They’re not bad. They just are.

Attaching morals to our emotions can be rooted in yt supremacy culture. We think our emotions say something about how inferior or superior we are. But we can feel what we feel without allowing it to control our decisions.

When things like guilt, positivity, shame, gratitude, and individualism start to take over and control the decisions we make, that is when they can become toxic.

We can all have toxic qualities and we can all have our own experience with navigating through understanding and feeling our emotions. It doesn’t say anything negative or positive about you.

🌟 This is why I created “Detoxify Your Guilt.” A step-by-step course with tangible activities to help you understand your relationship to guilt and how it may be controlling more of your life than you realize.

👩🏽‍💻 Ready to start your guilt detox? Let’s unpack it together. Enroll now and learn more at my link in bio.

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Join me for my ✨ FREE WEBINAR ✨ Boundaries for the Holidays: for Indian Americans Who Don’t Have a Choice Wednesday, 11/20/2024 at 2:00 pm EST 🔗 Can’t make it? You’ll get a recording. 💬 Comment JOIN to register Unpopular opinion: following through on your own boundaries isn’t contingent on whether or not everyone understands it. That’s because boundaries are rules for YOURSELF. This is easier said than done. Social media won’t go into the nuances of boundary setting! 👉🏽 Are you overthinking your boundaries? 💬 Comment JOIN and I’ll see you on 11/20! #boundarysetting #boundaryenforcing #boundaries #southasianmentalhealth #southasianinstagram #indianinstagram #indianmentalhealth #southasiantherapist #southasiantherapists #perfectionism #perfectionistanxiety #perfectionismanxiety #peoplepleasinganxiety #peoplepleasing #peoplepleasingrecovery #holidays2024 #diwali2024

As a therapist who works with Indian and South Asian American clients, assertiveness training is almost always a part of our work together. It’s important we find ways to stand up for ourselves and challenge racist tropes BOTH within and outside of our communities. These skills need to be BOTH culturally sensitive AND acknowledge systemic barriers. The truth: Many of us do NOT benefit from Model Minority Myth and don’t have the wealth or financial resources to call out red flags 🚩 And Indian people with upper caste privilege will abandon our most vulnerable and side with aggressors who have power and privilege. Calling out racist treatment can often come with a lack of support from OUR OWN. Consequences can look like Loss of employment Blame and shame from caretaker figures, Judgement from the community at large, Loss of immigrant and visa status, Homelessness and deportation, Loss of independent decision-making, and Loss of FREEDOM But you are not helpless. You are MARGINALIZED. That means there are margins placed on your agency, but that doesn’t mean you’re without agency. Small ways to assert yourself when you believe you’re being disrespected or taken advantage of include: 💬 “I didn’t say that…” 💬 “I stated…” 💬 “I don’t appreciate…” 💬 “I disagree…” Asserting yourself means that there will be people, both Indian and non-Indian, who will make you feel like the bad guy, as if you did something wrong. This is TOXIC GUILT. My course is the best way to unlearn toxic guilt before learning how to assert yourself. You have to unlearn before you learn.  And just like the conditioning of model minority myth, it has to start at home. It has to start WITHIN. 👉🏽Do you struggle with feeling like a Bad Indian when you stand up for yourself? 👩🏽‍💻 Enroll in your guilt detox today. ➡️ And follow me at The Bad Indian Therapist for more. #ushavance #jdvance #modelminority #mod

Want to be better at unlearning unhealthy guilt? Try listening to what it’s telling you about YOUR values. Not your community’s values. Not other people’s values. Not what other people think you should be doing. YOUR values. There might be some overlap between your values and others’ values, but that Venn Diagram should not be a circle. Feelings are data points. Your guilt is trying to tell you something about your sense of integrity. But that doesn’t mean the guilty voice inside your head is always right. Guilt is NOT a bad emotion. There is such a thing as healthy guilt: when you’re not acting in accordance with YOUR values.   South Asian therapy seekers are not alone in feeling unhealthy guilt. South Asian therapist struggle with acting on unhealthy guilt too, and this affects our clinical skills! Let’s unlearn toxic guilt together: 👩🏽‍💻 REGISTER for my free webinar on Toxic Guilt on Thursday, 06/13 at 3:00 pm EST to learn more about overcoming toxic guilt and an exclusive new offer from me 🤗 🛋️ And if you’re a therapist relearning your values as a mental health professional, join my June Cohort of Group EMPOWERMENT: Group Supervision for South Asian Therapists at my Link in Bio today! #toxicguilt #toxicshame #perfectionismanxiety #perfectindiangirl #perfectindianboy #southasiantherapists #desitherapist #indiantherapist #pakistanitherapist #browntherapist #browngirltherapist #perfectionism #perfectionistrecovery #southasianmentalhealth #southasiantherapist #scarcitymindset #abundancemindset

🙅🏽‍♀️ Why I Never Label Perfect Indian Girls as “resistant” ⬇️ They’ve been taught that perfectionism is the key 🔑 to being: 💅🏼 A “good girl” 💅🏼“Cultural” 💅🏼 “Community-oriented” 💅🏼 Grateful for access to opportunities 💅🏼 Attractive  In rigid, conservative cultures, it’s not uncommon to have rigid beliefs of what it means to belong, to be a “good” or a “bad” South Asian. 🥇When this moral hierarchy exists, being “good” often means being “perfect” or “pure” of any flaw. 🏆 Women are often seen as the symbols of a culture and perform culture through gendered tasks and rituals. They are also expected to be “community-oriented”. This leads to a ton of emotional perfectionism, aka emotional suppression and avoidance, toxic guilt, shame, positivity, productivity, and gratitude. ❌ This is NOT to say this never affects men or gender non-conforming people. It affects them too, but it manifests differently. ➡️ If you’re a South Asian therapist working with clients with perfectionism anxiety, it’s important to understand context and history before you start giving tools to cope. Slowing your clients down is difficult! It’s time for culturally competent supervision and community support! 🛋️ Join Group EMPOWERMENT: Clinical Supervision with South Asian Therapists TODAY!   💬 Comment “EMPOWERED” and I’ll DM you a link to get started! #southasiantherapist #southasianmentalhealth #indianmentalhealth #desimentalhealth #desitherapist #pakistanitherapist #browntherapist #browngirltherapist #clinicalsupervision #clinicalsupervisor #communitycare #communitysupport #communityovereverything #communityovercompetition #perfectionismanxiety #impostersyndrome #goodgirlconditioning #goodindiandaughter #perfectindiangirl #goodindiangirl #perfectionismrecovery #perfectionistanxiety #perfectionist #eldestdaughtersyndrome

Are you a South Asian Misfit in an interracial relationship? ⬇️ What they don’t tell you about Dating While Desi: the stress of interracial dating and relationships. That “cultured” South Asian person you know who judges you for your relationship is probably a bigger hypocrite than they let on. The truth is that we are ALL guilty of buying into racist stereotypes when we date because it boils down to VALUE. Because of value, you and your partner will make a lot of assumptions about each other and that means you’ll have to EDUCATE them. 💡 A tip from a therapist: it’s more about WHY you have a preference, or WHY you’re with someone, than WHO you’re with. Sometimes we’re with someone because we like the “idea” of them, and completely ignore who they actually are. ⬆️ Maybe your partner does this with you, too. The truth is that every relationship you have requires a little bit of education, regardless of who that person is. Some things can be taught, some things can’t. You cannot teach basic human decency. Is the stress of educating your partner WORTH IT to you? Are they willing to learn? Do you find yourself in the teacher role? 💬 TELL ME some racist things you’ve heard while dating ⬇️ 🛜 Join my MISFIT CHAAT HOUSE Facebook group ➡️ And Follow Me at The Bad Indian Therapist today #southasianinstagram #indianinstagram #southasianmentalhealth #indianmentalhealth #southasiandating #southasianmarriage #interracialdating #internalizedracism #interracialmarriage #indianmatchmaking #toxicguilt #toxicshame #interracialrelationships #southasiantherapist #indiantherapist #pakistanitherapist #browntherapist #desitherapist #browngirltherapist #valentines #valentine

If you’re a South Asian therapist who gets nervous around clients, then you need to work on some self-limiting beliefs 💭  Your nervousness shouldn’t stop you from growing. It’s time to get out of your comfort zone! 💡The number one indicator of therapeutic success is actually RAPPORT. Do you GET your client? Do they LIKE working with you? ➡️ Join my supervision group, GROUP EMPOWERMENT for South Asian Misfit Healers. I can help you get back to basics and fill in what you’re missing. 🤩 You’ll come out feeling more prepared, confident, and EXCITED to when a South Asian client books a consultation with you! You’ll get: ➡️ 2 Group sessions a month ➡️ Support for up to 2 clients a month ➡️ Quality session planning ➡️ Guidance from ME & other Brown therapists who get it! 🗓️ My next cohort starts in MARCH! Book now before spots fill up! 💬 Comment “Empowerment” and I’ll send you the link to get started 👇🏽 #southasiantherapist #southasianmentalhealth #indianmentalhealth #southasianmentalhealthandwellness #southasianinstagram #indianinstagram #pakistanitherapist #desitherapist #desiinstagram #browntherapist #browngirltherapist #indiantherapist #perfectionismanxiety #perfectionismrecovery #perfectionistanxiety #perfectionist #impostersyndrome #peoplepleasinganxiety #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #peoplepleasingrecovery #goodgirlconditioning #goodindiandaughter

I don’t believe therapy is a scam, but I also don’t blame people for thinking that it is. If you’re a therapist, you know that when people criticize our field, it’s usually a trauma response ❤️‍🩹 And also, you know that you can’t heal from trauma when the trauma is still happening ⏳ So if people are criticizing our field while trauma is still happening…then maybe we should listen to that. ❌ People aren’t saying that you don’t work hard enough, or that you should take on more clients, or that you should lower your fee (unless you want to and you’re able to), or that you should compromise your well-being to be a hero 🦸🏽‍♀️ You’d be surprised how many people actually understand that you’re a human being who can’t save the world. 👆🏽But the problem is that most of you are using this as an excuse to not pay attention and avoid the problem. Which makes many people believe that you benefit from what’s happening right now. 🤨 So how can you be mad, upset, and offended when people say they don’t trust you? I encourage you to follow 🍉 journalists, activists, and therapists who have been publicly posting about what’s going on for the past four months. And if you don’t know what 🍉 means, that shows me you haven’t been paying attention and it’s time to start. Visit my link in bio to support a ✋🏽🔥today. #BIPOCtherapists #therapistsofcolor #therapistinstagram #therapistsofinstagram #therapistmath #therapistsbelike #therapistlife #therapistsconnect #therapists #perfectionismanxiety #therapistsforsocialjustice #whatwillpeoplethink #butwhatwillpeoplethink #southasiantherapist #southasianmentalhealth #indiantherapist #desitherapist #browntherapist #browngirltherapist #socialmediatherapist #therapistsfollowtherapists #therapistthoughts #therapistsofig #endthestigmaofmentalhealth #endthestigmamentalhealth #endmentalhealthstigma #decolonizetherapy #liberationtherapy

You might have Perfect Indian Girl™️ Syndrome if your New Year’s goals are centered around: 🏃🏽‍♀️Weight loss 💅🏼Beauty Standards 💍“Getting” a ring 🧗🏽‍♀️Other markers of success We may think being “good” at these things may mean being “the best” in order to win approval and protect us from criticism within and outside of our community. 👉🏽Let me be clear: you are 1000% allowed to have these things. We ALL want these things on some level. I don’t know what your situation is and what your reasons are. I can’t tell you how to live your life. No one can. The issue isn’t ✨WHAT✨ you’re chasing, it’s ✨WHY✨ As humans, it’s natural for us to be motivated by others. Whether it’s making your family happy, or impressing the people around you. But you can have all of these things…and still not be happy. Why? Fitting in and being a “Good Girl” won’t necessarily bring life satisfaction. But we feel pressured to do it. We may really want to be happy, but our actions might not be aligned with our goals. ➡️➡️➡️ Are you a Perfect Indian Girl who’s tired of the chase? 🙋🏽‍♀️ 💬 Comment “I’m ready to be an imperfect Indian woman” and tell me WHY ⬇️ Follow me at The Bad Indian Therapist for more 🛋️ Looking to start therapy in January 2024? I’m accepting new clients in NY🗽, CA 🌊, and FL☀️. Visit my link in bio to schedule your free intro call today ☎️ *Note: Perfect Indian Girl Syndrome is NOT a real diagnosis. It is a term that I came up. But there is research to suggest that perfectionism anxiety can correlate, if not be a contributing factor, to a variety of anxiety disorders, along with other cultural factors. #perfectionismanxiety #perfectindiangirl #perfectionism #perfectionismanxiety #perfectionistanxiety #perfectionist #peoplepleasing #peoplepleasinganxiety #peoplepleasinganxiety #peoplepleasingrecovery #peopleplea

To all my Brown therapists who are afraid to show up on here: you deserve to be here. 🫵🏽 You are licensed. Your are qualified. You are responsible for letting your followers know what to expect. But after that, you are not responsible for how people react to what you post. You KNOW WHAT YOU’RE TALKING ABOUT. You HAVE THE SKILLS. And just like accountants, lawyers, doctors, nail artists, hair stylists, and other gig workers who are small businesses 👏🏽 YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO MARKET YOURSELF 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 You did not go to grad school, take out these student loans, be underpaid for 2-4 years of your pre-licensed career, and then go to all these trainings for nothing. ✨ These “anti-disinformation/misinformation” therapists have their own blind spots and they don’t know more than you ✨ We teach our clients that not everything is in their control and that shouldn’t stop them from doing the hard, rewarding thing. Take your own advice! If you’re a Brown therapist who wants to ethically show up on here: ➕ Add an Instagram highlights section with a disclaimer 📌 Pin your disclaimer to the top of your TikTok ✍🏽 Add your disclaimer as auto-reply in your DM settings ⚖️ Use “might”, “maybe”, “could be” in your content 💭 Convey nuance in your captions 🤔 Recognize different views in the comments 👉🏽Did this inspire you? Tell me below ⬇️ ➡️ FOLLOW me at The Bad Indian Therapist for more. 📲 SHARE with another Brown therapist with imposter syndrome today! #southasianmentalhealth #southasiantherapists #southasiantherapist #indiantherapists #indiantherapist #pakistanitherapist #pakistanitherapists #desitherapist #desitherapists #browntherapist #browntherapists #browngirltherapist #browngirltherapists #arabtherapist #arabtherapists #muslimtherapist #muslimtherapists #SWANAtherapists #therapistinstagram #therapistsofinstagram #therapistsofcolor #BIPOCtherapists

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