mixed feelings

08/01/2024

once went mini viral for writing a song about how her boyfriend wouldn’t stop playing fortnite to hang out with her and if that’s not a reason to check out her hyperspecific — and her forthcoming album “Sugar Water” — then idk what is. Link everywhere links are found!

03/15/2024

Blood, guts, gore, tears, love, and infatuation. Join .feelings and on March 28th at for our first ever literary salon featuring readings by  
, , , and , each interpreting the theme “infatuation” in their own specific way.

It’s Kate Bush screaming “how could you leave me when I needed to possess you?”, it’s Taylor swift whispering “please don’t be in love with someone else.” It’s Sza singing “knowing you gonna block me tomorrow can you still come and get me?” What’s not to love?

RSVP at the link in bio! 🕯️💌

03/12/2024

type of s**t i been on

rp (respectively): / / / .worm / /

01/29/2024

y’all ever trace your crush’s walk home from school just to know what they look at? Or run through fictional conversations in your head? Enter: “limerence,” the state of being obsessively infatuated with someone marked by intrusive thoughts and delusions which is exhausting l, according to advice-seeker crushinghard97. she asks: how can I manage infatuation in a “healthy” way?

answers: “See where you can put that romantic horsepower to use: write love letters to friends on bar napkins, board airplanes alone, allow yourself to be struck, violently even, by the way the sun hits the jagged edge on certain skylines. Imagine how the man at your bodega — maybe he knows your name, remembers your birthday, the brand of ci******es you smoke — gets to work each day. Let his commute move you. I assure you it will make you feel more whole than any given deep dive into the trenches of Instagram.” Read the full essay now!!

I learned a new word recently called "limerence," which is, essentially, the state of being obsessively infatuated with someone marked by intrusive thoughts, delusions, etc. I can't help but think this describes my life perfectly right now. When I have a crush, I will do DELUSIONAL things to feed my...

01/04/2024

our favorite 18-year-olds answer one of life’s age old questions: what do you do when you and a long-time friend are growing apart?

Just because a friendship is long-term doesn't mean it has to be long haul. We asked three of our fave New Yorkers how to handle a faltering friendship without falling apart.

12/13/2023

We published our first comic yesterday

In today’s strong feelings, we’re publishing our first comic from Taiwanese-American illustrator, animator, and comic artist Claud Li.

12/06/2023

The ironic thing is, defining relationships is something we, as a society, are objectively good at — or are at least experienced in. But this emotional intelligence and discourse tends to revolve mostly around romantic relationships. Whether they’re open, polyamorous, monogamous, or something else on the spectrum, setting clear guidelines for navigating our love lives is something we have, in our western society, not only normalized but wrung our hands over since time immemorial.

So what’s keeping us from DTFing (Defining the Friendship)?

In today’s strong feelings, Berlin-based writer and editor Michelle No makes the case for getting as much clarity on the parameters of your friendships as you might your romantic relationship(s).

11/14/2023

FEAST × mixed feelings is here❤️‍🔥 we turned our crippling social anxiety into a conversation game, conversation-starting necklace, and sexy lil' tattoo sheet. It's a lot of chaotic energy for the start of a very chaotic winter season.

the FEAST and mf teams have been working on this collaboration for months, and after many many MANY iterations, it's finally here 😈 layer the "puref**kery" necklace over your favorite band tee (actually knowing said band: optional), then shake and pass the Talking Hearts conversation game to get to know yourself, friends, and lovers a little better. designed to eliminate those moments of feeling so awkward at the function.

The collection is availabe now! Play with your heart. It's fun ;)

FEAST × mixed feelings is here ❤️‍🔥 we turned our crippling social anxiety into a conversation game, conversation-starting necklace, and sexy lil' tattoo sheet. Layer the "puref**kery" necklace over your favorite band tee (actually knowing said band: optional), then shake and pass the Talk...

11/06/2023

over a power lunch at The Odeon, Ziwe declared Shrek 2 the greatest american comedy, defined the Nigerian Exit, and recounted a betrayal at the Paris Delta Sky Lounge. all the tapatio and more, here:

Here’s an oxymoron: Ziwe’s actual heaven is New York, but her low-key hell is trash and rats. This and more in Ziwe's Hyperspecific interview.

11/02/2023

“I recently started dating someone new…But I've noticed something that's starting to feel consistent, which is that they hold really strong opinions about art/movies/books I like, in some cases not even being willing to give certain things a chance. A few weeks ago I lent them a book and they told me they might never read it. They hadn't so much as read the first page. Then I showed them a TV show I loved and about 20 minutes in they had me pause it and told me they didn't want to continue watching because they weren't enjoying it. A few weeks later I thought about showing them one of my favorite movies, again, and just gave up because I didn't want to face this kind of rejection.”

Is not sharing interests with your partner a red flag? In this week’s writer Emma Holland responds.

I've noticed something that's starting to feel consistent with my new partner: they hold really strong opinions about art/movies/music/books I like, in some cases not even being willing to give certain things a chance...A few weeks ago I lent them a book and they told me not to be disappointed if th...

10/27/2023

"The humanization of our idols is a brilliant tactic in publishing. The medium reveals a side of the subject that is calculatedly manufactured for readers' enjoyment while also facilitating the betterment of the celebrity’s public image. In other words, these memoirs are a lucrative way to exploit our relationships (and lack thereof) with idols. But despite knowing how it works on the backend, I still read them all."

and despite knowing they're manufactured, I love them

10/25/2023

Actor, writer, director, and trans activist Tommy Dorfman talks childhood cyber security strategy, HATING clogs, and so much more for Hyperspecific 🕸️ Read it all here!!!

Tommy Dorfman, trans activist, writer, actor, and director sat down with mixed feelings to get hyperspecific (and talk about how much she really, really hates clogs).

10/13/2023

spoilers give us all a common enemy. but do they really *ruin* the experience of watching a story unfold? argues that a good story transcends plot because of how it makes us feel, even if we know what's going to happen -- and science is on her side.

read their whole essay here! ⛓️

We belong to a culture of live-sharing screenshots, lines of dialogue, and memes. Spoilers are in our faces more intensely than spammy pop-up ads in the dial-up days. That is to say, they’re annoying and people hate them. But what is it about them that people hate so much, and why has anti-spoiler...

10/05/2023

ballet flats: they are extremely comfortable. extremely wearable. explicitly feminine without being aggressively so. and look even better when worn into oblivion, (in my opinion). for this week’s This Made Me Think of You, came through with (semi-)affordable options and a range of ways to style them. see them all here! 💌

I present you with many more-or-less affordable ballet flats and a range of ways *I* would style them. Happy pirouetting!

10/04/2023

for collectors, the world of sonny angels is full of “thrilling uncertainty”: they search, sell, trade, and ship internationally in pursuit of their dream angels. Many have found that community comes right along with the cute lil hat. For this week’s strong feelings, .ky1i asked all our questions about the highs and lows of collecting, healing your inner child through dolls, and more. Read now! 👼🏻

Photographed by .ky1i 💖

Sonny Angel collector Adi Miller answers all our questions about the highs and lows of collecting, healing your inner child through dolls, and more.

10/03/2023

who would you cast as your ex in the movie of your life?

For Amanda Quach it's obviously Timothée.

I love her aspirational collection of sonny angels and trinkets, her candor re: mental health, her maximal style — all of it. So, we had to ask fashion and lifestyle content creator, Amanda Quach, to get hyperspecific with us.

10/02/2023

for our final (!) launch month time capsule, our founding editor .chan revisits ’s advice on approaching the y2k revival in the era of body positivity 🔥 read the whole thing at the link in our bio!

art by

I feel like I've taken a huge step backward in terms of my body acceptance...Even with all the emotional work I've done, I don't know if I've ever broken out of wanting to dress in a "flattering" way. I dread the idea of a tight shirt and jeans where everyone can see my belly on display. I love the....

09/28/2023

xtra xtra: the art from this week’s advice column will be avail in print as part of our zine at the mf x pop up tomorrow and Saturday!! Limited copies available, art by 💞