TWFO Couple

TWFO Couple A podcast for anyone trying to better today than they were yesterday.
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02/01/2025

Holding someone accountable is not a personal attack. It is an essential part of rebuilding, integrity and respect within a relationship. You deserve to be met with kindness and understanding — not defensiveness and retaliation.

If you want to dive more into these types of conversations, consider joining our free Community Group. All the info can be found in our bio.

01/27/2025

Many of us struggle with understand the difference between impulse and instinct.

Next time you’re faced with an urge, pause and ask yourself: “Is this a firework or a current?” Let’s practice listening to the deeper, calmer instinct inside us this week.

Practice with picking out an outfit, sending a text, choosing from a menu, self-care, choosing a route to work, grocery shopping, etc.

It takes some intentions to learn to trust your instincts and choose what’s best for you, but it’s all about what you know will be best for you in the long run. Not instant gratification.

01/25/2025

All I ever wanted was to be a good husband and a good dad. My wife is the greatest person that has ever walked the earth and I wanted to be her best friend. I daydreamed of a life where I could do homework with my kids and be part of their lives without the itch inside to seek comfort through a substance. I wanted to find purpose. My vices derailed me and by the time I woke up, it was nearly too late. I wrote a letter to my younger self for any guy out there that’s feeling the same way. It’s available on our site under the blog section at the very bottom. Hoping you find your way to the path ❤️

01/24/2025

When we trust ourselves, we trust our decisions. 🫶🏻

01/17/2025

Just because it’s easy, doesn’t mean it’s better. We love the path of least resistance, but avoiding or refusing to confront reality is not going to do us any favors in the long run. Sometimes easier is better, but it’s seldom the case. Netflix is easier and better than VHS. Don’t get me wrong, we should embrace efficiency when it’s beneficial…but consider this thought and examine your day to day. Scrolling social media is easier than exercising or reading, but it’s not better. Ignoring your health and continuing to eat easy to access, processed foods is easier, but it’s not better. Refusing to confront uncomfortable truths about your career or relationship is easier, but you’re just kicking the can down the road. The peace you seek is on the other side of the work you’re avoiding. ❤️

01/04/2025

Let’s get something straight: no matter how bad things get, you always have a choice.

Maybe not in what’s happened to you—that part sucks, I get it. But you do have a choice in what you do about it. Staying stuck? That’s a choice. Taking one tiny step forward? Also a choice.

It’s not about having all the answers or feeling ready. Most of the time, you won’t. But it’s about deciding that you’re not going to let life steamroll you. Because here’s the thing: even not choosing is a choice.

Look, life’s going to throw curveballs, and sometimes it’s unfair as hell. You didn’t ask for certain things, and you didn’t deserve them either. But what happens next? That’s on you. You can sit there, stuck in “Why me?” or you can flip the script to “What now?”

I’m not saying it’s easy. It’s not. Some days, the best choice you’ll make is to just get out of bed and try again. But even that is powerful because it means you’re still in the game.

So, what’s one choice you can make today that gets you closer to the life you want? It doesn’t have to be huge. Tiny steps count, too. Just keep choosing forward. You’ve got this.

12/28/2024

Our weekly newsletters dive deep into the realities of relationships, personal growth, and healing—unfiltered and unapologetically honest. We challenge conventional thinking, explore tough questions, and offer insights to help you:

•Gain clarity in your relationships and decisions.
•Break free from toxic dynamics and endless ‘what ifs.’
•Empower yourself to choose growth over comfort.
•Understand the complexities of addiction, betrayal, and healing.

Every issue is designed to provoke thought, inspire action, and remind you that you’re not alone on this journey. Whether you’re navigating a challenging relationship, rebuilding after betrayal, or simply striving to be your best self, TWFO is here to guide and empower you every step of the way.

12/17/2024

I get it. When you’re dealing with an addict, a manipulator, or someone who gaslights you, setting boundaries feels like lighting a match in a room full of gasoline. They’ll twist it, blame you, and make you question if you’re the problem.

But here’s the hard truth: boundaries don’t cause chaos—they expose it.

If someone loses it when you say “no,” it’s because they were benefiting from you saying “yes” to things that were never okay. And that’s not love. That’s control.

It’s not your job to fix them, soften the blow, or keep them from spiraling. It’s your job to protect yourself from being pulled under.

So stop handing over your peace to someone who’s proven they can’t be trusted with it. If they don’t like your boundaries, that’s a them problem—not a you problem.

Set the boundary, hold the line, and remember: you’re not hard to love; you’re just done being easy to take advantage of.

You aren’t powerless. You do have choices and we’re here to love you until you can love yourself. 🫶🏻

12/16/2024

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11/04/2024

We finally got around to getting new crewnecks for everyone! We LOVE the way they turned out and we hope you’ll love them too. We went with a classic forest green, a heather pink official “Wheelie” crewneck, and a vintage-inspired maroon with a distressed print. Each one has a small reminder to “Stay True” inside the cuff. These are insanely comfortable, oversized, and perfect for the cool days ahead. We’ll put these on the site this Wednesday 11/6 to coincide with the release of this week’s episode.

10/15/2024

Tomorrow on Till the Wheels Fall Off…

We dig into a topic both of us are really passionate about; Equal Partnership: Why It Matters

In this episode, we dive into the real issue behind many struggling relationships—unequal partnership. The problem isn’t the addiction; it’s the power dynamics and the mental toll that an unbalanced relationship takes on us. Addiction is just a cover! We explore how we are no longer suffering in silence and are speaking up about the mental damage caused by chronic stress, anxiety, burnout, and resentment from being in a one-sided partnership.

We break down what an equal partnership truly looks like:

•Sharing the mental load, not just the physical tasks
•No need to constantly ask for things to get done—things happen automatically
•Communication that fosters validation and respect
•Mutual involvement in home life, like knowing the kids’ teachers’ names or planning trips
•Taking responsibility for personal tasks like making appointments and helping around the holidays
•Leading by example for the kids

We also address the mental load: the invisible labor of planning meals around activities, figuring out the kids’ needs, and managing the household’s daily functioning. Many of us end up overthinking because we are forced to carry this cognitive burden while our partners disengage.

We also tackle the myth that we “picked” unequal partners. No, society has normalized this imbalance, and it’s time for that to change. If you’re in an unequal partnership, you deserve more. It’s time to demand equality, respect, and shared responsibility in relationships.

This episode is for anyone; not just those in a relationship with an addict.

10/04/2024

I got the chance to meet someone I’ve long admired yesterday. influenced my own recovery and the mission of him and with is incredible to show how far we’ve come from the stigma and hushed voices of sobriety to now sobriety being something cool. If 3 sober dudes taking a pic in a liquor store doesn’t show the grey area we operate in, idk what does. I’ve never had more intimacy, more fun, and more joy in my life than I have these past 11 years…I couldn’t have imaged that on day one. I do things and go places I feared I’d never be able to and I love every second of it. I met Dax and told him how he influenced my own recovery, how much his voice has meant to me and then said “Ok I swear I’m not pitching you right now” and then basically pitched him on TWFO 😂. I handed him a sticker and asked him to listen or pass it on to someone that our show could help. There’s a 1% chance that ever happens but shoot your shot when you believe in what you’re doing. Stories like his, mine, and Aaron’s are amazing and inspiring, and for good reason. It’s HARD to beat this thing. But nobody talks about what it’s like to be married to guys like me and others like me and what goes on behind closed doors. Till the Wheels Fall Off brings those conversations to life, giving partners and spouses a voice as they heal from what addiction destroyed…and we’re just getting started. This was such a cool moment. I used to get messed up and watch Dax in Idiocracy over and over, and I never dreamed I’d be meeting him clean & sober in a liquor store. Life’s beautiful like that ❤️

09/27/2024

Paige here! 👋 It’s days like this I reflect on how far we’ve come, individually and as a couple.

Matt has chronic back pain from an injury he had when we were teenagers. As many of you know, his DOC was mainly pain medication. Honestly, he’d take anything he could get his hands on that would make him feel good, but pills were his main jam.

I’ve taken him to get injections for about 15 years and the first few years, he’d always get a script for pain meds, come home with a case of beer, and just get messed up for the rest of the weekend. It sucked.

These days, after an injection (today he had an ablation) he enjoys some coffee, junk food, documentaries, and ice packs while recovering. He’s present and feels the feels without numbing himself. The nurse didn’t know he’s in recovery and asked if he has meds or muscle relaxers and he’s like “nah, I’m good with Tylenol.” 👏🏻👏🏻

This guy rarely ever discusses his pain and I think it’s a big deal since we live in a world where everyone wants to feel comfortable. It amazes me how far he’s come and how much he can handle.

He hasn’t had any excuse to relapse and that’s something we’re both extremely grateful for.

Now, let’s hope he does what the doctor says and stays on ass this weekend. Wish us luck!! 🤪

09/11/2024

In this episode we discuss the natural tendency to want to understand what is affecting your loved one if they struggle with addiction. Often times the journey of education is enlightening and fosters empathy and understanding, but it can also be a trap which keeps people stuck in a pattern of inaction. While understanding is important, it is not sufficient to “fix” anyone and runs the risk of keeping spouses and partners stuck in a loop of seeking to understand rather than taking action. We discuss benefits and possible dangers of over-intellectualizing addiction, we discuss separating the behaviors from the substance, and how you can take action to protect yourself and your family from an abusive situation that may cause you harm.

09/04/2024

September is National Recovery Month.

There are so many resources out there to help those struggling with substances, but very few resources for spouses and partners.

Matt has over eleven years of recovery and I’ve been on my own healing journey for seven years.

Spouses and partners need a safe space to grow, recover, and be heard. Many times they have nowhere to turn for so many reasons.

They feel judged, crazy, and alone.
They feel like they’re doing something wrong. They feel like no one understands them.
They feel like no one can give them the answers they need.

They are the ones trying to hold everything together.
They are the ones trying to survive.
They are the ones taking care of the children and home.
They are the ones stepping in when they don’t have an equal partner.
They are the ones who don’t have the luxury of getting away from reality to heal.
They are the ones who get left behind.

Next time you congratulate a person in recovery, I encourage you to reach out to their partner or family members and ask how they’re doing. They will be forever grateful.

Our program for spouses and partners released last December and we have witnessed many people take back their lives and gain the tools to find their voice again. Their recovery is going strong and I’m grateful to be part of it.

Not only is Matt’s recovery stronger than ever, when we heal together, we get to be the best for each other and our children.

08/06/2024

TWFO is growing!! We’ve added more episodes, more community support calls, FB Lives (these have been so amazing for the community), and moved the newsletter release day so you can have something for your personal development each day of the week with one rest day.

Our Wheelie Community on FB has been something special. We don’t just offer a place to vent and connect, we offer a place that encourages growth! We push people to do self-care everyday and post about it. The growth we’ve seen in our listeners has been a beautiful thing to witness.

If you’re feeling stuck and need a bump in your own growth, please pop into the community. It may be something you didn’t realize you were missing. 🫶🏻

06/03/2024

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holding someone accountable and blaming are not the same. #fyp #spouseofanaddict #spouseofanalcoholic #podcast #recovery #lovinganaddict #traumahealing

Till the Wheels Fall Off Podcast #fyp #podcast #redflags #overthinking #spouseofanaddict #spouseofanalcoholic #recovery #traumahealing #lovinganaddict

When your 11 year old gets ahold of your TT! 😂 We have water bottle stickers!!! #fyp #recovery #spouseofanaddict #spouseofanalcoholic #podcast #stickers #feels #traumahealing #twfo #shop #twfowebsite #foryoupage #fypage

We have to put our oxygen masks on first before we can help anyone else. It’s okay to take care of yourself!! It’s necessary for survival. #fyp #spouseofanaddict #spouseofanalcoholic #recovery #podcast #selfcare

Opinions from friends and family about your spouse or partner are HARD. #fyp #podcast #spouseofanalcoholic #spouseofanaddict #alcoholichusband

The blatant lies are so frustrating #fyp #spouseofanalcoholic #spouseofanaddict #alcoholic #recovery

Rarely to conversations get us anywhere with toxic people. Actions won’t change them either necessarily, but they will change you ❤️ #fyp #spouseofanalcoholic #spouseofanaddict #recovery #podcast

That person is still there. Release her. #fyp #poem #spouseofanaddict #spouseofanalcoholic #recovery #love #podcast #traumahealing #personalgrowth

Anger serves a purpose. Saying “you can’t be angry” will only catch up to us in the end. Our next episode touches on how to repurpose anger and use it to fuel you towards change. We also discuss anger in early recovery and what anger looks like later down the line with two healthy people. #fyp #anger #spouseofanaddict #spouseofanalcoholic #twfo #podcast #recovery #traumahealing

Phrases such as "We just need to move forward," "The past is the past, get over it," "Stop bringing up the past" may have a time and place, but not in your relationship post-addiction or after betrayal of any kind. Emotions buried alive never die. While it may be difficult to discuss the past, it's important to discuss it for accountability and to set the stage for healing in the future. When you say "We're not bringing up the past" you're effectively saying that your feelings of guilt and shame are more important than your partner's feelings of betrayal and abandonment. #fyp #recovery #spouseofanaddict #spouseofanalcoholic #betrayaltrauma #forgiveness #podcast #addiction #traumahealing

We can’t forgive when the pattern is still occurring. It can keep us stuck in the toxic cycle. #fyp #forgiveness #spouseofanaddict #spouseofanalcoholic #recovery #gaslighting #betrayaltrauma #traumahealing #addiction #feelthefeels #anger #cptsd

Simply removing the substance accomplishes very little. The term dry drunk refers to someone that has not done "the work." The work is the uncovering of root causes and discovering the "why" behind someone's inability to cope with feelings and emotions that caused them to turn to drinking in the first place. In this episode we discuss dry drunk as well as emotional sobriety and offer our experience that sheds light on what it takes to move past dry drunk and physical sobriety into emotional sobriety and true freedom from addiction. This episode features our answers to Wheelie submitted questions and it was a great conversation. #fyp #spouseofanaddict #spouseofanalcoholic #recovery #addiction #sober #drydrunk #narcissist #podcast #betrayaltrauma