11/11/2022
Hey guys, this is Chris. Something has been on my mind for a couple of days. Me and my wife have been watching a Netflix show called Love Is Blind. Yes, it's trash TV, but it's a bit interesting as a study on relationships between men and women, emotions, physical attraction and such.
But, this last season really bothered me and was probably more indicative of dating with the current generation. Young adults age 25-31 "date" each other in "pods" without ever seeing each other. They can meet and talk about whatever they want through a wall. They don't know race, weight, hair color or any physical attributes but, if they have a strong enough emotional attraction, they can propose to each other. Once engaged, they can see their match. After that all the couples go on a pre-marriage honeymoon. If they make it through that, they spend 2 weeks living with each other in "the real world." They go to their jobs and do their lives together. Then, after having known each other for a month, they have the opportunity to get married. But, no one knows what the other will say until they are at the alter.
From the first season, 2 couples are married and still together. No one from season 2 is still together. There are currently 2 couples from season 3.
This is a very interesting and extreme way of finding your mate. It, originally, showed if looks really matter. It showed the importance of communicating and knowing what you are looking for. It showed the importance of family. But there is a lot of pressure. Cameras are on you the ENTIRE time. So, as the show has continued, some people come on to the show for their moment of fame. Some come on to the show to genuinely meet someone. Very few seem to find out why they are single.
This last season there was a lot more toxicity. Unsurprisingly, they tried to put that on 2 specific men, Cole and Bartise, 26 and 25 years old,respectively. Bartise was a physically fit, intelligent, pl***oy. He knew all the right things to say, most of the time. He really gave men a bad name. However, at the alter, he said no. He most likely said no because he wasn't physically attracted to her, but he gave other VALID reasons as to why he said no. Her ex-boyfriend was still very involved with her life and business dealings and she was pro-abortion. Personally, any one of the three reasons, added to the fact that he's only known her for a month, would have been good enough to say no, but he was vilified and they ONLY talked about his opposition to her physical appearance.
Cole, on the other hand, was a goofy man child. He liked to play and joke and was pretty messy. He also came into the situation with a physical type in mind, but partnered with someone that didn't fit that appearance. For me, she was the most beautiful of the group. Intelligent, Christian, and 6 years older. Her name, Zanab. As the show progressed, Cole flirts with someone he talked to in the pods. He apologized and they moved on. We get to see them laugh and play, but she also nags him like a child, talks down to him, "womansplains."
At the end of the show, each couple is asked to say "I do,' or "I don't." Very simple. Harsh sometimes, and sometimes it's even a "not right now." But, not Zanab. Her true TOXIC colors show when instead of yes or no, she decides to drag, insult, and embarrass Cole in front of his friends and in front of the world. He never saw it coming. Then, on the reunion show she doubled down and told out and out LIES. The rest of the cast also piled on and especially the women. They all just believed what she said. After the show they showed another clip. It really shows what is said and done and how a damaged person with a hurt heart and mind will twist and poison what really happened.
Fortunately, the internet came down hard against Zanab. Sadly, this happens to men ALL THE TIME. Cole said dumb things. So did Bartise. But these men were made into villians by these damaged women because they didn't think or speak or act the way society and women want them to. They got blamed for the insecurities that these women had. Society has created this entitlement that EVERYONE has to be accepted and respected and loved for exactly the way they are, by EVERYONE. We are told that we have to find EVERYONE attractive or else we are a "phobe" of some type. While being disrespected, we aren't allowed to disrespect. Men are only allowed two emotions, Happiness or Anger. Mistakes are announced and amplified but successes are downplayed.
It's no wonder why relationships don't last anymore. There is no incentive to marriage. And there are no morals in dating.
THOUGHTS?