When divorce feels Gamey… Straighten your crown 👑
How many of you have experienced the “gamey” qualities that divorce can bring?
For me, the over-analysis certainly led to paralysis and mental exhaustion. There were times my mind was consumed with being 2 steps ahead. Creating “moves” to respond to “plays” that had not happened yet! (Or failed to happen).
Sometimes it felt as if pieces were manipulated in order to summon a distraction or reaction from me, and sometimes it felt as if my most valued possessions were used against me like pawns.
But through trial and error, here’s what I learned:
♟️I learned the importance of the phrase “walk softly and carry a big stick.” I learned how to let go of a few things to preserve what I valued most, and how to put the right structures in place to protect myself.
♟️ I learned to keep my head IN the game. I prepared for what I could control, but I also learned to take breaks and be present in the here and now- because that strategy is what I knew would win the long game of building relationship foundations with my kids.
♟️ I learned how to afford myself the time, space, and support I needed to discern my next “move.”
♟️ I learned that the more I focussed on my “opponent,” the less I lost track of my own personal goal: to preserve my crown, get off the board, and move toward a life I desired.
♟️I later realized that @drcarolyndolan sent me two queen pieces- and I will always appreciate the power of women who straighten each others’ crowns, queens supporting queens 👸 👸
Here to pay that forward to support the women I serve.
What strategies have worked best for you that helped you stay on course?
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Sunday Scaries?
The process of divorce transition can add so much to a plate that already feels full. The logistical and emotional labor that gets attached to the weekly calendar ahead can feel daunting.
Use this opportunity as your evening reminder:
Stop scrolling.
Breathe.
Rest.
Find safety in this moment.
Tap in to faith that you will be abundantly supported.
And most importantly, remember-
you are never alone.
Need someone to help navigate through the murky unknowns of divorce?
Send me a message; I've got a flashlight.
With compasison and light,
Leah
Divorce transition can be challenging when all you see are shiny objects out there that distract you from your inner beauty or your path to the best version of YOU. There will always be new romances, new rings, new shiny cars, new fancy bodies, new houses….. the list goes on. I experienced this too. One of my mantras to reset my focus was this: Polish what you got! You are a treasure. Sometimes you just need to dust yourself off. Keep going. You are not alone.You got this. #divorce #divorcesupport #divorcecoach #divorcecoaching #divorcecoachingforwomen #divorcerecovery #singlemomlife #singlemoms #shinebright
Fall Back in Love with your Life
#mondaymindset
Today marks a new day to a new month to a new season. 2024 is on the horizon. This time is yours to create the life you love. What do you hold dear? What do need to let go of in order to move forward? What needs to change with the season?
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Tuesday Tips for Embracing Change
The change of seasons help us acknowledge the changes we experience in our own lives, which includes letting go and making room for growth. Here are just a few tips that can offer guidance through divorce transition. As you navigate your own journey through divorce, what strategies do you find to be most effective for embracing change?
If you or a loved one would benefit from additional divorce transition support through coaching, I have sessions available. See my scheduling link in bio.
You are never alone.
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#mondaymindset Looking back, how much compassion do you hold for that younger version of yourself? Now imagine your future self - rooting for this week. I believe in you - and she does too! Keep going. You got this.
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#fridayfeeling Anyone else feel the pangs of divorce from a particular song, concert, band, or experience? The struggle is real. This weekend I’m going to attempt a re-entry. I’ll keep you posted on how it goes. One of my friends once told me, “he doesn’t get custody of all the songs and fun things!” It’s so true. Reclaiming the life we love has to do with our own healing journey, what we choose to take with us, and what we choose to let go of. As for me, I’m never gonna NOT dance again, so might as well keep the music playing. (Including those Midwest cicadas humming along in the background) 😊What intangible assets have you let go of, and what have you chosen to take with you post-divorce?
Every divorce story is different. When inconsistent or unclear communication in a marriage brings about more confusion, it can exacerbate the denial stage for a grieving partner who is clinging to words and actions they choose to hear. It can be easy to ignore warning signs and red flags.
How does denial show up in the divorce process?
▪️Inability to make any decisions that hint at divorce becoming a reality
▪️Procrastinating important steps or decisions
▪️Difficulty focussing or concentrating
▪️Taking care of others instead of taking care of yourself
▪️Overscheduling with work, activities, events.
▪️Numbing pain with alcohol, drugs, or screen scrolling.
Coping strategies can include
▪️Finding your safe people who you can share honest and open feelings with.
▪️Surround yourself and listen to those who have your best interests at heart. Trusted people may help protect you from others who might take advantage of you in this vulnerable state.
▪️Journal. Journaling can help you understand your thoughts and feelings to help with clarity
▪️Surround yourself with new experiences that might help give clairty on your own persepctive of your reality.
▪️Give yourself grace. There is no timeline on these stages, and grief is not a race.
You are not alone.
You are loved.
You got this.
💕
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Leveraging this Friday with a little levity 🤭😆 Happy weekend, everyone! #fridayfeels #divorcecoachforwomen #divorcecoachingforwomen #singleparentlife #singleparenting #singleparent #levity
It’s summer solstice. Let light in. Divorce transition coaching can guide you through. ☀️❤️🩹🥰
Happy summer solstice! Introducing myself with my first ever vlog (the first half anyway!) I’ll post the second half shortly. Please introduce me to your friends who might benefit from my coaching services. Im happy to help 🥰