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Lindsey Maestas

My NEW BOOK: “Don’t Burn Your Own House Down: Prioritizing Your Marriage, Your Spouse, and Yourself for a Deeper Connection” 🔥 is available for Pre-Order NOW!

Host of “The Living Easy Podcast” (3 million downloads) 👉🏼 relationships, friendship, faith.

12/27/2025

The past few years have taught me so much about friendship. After moving to TN, so many things changed. [save & share with a friend who needs this encouragement today!]

I’ve been so fortunate to experience exactly how friendship can have a mutual rhythm to it with love, joy and consideration. It’s rarely perfectly equal, and it doesn’t keep score, but I’ve learned that in healthy friendships, there is always a sense that both hearts are being considered.

I’ve experienced that presence isn’t meant to be one-sided. That harshness, envy, gossip, or unkindness don’t have to be a part of a relationship. That we don’t need to hide from one another just because someone has a difference of opinion.

I’ve seen how joy and accomplishments are something you can share with genuine happiness (!!!) without it feeling threatening. I’ve seen how, when one person is tired or depleted, the other can lean in and show up with love.

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This hasn’t made me want to love people less. If anything, it’s made me want to love more honestly. To stop overgiving just to keep connection. To love vulnerably with those willing to be vulnerable, and to be more aware of the importance of silence when that vulnerability is no longer safe. To stop shrinking what I need so that no one else feels uncomfortable. To believe that I can show up faithfully without abandoning myself in the process.

I believe in choosing people. I believe in staying when things get hard. But I also believe in finding people who point you to Jesus, who breathe life into you, and steady you, rather than making you feel like you’re always trying to keep balance or be more than you can be.

Maybe this is part of growing: learning that we can love like Jesus, even if it needs to be from a distance. (Romans 12:10, “Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.”)

But it’s also learning to notice where love is flowing both ways, and having the courage to gently loosen our grip where it isn’t.

If this resonates, I hope it reminds you that you’re allowed to desire friendships that feel mutual, life-giving, and real. 🤍

12/21/2025

What I’ve seen in marriages around me lines up with what Drs. John & Julie Gottman have found in their marriage research: 👇🏼[save & share with your spouse!]

The happiest couples don’t avoid problems, they learn how to repair quickly, turn toward each other in small moments, and protect their marriage from contempt. And they know that their quiet, daily choices matter most, even more than the grand gestures.

I was a child of divorce, and early on in my relationship I decided I didn’t want to just hope for a good marriage, I wanted to understand good marriages.

So I studied. For more than a decade, I read the research, listened to couples who had made it through real life, and paid attention to what actually keeps love alive when the feelings fade.

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“Do nothing from selfish ambition, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves” (Philippians 2:3). “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other” (Ephesians 4:32).

Love isn’t a feeling. It’s a choice.

If your marriage feels tired, I hope this reminds you that you don’t have to fix everything at once. You just have to choose the next faithful step. One moment of service. One honest repair. One small rhythm of connection.

That’s how strong marriages are built. And it’s still possible for you, too. 🤍

12/19/2025

This is one of my favorite love stories. ♥️ [save and share with your spouse today!]

Most of us are waiting for marriage to feel easier, or for our spouse to step up, before we start loving better. But the couples who stay connected for decades don’t wait for perfect conditions. They choose each other in small, thoughtful ways long before anything feels “fixed”.

That’s what stayed with me about my grandma’s advice. “Outserve one another”, as if it were a fun game (without expectations). It wasn’t done to keep score or even with the goal of being noticed. It was selfless love, a biblical love that considered one another’s needs.

Do you find joy in your partner’s joy? Do you work hard to *offer* things that bring them joy?

Here’s the hope: this kind of love isn’t reserved for another generation or a perfect relationship. It’s still available to us, right here, in the ordinary days we’re living.

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12/16/2025

Anyone else?? 🤍💦😅

What’s the craziest or most unexpected thing that happened to you this year? Save & share this with the friend who walked you through all of it!

December 2024 Lindsey never could have *imagined* all that would happen before December 2025. What a wild ride. 👉🏼 Comment “BLOG” to read my new post on the 8 most difficult (and beautiful) lessons God taught me this year. 🤍

12/14/2025

Anyone else? 😅💧

An excerpt from my blog post “8 Difficult Lessons I Learned in 2024”:

“And what I experienced is that you actually can choose presence even when you feel a million miles away, even if only in short, fragile spurts.

I found hope for the life I’m building and realized that joy can sit beside hurt without canceling it out.

As I look back at this year, it’s impossible not to see the film of pain that covered over each day.

But it’s didn’t crush me the way I thought it did. It clarified me. It helped me (maybe forced me) to remember the parts of myself I had pushed aside during long seasons of survival. Courage. Curiosity. Strength. Softness. All of it was still there, waiting for space.

And somewhere in the middle of fear and exhaustion, I learned that I am still capable of beginning again.”

Read the full post here: https://sparrowsandlily.com/if-2024-me-knew-what-i-know-now/

12/11/2025

Comment “BLOG” to read the full story which has been shared over 5 million times. ♥️ (because so many of us are desperate for peace!)

The holidays have a way of revealing what’s working in a family and what’s quietly breaking everyone down. [save & share to encourage someone today!]

Did you know that divorce filings increase by 30% in January? I genuinely believe that we cannot withstand the financial or familial pressure much of the time.

For us, the shift wasn’t about pulling away from our families. It was about creating a rhythm that allowed us to show up with actual joy instead of obligation, resentment, or exhaustion.

Boundaries are not selfish. They are stewardship. They protect your marriage, your kids, your peace, and the memories you’ll look back on years from now.

Jesse and I have chosen a slower, more intentional holiday season, and it doesn’t mean we love people less. It means we’re building a home where connection can actually breathe, and we can show up for others with far more joy.

Can you relate to the pressure of this? How does it make you feel as the holidays approach? I’d love to hear your heart.

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12/05/2025

Save & share this with your spouse or someone who needs this reminder. Comment a 🤍 if you’ve ever felt this way.

It’s not that the wife wants to direct or micromanage, and it’s not that the husband doesn’t want to help. But the marriage quietly fell into a pattern where the wife became the “manager” of the home and he became the “helper,” even though neither of them ever wanted those roles.

When couples reach this point, the smallest interactions can feel heavier than they should. A simple “What do you need me to do?” lands like another task, not support. And a frustrated, “Can you please just help?” feels like criticism rather than longing.

One of the most practical shifts couples can make is this: move from reactive help to shared initiative. Husbands often underestimate how capable they are of noticing what needs attention in their own home. They don’t need step-by-step instructions, but they do need to trust their own awareness.

Healthy marriages are built on two people who refuse to let one person carry the weight alone.

Listen to The Living easy Podcast for more conversations like this. 🎧

12/03/2025

📍 Play Playground in Nashville, TN! We laughed all night 🤣. Send this to a friend you’d want to visit with.

11/25/2025

✨get the FULL RECIPE here: sparrowsandlily.com/cranberry-jalapeno-dip-holidays

ecouHep (Save & share with ONE person you’re celebrating Thanksgiving or Christmas with this year! 🎄)

This appetizer is perfectly sweet, spicy and tart and it now has over 9 MILLION shares, millions of re-pins and tons of 5-Star ratings. ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️

The best part is that I get to see all of your tagged pictures every year 🤩 as this becomes a tradition in your own homes for the holidays. Don’t forget to tag me in yours this year! ♥️❤️♥️

11/17/2025

Double tap if you’ve ever felt this in your marriage. And share with your spouse, because there is HOPE!

Research shows that when one partner grows up with inconsistent emotional support (anxious attachment) and the other grows up learning they have to be emotionally independent (avoidant attachment), the relationship often slips into what therapists call the “pursuer–withdrawer pattern.”

This is what Dr. Emerson Eggerichs calls the Crazy Cycle: pursuit triggers withdrawal, withdrawal triggers more pursuit, and the loop feeds on itself. One person is really saying, “I need connection,” while the other is thinking, “I don’t know how to do this without failing.”

It isn’t a lack of love, but rather childhood survival strategies colliding in adulthood.

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What helps: slowing the moment down and naming what’s actually happening. Try, “I’m reaching for you, not criticizing you,” or “I need a minute to steady myself, not to pull away from you.” it is the choice and ability to hear one another without filtering it through your lens of past hurt or fear. One of the most common commands in scripture is to not fear, but to have true faith.

What does that faith look like when lived out in your own crazy cycle?

11/16/2025

CRANBERRY JALAPENO CREAM CHEESE DIP! This dip will change your life *forever*! My most requested recipe of all time, with over 8 MILLION shares! Your guests will be begging you for the recipe. :)

Get the full recipe here: https://www.sparrowsandlily.com/cranberry-jalapeno-dip-holidays

Save and share this with someone who loves the holidays!

11/14/2025

And that’s a wrap!!!!🎙️ My audiobook for “Don’t Burn Your Own House Down”, is officially recorded!

In this audiobook, you’ll hear laughter, lots of emotion (especially in those acknowledgments! 😅), and my marriage story in my words and voice.

If you’ve already purchased the paperback, this is another great way to listen (especially on those road trips with your spouse! 🥰)

A huge thank you to , my producer, Lauren Ezzo, and engineer, Brandon Door. This was such a wonderful experience!

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