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Calm Parenting Podcast Kirk Martin has helped 1 million parents stop the yelling, defiance and power struggles with SWC. MY FIRST WAKE-UP CALL
My son, Casey, is about 9 at the time.
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He’s in the kitchen on the computer. My wife asks him to take out the trash. Casey responds, “Just give me a few minutes.”

No way! That’s a trigger for me. My Dad was career military, known in our home as the Colonel. He didn’t allow us “a few more minutes.” You did what you were told, when you were told, without hesitation or question. So my stern, demanding voice comes echoing through the wall

. “Casey. Now.”

“Dad, just hold on a second, I just need…”

And then I hear my wife say, “Don’t worry, I’ve got the trash.”

That’s it. Now I’m finally up out of my chair. No way is my wife going to rescue this lazy, undisciplined kid who can’t even follow simple directions. I glare at my wife, “Put that down!”

I’m on top of Casey now. “Casey, you take the trash out right now or I’ll throw that stupid computer off the deck.” (See, I’m a guy and I like to bark consequences I can’t actually keep!)

Casey looks at me with this little tear in his eye, “Dad, all I needed was another minute. Fine. I’m done.”

He stomps toward the trash can, but I cut him off. “You’ll never be successful in life if you can’t follow simple directions!”

“Dad, just let me get the trash,” he pleads. I stand in front of him and taunt, “What, are you gonna cry now?” Yes, I was THAT mature. So he runs off upstairs and then I hear him slam the door. Smack. Now I’m banging on the door, “I work hard every day to earn money to pay for that door. You don’t have to respect ME, but you will respect MY DOOR!” So I stomp downstairs ready to complain, yet again, to my wife about HER son. But when I get downstairs, I find this note on the floor:

Dad,
I bought you a birthday card, but I wanted you to actually be able to read what I wrote so I’m typing this because my handwriting isn’t so good. The reason I’m a little late is that I had to finish up a school project tonight. My teacher told us we had to write about our favorite superhero, but I told her I don’t have one. I told her you’re my superhero and I want to be like you. She told me I wasn’t following the directions, to just pick one. I kind of got mad and told her, “No. I don’t like Superman or Spiderman. They aren’t real. They don’t work hard like you do, take me on special trips like you do, get up at 5am on weekends after working all week to take me to a cold ice rink and watch even though I don’t get to play much because I’m not a good athlete like you were.”

So the reason I was on the computer was that I wanted to tell you that I’m glad you are my Dad and I’m lucky because my superhero is my Dad. I hope I can be like you one day and make you proud. I love you, Dad. Happy Birthday. Casey

That was my wake up call as a father.

01/30/2025

Want to learn how to stop the power struggles? I had an amazing conversation I think you'll really enjoy with Kellie Berst of the Thrive Where You Are podcast. Listen at the link below!

Podcast Episode · Thrive where you are · 01/28/2025 · 54m

12/16/2024

Want a very different (hopeful and practical) perspective on ADHD?! I had an amazing conversation with Roman Wyden, host of the "ADHD is Over!" podcast. I think you'll find it insightful and helpful.

Podcast Episode · ADHD IS OVER! · 12/14/2024 · 1h 17m

11/15/2024

Unlock the Secrets of Calm Parenting: A Must-Listen Guide for Strong-Willed Kids

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09/05/2024

I was thrilled to recently join Dr. Bob for an enlightening and fun conversation on The Hamilton Review podcast!

In this conversation, Kirk discusses the following:

- How to help strong willed kids.

- Controlling yourself as a parent.

- Giving kids tools to succeed, so that you can raise confident kids.

Hope you find this podcast episode helpful!

This week, it is our pleasure to welcome Kirk Martin, founder of Celebrate Calm and the host of the Calm Parenting Podcast, to The Hamilton Review! In this co

08/28/2024

"ADHD or Superpower?"

I had a really fun and interesting talk with Fred Rutman on the Dead Man Walking Podcast. I think you'll find it enlightening!

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08/28/2024

When Casey was a teenager, I talked with him very openly about the struggles young men have with hormones and testosterone. And we came up with a plan to deal with it.

I think this is the right way to talk to your kids about their bodies (and that you start at a very young age), about puberty, about s*x. Casually just like you’re discussing what’s for dinner or who their favorite rapper or pop star is.

I began talking to Casey about this very plainly when he hit puberty and if you do it right, it’s not so awkward. You’re just giving the insight and clearing up confusion, which is huge for kids. Kids during puberty are so self-conscious about their bodies and social media magnifies this so normalizing it is huge.

I don’t have a program on this so I went looking for one. I found a program called How To Talk To Your Kids About S*x and asked them if I could review the content. And my takeaway is that if I were to prepare a program on these topics, it would sound just like theirs because they use scripts, normalize it, and give so many great conversation tips.

I would recommend that you at least check out their page at vmtherapy.com/calm because you get a good discount. No pressure at all. But I think it’s very valuable for all parents.

08/27/2024

Struggling with how to motivate your teen or tween?! Listen to this conversation I had with Dr. Cam, host of the Parenting Teens podcast. She's awesome!

Key Takeaways

➡️ Building a close, trusting connection with teenagers is crucial for motivating them.

➡️ Parents should focus on changing themselves rather than trying to change their teenagers.

➡️ Bonding over shared interests and asking teenagers to teach you something can strengthen the parent-teen relationship.

➡️ Releasing teenagers from parental expectations can empower them to be their authentic selves. Build a strong bond with your strong-willed teenager

➡️ Provide opportunities for them to use their natural gifts and talents

➡️ Find mentors and accountability partners outside of the family

➡️ Normalize the challenges of the teenage years

➡️ Understand that behavior is often a reaction to the environment

In this conversation, Dr. Cam and Kirk Martin discuss strategies for motivating strong-willed teenagers.

07/01/2024

Here is the new podcast title:

Fights Over Chores, Sibling Fairness, Tough Discipline
Do you have kids who fight you over chores, have selective hearing (i.e. can't hear parents!), and don't listen well? Kirk uses chores to show you five different tools to use in different situations: tough discipline, collaboration, problem solving, and realistic approaches you will hate at first, but end up loving!

Listen at CelebrateCalm.com, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, etc.

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