The Trying Mama

12/05/2025

I don’t care if a kid is mine or not.
ANY child on this planet is safe when they are in my presence.
Period.

12/05/2025

I may be the one baking the cookies, planning the traditions, and filling our home with Christmas magic… but behind every moment is a man who works so I can create it.

While I’m cutting paper snowflakes and wrapping tiny surprises, he’s pulling on his boots and carrying the responsibility of providing. Every craft, every gift, every memory has a cost — and he pays it quietly, daily, out of love for us.

Two roles, one purpose: giving our children a childhood full of magic. 🤍🎄

12/01/2025

it’s that time of year again 😆

11/20/2025

This one is really going to get some of you heated, but I’m tired of hearing “people don’t get together like they used to for the holidays.”

Some of us didn’t just “get busy.” Some of us didn’t just “stop trying.” Some of us finally realized we don’t owe our time, our peace, or our kids to toxic relatives just because it’s November or December.

I know that’s a wild concept for the people who grew up sweeping every little thing under the rug, pretending everything was fine, and calling it “tradition.”

But parents now? We’re different. We see the damage. We lived it. And we are not dragging our kids back into the same mentally, emotionally, or physically abusive situations we grew up in just to keep up some fake family image.

And I’m really tired of hearing “that’s selfish, you’re robbing your kids of memories.”

Memories of what?

Memories of people walking on eggshells around a dinner table
Memories of a room going silent the second someone walks in
Memories of adults making cruel comments and disguising it as “just a joke”
Memories of tension so thick a child can feel it in their chest

Kids notice. Kids absorb everything. Kids remember.

So if protecting my children from that makes me selfish, then fine. I’ll be selfish every single time.

I care about the joy, the calm, the love, the softness, the safety. I care about building something healthy instead of performing for a room full of people who don’t even like each other.

These generations of parents aren’t ruining traditions. We’re ending the ones that hurt us. We’re choosing better. We’re choosing peace. We’re choosing our kids.

Call us selfish if you want.
We call it love.

11/14/2025

My house isn’t spotless, heck some days it isn’t even close to clean. I have toys scattered room to room, tiny finger prints on the windows, and bits and pieces of who knows what found in random places.

My bed is not mine, I get more than a sliver on a really good night. A full night of sleep sounds like a distant dream.

My clothes are not new, or super fancy. Why fill my closet with them right now when most of my time is spent at home and covered in crumbs, boogers, and drool.

I scroll social media when I get a few seconds to breathe and see all these people traveling, spotless homes, and I hear my babies laughing in the background, or a distant call of “mama” and still I think “there is no place I would rather be, than right here”.

This season will pass and faster than I think. One day my house will be always clean, and I’ll remember what it’s like to sprawl out in my bed. But for now, I’m right where I need and want to be even through the chaos ❤️

11/14/2025

I didn’t have a great childhood. For a lot of it I felt like I was in survival mode. I used to wonder if life would ever get better. I used to wonder if I would repeat the same things when I became a parent. I’m here to say it does get better and you do not have to repeat the same generational curses for your children.

The pain you experienced as a child wasn’t your fault. But you have the ability to take control and heal yourself to give your kids a better chance at life. All it takes is one person to say “I’ve had enough. No more” to stop pain for generations to come in your family.

The chain breaker, the curse breaker, the pain breaker. Let that be you, so your kids don’t have to be that person.🩷

11/10/2025

what an honor it is 🤍

11/01/2025

Can’t see the haters 🎄😎✨

10/25/2025

“Cutting off family is going to hurt your kids.”

No. You know what’s going to hurt my kids? Having a mother who stays silent when people mistreat them. Having a mother who teaches them to tolerate pain because “it’s family.” Having a mother who keeps toxic cycles alive just to keep the peace.

What hurts children is being forced to love people who hurt them. What hurts them is watching their mother betray her own instincts for the sake of tradition.

I will not teach my kids that blood is a free pass for bad behavior. I will not teach them that keeping quiet is the same thing as keeping peace. I will not hand them trauma wrapped in the word family.

I can’t protect them from every wound life will bring, but I’ll be damned if I let the ones I can prevent come from their own bloodline.

10/18/2025

10/15/2025

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10/11/2025

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