12/06/2024
DEAR MEN, SHE HAS THE RIGHT TO WANT WHAT SHE WANTS NO MATTER WHAT.
Dear men
There are women willing to meet you halfway, splitting everything 50:50. There are those ready to go all in, 100:100, giving their best as you do the same. Some women prefer you to handle it all, while they contribute little or nothing. And yes, there are women who’ll sponsor you, happily taking on more than you bring in.
Here’s the truth: these different types of women exist everywhere. The key isn’t to debate which is right or wrong because where has that gotten you so far? The key is finding the type that aligns with your values, vision, and expectations.
For example, I know I have no business with a woman who wouldn’t go in 100:100 with me. My desire is to grow together as one strong unit, reflecting God’s purpose for a kingdom marriage and knowing that 100:100 cuts across all areas of the marriage. That’s the alignment I seek, and anything less won’t work for me.
But here’s where so many men go wrong: instead of focusing on finding the woman who fits their values, they waste time arguing with women who don’t. They complain about women who won’t split bills or about those who expect full provision. They debate whether women who want equality are too modern or if those who don’t are too traditional.
Here’s the reality: none of this matters if the person doesn’t align with your vision.
Life is simple. Instead of debating over preferences, define what you want and find someone who wants the same. If you value equality in contributions, look for a woman who believes in that. If you want to be the sole provider, there’s a woman who values that dynamic too.
Stop forcing connections with people who don’t align with your goals. And don’t waste energy trying to change their preferences—they have every right to want what they want, just as you do.
Compatibility isn’t about convincing someone to adopt your values. It’s about finding someone whose values already complement yours.
So ask yourself: Am I searching in the right places for the kind of woman I want? Or am I just busy fighting women online for what they want.
Instead of battling over differences, focus on building relationships with people who naturally share your outlook on life.
Love and relationships are about partnership, not persuasion. There are formulas but there’s no one-size-fits-all formula, and the beauty of life is that there’s someone out there for everyone. Finding that person requires clarity, patience, and self-awareness.
Dear men, choose peace over arguments. Choose alignment over opposition. And most importantly, choose someone who complements your values and vision effortlessly.
Life really is that simple.
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Cheers,
Profit Eneh
Relationship Coach
