Omi Oh My Coaching

02/26/2025

Our relationship with commerce is one of our most important ones.

02/26/2025

Yep.

I don't even believe in mistakes but I'm definitely allowed to pivot.

02/26/2025

https://www.facebook.com/share/1FhCMC7RrM/

Please consider.

02/26/2025

Those who know me, know me.

I never had to chase behind some lonely, triggered Twitter-finger-having, gossipy Google gangster who would rather email someone about me than emulate the very thing they claim to love about me. If you can’t say it to my face with your whole chest, I don’t believe you.

I don’t care if you tell a half-truth, the whole truth, or no truth at all about me. You can’t keep my name out of your wayward mouth, and I’m still here. The difference between a Black woman like me and a phony little throw rocks and hide hand type is this: I’m grown enough to do it, so I’m grown enough to own it. I barely apologize because I have a weird habit of saying exactly what I meant to say. As my Daddy used to say, “I said it, I meant it, and I’m here to represent it.”

For those who have so much to say about me when I'm not around, I pray that your lies give you the healing you need, that your projections of me keep you warm at night, and that your victim story helps you build your spiritual, emotional, and mental muscles. But if you need to be activated by your own hurt, then I’ll play the bad guy, the villain, and the bully if that’s what helps you grow. Sometimes we need that fire.

Tell your friends, neighbors, and anyone who’ll listen. It’s all good over here, but I won’t allow you to disrupt my auric atmosphere. I won’t hold space for immature deception and manipulation.

What I’ve learned over the years is that people who can’t see themselves in the mirror need to vilify others. They need to play the victim, even when they won’t listen. It’s an addiction.

I’ve had to let go of these types of people, and their drama, to evolve. When my parents passed in 2021, my attachment to codependency died with them. That shift was both shocking and necessary. I don’t miss those who refused to grow with me.

Releasing codependency was a game-changer, and if you're looking to let that ish go too, type "adios" in the comments. I run accountability and conflict resolution programs for individuals and groups as well.

Let’s honor our own growth together.

02/26/2025

https://youtu.be/-mpxhPuhD-Q?si=mF9oxprKuTgygqHP

Kofi Soriboe said he isn't monogamous.

This makes me smile. Big.

Between him, Jidenna, and Nick Cannon, I’m feeling good about people opening up to different styles of relating.

Non-monogamy isn't for everyone, and it isn't even a better alternative, but for a poly-pans*xual woman like myself, I’m grateful to know that I’m not alone in this world.

Monogamy culture can be extremely intolerant and limiting when it comes to people like me. The critiques and cognitive dissonance can be so disheartening, but life must continue regardless.

Hats off to my fellow open relaters, non-monogamous folks, people on the poly spectrum, consensually kinky humans, swingers, q***r buddies, and anyone else who doesn't fit into the cisgendered, binary-minded, monogamous, fundamental Abrahamic religion culture.

"Alternative," or ancient, indigenous, and communal styles of romance and relating aren't going anywhere, so we might as well evolve together. The lack of love and grace is disheartening. The judgments of non-monogamy break my heart because the ignorance is astounding.

Being told that it's just permission to cheat is just so—sigh—cringe-worthy. When people assume that poly people are just s*xually addicted, nasty, freaky, unsafe, and irresponsible, it makes me shake my head. Those judgments say more about the person in that glass house than they do about the person who is minding their business maneuvering through their relationships.

When people accuse me of being less committed and question my loyalty, it makes me wanna fight.

When people I know who have taught me, guided me, and supported me on my journey get publicly humiliated for living their poly lives out loud, it really grinds my gears.

When people call me a player, it hurts my feelings because I don't play about people I love.

When ignorant people harshly condemn poly families with children, it makes me feel sad because, even if we don’t agree, why do we feel so entitled to speak on other people's personal business with such vitriol?

Even if they are famous, they are still human. Most of us would hate to be under that microscope and level of judgment.

It’s one thing to critique a relationship style, but to judge the human beings existing in their communities in ways that work for them is really too much for me. Picking apart people's behavior with no grace and understanding for who they are is one of the many reasons we are so divided.

Let's be gentle with ourselves and each other. No one has it all figured out—not even you.

And please be mindful that the same harsh judgment you have for someone else is waiting for you in the mirror. Watch how you talk to your reflection—that s**t might get ugly real fast.

If you are Blackly "different" and otherwise marginalized, I want you to know you are seen, heard, loved, and I am well-equipped to coach and serve you. There is no one way to navigate this world that seems so hellbent on destroying or dismissing you, but I’m willing to show up and love and support you as I love and support myself.

Omi Oh My Coaching is open to all Black humans and all consensual styles of Black relationships. Black Love Permissionism makes space for you too. As a matter of fact, I started this business as a love letter to you above all, because you deserve to be centered.

For once.

If you are interested in books on ethical alternative relationship styles, comment and I will DM you my favorite books.

**m *x # #

02/26/2025

Where is the love?

“Getting married is easy. Staying married is more difficult. Staying happily married for a lifetime is among the fine arts.”

— Roberta Flack

02/23/2025

Remember when all the girlies were standing on business?
What happened?

02/15/2025

Happy Valentine's night, y'all. Let's all be good to one another.

02/13/2025

Something to consider. If it resonates, cool. If not, cool.