Raise Up Boulder

07/02/2019

It's no joke. After stretches of intense activity, creativity, productivity, I find that I can't move forward until I take a break. Anyone else resonate with this? If so, I wonder why we fight it so much.

We need to rest, to read, to reconnect. It is the invisible labor that makes creative life possible.

06/29/2019

So beautifully written. All feelings are welcome. At RaiseUp Boulder, we say that when one feeling is tamped down, all of the other feelings are also tamped down. So, if you are wondering why you aren’t feeling the juice of life, maybe explore what feelings you have tamped (or stamped!) down.

Empathy enables us to reach within and connect to root emotions shared by all of us. Yet even when we live a similar experience to another person, root emotions can be vastly different. Advice giving, assuming, or shutting down emotion is isolating - instead, question what you are sensing in them. Practice holding the space.
Empathy is vulnerable - it requires us to recognize the humanness in ourselves that we do often attempt to avoid, and opens doors to being deeply seen and felt.
We feel to connect. To heal. To learn.✨
Hope the weekend brings you some of these three.

06/28/2019

“Sometimes reality presents us lessons in harsh and severe ways, but we embrace them calmly and trustingly, knowing that such times have come to teach us what we need in order to grow. Instead of choosing what we like or don’t like about our reality, we are grateful to all of reality for being a wise guide, even its challenging aspects.“ -The Conscious Parent

06/27/2019

Very inspirational.. I see the process of learning to feel our feelings is an important step towards this beautiful goal.

She asked, "Mom what made you decide not to punish us?"

I replied, "Because I believe in you. And I want you to believe in yourself too. You are capable of choosing right because it feels right, even when no-one is looking. Punishment & rewards don't teach that."

She replied, "I see it's hard work but I want to raise my children this way too. It feels good Mama, to be trusted. Thank You."

I explained the effects of punishment and shame so she could understand it better.
She mentioned other people in her life who believe that children need punishment to learn that there are consequence to actions.

We agreed that there are always consequences.

I asked her how she felt after making a mistake or doing wrong.

She said, "I feel awful inside. Especially if I've been grumpy with someone or forgotten to do something important. It makes me feel sick sometimes. Like I wish I could go back in time and do it better. It makes me want to do better next time."

We agreed that remorse or a breach of trust is punishment enough and that wanting to do better is an excellent lesson learnt.

Children teach us so much!
If we trust them.

I made so many mistakes in my early years as a parent. I still make mistakes. Punishment wouldn't help me grow or do better. I WANT to do better. It's relationship, grace and empathy that teach me.

We all try daily to do better. I know older children respect that. Children are so gracious. I want to be a gracious parent.

Let's trust the process.
Nurture + Nature = Maturity.
Nurture (loving guidance) and nature (time and essence) are enough.

Above all, a healthy relationship is the greatest motivator and influence in a child's life.

~Lelia.

(A tribute to my daughter on her 12th birthday...thank you for your loving friendship and for inspiring me.)

06/26/2019

Do you have trouble connecting with your child? Check out Purejoy Parenting at https://www.purejoyparenting.com/ Leslie Potter is amazing and has a podcast called "Parenting Paused." Her latest podcast is called "It Can Be Scary To Connect With Your Child" and I found it so helpful!

LISTEN TO THE PARENTING P-A-U-S-E-D PODCAST .   It Can Be Scary To Connect With Your Child Nick and Remy sought me out determined to find a way to connect with their teen in a loving way. Their traditional methods were driving a wedge between them and their daughter. As they turned inward focusing ...

06/18/2019

Check it out! Free resources!

Big Leap Bridge A Playground for Discovery Connect with us monthly for an hour of learning and transformation. The Big Leap Bridge is a free online program that shares Hendricks practices in an interactive online playground. Come play and have fun with us every month while learning tools that cultiv...

06/14/2019

We are hosting two more drop-in Parent:child sessions this summer on June 24th and July 8th. Cost is $10/family. The registration links are on here: https://www.raiseupboulder.com/services-1

06/13/2019

We are doing all of our trainings at the Boulder Center for Conscious Community. There are
a ton of great events and groups there as well. Check them out at: https://www.consciousboulder.com/

06/12/2019

For those who are interested.. some of the books that RaiseUpBoulder recommends include: Conscious Living, The Conscious Heart, and The Big Leap by Gay and Katie Hendricks The Hendricks Institute

06/12/2019