Family Wellness and Wholeness

02/25/2023

Robyn Gobbel - Trauma, Toxic Stress, & Baffling Behaviors 💕
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It's perfectly human to want someone else's distressing behavior to stop because it makes us uncomfortable (and sometimes it's dangerous).
Believe me, I feel deeply the pull to manipulate someone else's nervous system so I'll feel more comfortable.

I do it more than I'd like to admit publicly here on social media 😜 You can ask my husband.
But that's not real co-regulation.

Co-regulation has no agenda besides "I'm here with you. I can hold this distress as long as it needed."

I'm definitely not throwing shade (um, my BFF's young daughter recently introduced me to this lingo. Is it hip?? I'm old and never leave the house so I'm outta touch with the lingo...)

Anyway I'm definitely not throwing shade at all the times we are offering co-regulation as an attempt to change someone else.

Like I said. I get it. I do it, too.

We can allow our humanity to be completely wonderfully true AND see if we can increase our noticing and our awareness of when we being present versus when we are trying to get someone else to change.

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Hit hard. I was one of these good kids growing up...yikes!
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