Rachel Mass - Sunlight Scholar Blog

12/11/2024

For whatever reason, Facebook gave me maximum access to monetisation on this page specifically so I’m going to have to start posting here obnoxiously

12/07/2024

How can we support PDA children?

Here are five simple steps to think about…

1. ᴛʜᴇ ꜰɪʀꜱᴛ ꜱᴛᴇᴘ ɪꜱ ɴᴏ ꜱᴛᴇᴘ 🪜

The moment you approach a PDA’er it might feel like a demand - which is a threat to the child’s autonomy. Understanding that we naturally create a demand avoidant response is essential to the first step which is no step! Just being present and meeting the child collaboratively will ensure a smoother relationship is created.

2. ᴄʜᴀɴɢᴇ ᴛʜᴇ ꜰᴏᴄᴀʟ ʟᴇɴꜱ 🔍

We have to change our approach and see that our children 𝐜𝐚𝐧’𝐭 help that they 𝐰𝐨𝐧’𝐭 be able to do things we may ask of them as well as the internal demands they put on themselves. Supporting this process builds a better dynamic and creates useful strategies together.

3. ᴛʀᴜꜱᴛ ɪꜱ ᴛʜᴇ ꜰᴏᴜɴᴅᴀᴛɪᴏɴ 🫂

To create any meaningful relationship with a PDA’er you need to build their trust - remember your actions will never be forgotten! Taking a moment to model it when our emotions get the better of us will help to make the child feel that the adults around them are safe. This is so important on a nervous system that doesn’t behave in the way that is typical and is always responding in a highly stressful way.

4. ᴀᴅᴜʟᴛ ᴀꜱ ᴛʜᴇ ‘ᴄᴀʀᴇʀ’ ⚖️

The quicker we see ourselves as guides or mentors the better! I have found that all adults should be seen as carers - not teachers, leaders or dictators - so that the playing field is equal. Learning to work 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 instead of being in 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐥 of the child is fundamental to the whole shift in respecting the child’s autonomy and ability to learn by themselves.

5. ꜰʟᴇxɪʙɪʟɪᴛʏ ɪꜱ ᴋᴇʏ! 🗝️

What works one day won’t work the next. We need to understand the child’s tolerance to everyday demands will vary depending on many factors. It’s our responsibility to be flexible and adapt as best we can and sometimes that might mean just focusing on the high priorities to manage very little demands. Adapting and being supportive will create a positive impact on the child and the environment that they need to grow in.

𝐃𝐢𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐬𝐞 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩𝐟𝐮𝐥?

Please let me know in the comments if there are any things you find important to share with others in our community?❤️🌈

06/05/2024

05/28/2024

Of course Facebook invited this page, the public page I use and like the least, to its creator fund that none of my other pages can get into…which means I could potentially get some money just for engagement here?? So yeah I guess I’m gonna have to start actually posting here

05/28/2024

Transcript of original post by smoov-criminal via Tumblr:

the US Department of Transportation is now accepting comments on new rules for US airlines regarding disabled passengers!

“The proposed rule would require that airlines meet rigorous standards for accommodating passengers with disabilities safely and with dignity. The proposal will set new standards for prompt, safe, and dignified assistance, mandate enhanced training for airline employees and contractors who physically assist passengers with disabilities and handle passengers’ wheelchairs and specify actions that airlines must take to protect passengers when a wheelchair is damaged during transport. Notably, the proposed rule also would make it easier for DOT to hold airlines accountable when they damage or delay the return of a wheelchair by making it an automatic violation of the Air Carrier Access Act (ACAA) to mishandle wheelchairs.” Link: https://www.transportation.gov/briefing-room/secretary-buttigieg-announces-proposed-rule-ensure-passengers-who-use-wheelchairs-can

you can read the complete proposal here (link: https://www.transportation.gov/briefing-room/secretary-buttigieg-announces-proposed-rule-ensure-passengers-who-use-wheelchairs-can
) and leave a comment here (link: https://www.regulations.gov/commenton/DOT-OST-2022-0144-0225). the comments will be open for 25 days as of today, May 18th. if you're American, even if you aren't disabled, please leave a comment, and if not please share this around!




For ease of access, here are the hyperlinks from the original post again!

Summary of proposed rule: https://www.transportation.gov/briefing-room/secretary-buttigieg-announces-proposed-rule-ensure-passengers-who-use-wheelchairs-can

Read complete proposal: https://www.federalregister.gov/documents/2024/03/12/2024-04729/ensuring-safe-accommodations-for-air-travelers-with-disabilities-using-wheelchairs

Leave a comment: https://www.regulations.gov/commenton/DOT-OST-2022-0144-0225

05/06/2024

you wouldn't last an hour in the asylum where they raised me

04/26/2024

02/19/2024

Clearly I don’t know how to take decent food pics even for the insta aesthetic, butttt made us Valentine’s Day (weekend) breakfast for dinner ft heart shaped tots the other day 💖 I am so blessed to be in a relationship with someone who loves cookies and is so good at it bc man I swear he makes the simplest food sometimes and it’s so BOMB somehow

12/29/2023

Guilty of going to the library at least once or twice a week and not even thinking to check my TBR pile…but reading an authors’ entire backlist based on an internet quote? That feels like a DIRECT callout.

(I’m also bad at reviews, but not because I don’t remember what I read. I’m just too overwhelmed by emotions and ideas to put them into words…but that doesn’t stop my mind from moving at the speed of light and making abstract connections to everything I’ve experienced ever. So then I just lose track of which thoughts are relevant or even coherent enough to share)

12/20/2023

“It's the most wonderful time of year for many, but the holidays can be the exact opposite for those mourning the loss of family or friends. Some libraries are creating programs about handling grief during the holiday season as a way to help.”

https://americanlibrariesmagazine.org/2023/12/13/holiday-healing/

I’ve said this a million times before, and I will continue to say it again at every opportunity until the day I die, just in case anyone aroune me needs a reminder

Libraries are the backbone of our communities, and I am not exaggerating when I say they are the most punk rock thing to exist In the public sector

LOVE MY LIBRARY

Public libraries, with help from community partners, are organizing programming about handling grief during the holiday season.

12/07/2023

12/07/2023

About Emotional Bypassing via meeting_myself_again