07/05/2025
In family situations, these observations tend to be accurate about 90% of the time:
1. When it comes to marriage:
If your first marriage doesn’t work out, you might’ve simply chosen the wrong partner. If a second marriage also fails, it could be bad luck, Or it’s worth asking yourself if there’s something about your behavior or choices causing problems. But if you’ve had three failed marriages, it’s time to look inward at your own role in the pattern. At this point, the common factor is Definitely “YOU”
2. When children struggle with marriage:
If one child in a family has an unsuccessful marriage, they might just be the exception. If two children face the same issue, it could still be coincidence, bad luck or maybe there’s a hidden issue, like a lack of positive role models or communication skills while growing up.
But if three or more children from the same parents repeatedly fail in marriage, it almost always points to deeper roots: either their upbringing lacked the tools for healthy relationships, or there’s an unaddressed family problem (like unresolved conflict or harmful traditions) affecting everyone.
3. Repeating the cycle:
If three or more children from one family (same parents) fail in “multiple” marriages each, the problem is most certainly tied to their upbringing. Their parents may not have taught them how to lead, handle responsibilities, build trust, compromise, or handle challenges; or their family might still be clinging to outdated or unhealthy beliefs. Worse, these gaps often get passed down, shaping how their own children view relationships, creating a cycle of instability.
4. When others criticize you:
If one person criticizes your behavior, they might just be overly judgmental. If two people point out the same flaw, it’s possible they’re both biased, or it’s a sign to honestly ask, “Could they be right?” But if three or more people call out the same issue, it’s no longer about their opinions. The problem is likely real, and it’s time to reflect and work on improving yourself.
Look around you and reflect deeply! You maybe harshly judging yourself for no reason or you may be taking lightly what you should be seriously paying attention to!
~~Poni Abraham ~~