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10/11/2024
Putting Makeup On Face - A Strange Behaviour
Why do men work so hard? Why are men driven to achieve great things? Why can’t we just sit back and live an ordinary, quieter life?
What’s the point of all this hard work and hustle? I asked a friend.
“All of this is men trying to impress women!” replied my friend.
Really? Do you think men do all these things just to impress women?
“Why else? If there were no women, do you think men would care about all these achievements?”
Maybe, maybe not. But you have a point. And what do women do to impress men?
“They wear makeup!” (We both laughed at this.) Sorry, ladies.
But really, what is makeup? Why do women put it on?
If you think about it, makeup serves a similar purpose to dressing up: it’s a way of making oneself more appealing to the opposite s*x in an evolutionary sense. Whether it's a good thing or not, men often select based on beauty, they have little interest in women’s intellectual achievement.
But why is that?
One way of looking at it is to consider the role women have played throughout human history, especially in childbearing. To give birth to a healthy child, women need to be healthy themselves. So, when men choose partners, a big factor is her health and, by extension, her ability to produce healthy offspring. While men might not actively think of it this way, this happens on an unconscious level & no man would deny that he is attracted to physical beauty.
So what does beauty have to do with health?
It turns out that many traits we find “beautiful” are actually indicators of good health. Let's try to look at it.
Who would most men find attractive?
1. Extremely thin vs. healthy weight vs. obese?
2. Clear, fair skin vs. skin with blemishes?
3. Symmetrical faces vs. asymmetrical faces?
4. A 20-year-old woman vs. a 40-year-old woman?
If men are honest, most would lean towards a medium-weight, fair-skinned, symmetrical-faced, 20-year-old woman. On the surface, it may seem like men are selecting for beauty, but in reality, this is often a subconscious list of qualities which signal health. "This is a healthy woman who is capable of bearing healthy children."
So when women wear makeup, what are they trying to do? In a similar unconscious way, they’re trying to appear beautiful (read: healthy) to be chosen by men. For example, women in their 40s use anti-aging products, and those with blemishes use concealers or creams to create a smooth complexion. Nowadays, many even visit plastic surgeons to achieve more symmetry.
But what about those who say they dress up “for themselves”?
For them, I have a little thought experiment:
Imagine a situation where you can choose between two types of pleasure, but only you will know about it. You won’t be able to talk about it afterward, as I’ll remove it from your memory.
Here are your options:
1. You can eat any delicious food you like from anywhere in the world. You’ll enjoy it, but afterward, you can’t share the experience or take any photos.
2. You can wear any dress or makeup you like, but you can’t take any photos, you cannot post on social media, or let anyone know.
And after the experience, your memory of the event would be erased.
Which option would you choose?
When I ask women this question without explaining why I am asking, almost all choose the food. Why? Because food offers an intrinsic pleasure, something enjoyable on its own, while dressing up and applying makeup often feel enjoyable because of the attention it draws from other people. You can enjoy food alone. You don't need anyone else. But for a dress to have any significance, you require other people. Otherwise there is no logical way of deciding which dress is better. It's ok to say “ I eat for myself” but to say “ I dress up for myself” is a non sensical proposition. (Please note I am only talking about the "beauty" of a dress. You can make a case for the comfort of a dress i-e loose clothes are better than very tight clothes as you will feel suffocated in them)
So, what’s the point I’m making? We don’t dress up just for ourselves. People who think they dress up solely for themselves may not be fully examining their motivations. What I am arguing is that they are dressing up because they seek attention and social acceptance. Those compliments we get for looking good? They feel nice, don’t they?
If I’m right, then doesn’t it follow that people who dress up more or wear more makeup are often trying to gain more acceptance? Isn’t it sometimes an indication of deep-rooted insecurity? If you genuinely loved yourself as you are, why would you feel the need to put extra layers of non-organic material on your face? Isn't it a strange behavior? What would aliens think if they saw women putting up so much makeup on their face that they become unrecognizable? If you felt secure in your body, why would you want to modify it?
And what does all this tell us about social acceptance?
If people accepted or loved you as you are, would you go to such lengths to be accepted? Doesn’t it sometimes feel like those who rely heavily on makeup are chasing validation they don’t feel naturally?
And those people who suggest that you dress up nicely to appear more confident, are they giving good advice? Is it wise to derive your confidence from your clothes or the acceptance of your appearance? I would argue that it is not
If dressing up was truly “for ourselves,” wouldn’t we dress the same way at home when alone? Ask yourself: how would you dress if you were the last person on Earth? Would you still wear makeup?