27/02/2024
GUILT-TRIPPING WON'T WORK!
When you want someone to change, yung pag-guilt trip sa kanila, at yung pagpapaalala ng mga mali nilang nagawa sa'yo, won't really help, trust me, hindi talaga effective.
Minsan, deep inside, may mindset sila at feeling na, "Sira na din lang naman, nagkasala na din lang naman, nagawa ko na din lang naman, panindigan na lang." Hindi nila na-realize na binayaran na 'to ni Jesus.
Forgiven people forgive. Hurt people, gusto nilang makasakit. Yung bitterness, yung nararamdaman mo about sa sarili mo, tend na mag-reflect sa paano mo itrato ang iba. Kapag fearful tayo, gumagawa tayo ng mga bagay na instead na makatulong, sometimes, lalo pa nating pinalalala. Kapag naramdaman natin yung shame, sinusubukan natin lumayo sa mga tao. At minsan, we cover and protect ourselves na hindi masaktan ng iba, pero end up, tayo na yung nakakasakit.
Especially sa fear, kapag yung asawa mo, pag-uwi from work tapos mainit ang ulo, try mo itanong, βDid something happen sa work?β Kasi yung fear, can cause anxiety na nag-cause ng a lot of mixed emotions, at dahil ikaw yung pinaka malapit, of course, ikaw yung unang mapagbubuntungan. A simple question can soften oneβs fearful heart. Just like Jesus, when you are established sa truth na He cares for you, you are forgiven, He loves you, and He wants the best for you, yung fear, worry, anxiety, depression, will start to melt like butter.
Kaya He said, love your enemies. Yes, mahirap. Pero yun lang yung solution. Hindi mo mapapatay ang apoy ng apoy.
"21 If your enemy is hungry, give him food to eat; if he is thirsty, give him water to drink. 22 In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head, and the LORD will reward you." (Proverbs 25:21-22)
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