Atty. Stela

02/12/2024

Lord, when I petition for more patience, let me clarify: I’m requesting an immediate extension of my capacity to exercise patience, not additional training sessions to build it. Kindly expedite this process without attaching further “practical experiences” as conditions precedent. I trust Your infinite wisdom to grant this prayer nunc pro tunc—because, honestly, my patience has been tested enough already. 🥹 Amen. 🥹

02/12/2024

Strategic waters demand strategic decisions. The confirmed presence of a Russian attack submarine in the West Philippine Sea raises serious questions about regional security and maritime sovereignty. In these moments, it’s crucial for our nation to stand vigilant and united. How should the Philippines address this challenge while maintaining stability in an increasingly tense geopolitical landscape?

26/11/2024

"Respect is a Right, Not a Prize to Be Won"

The idea that "respect must be earned" often conflates two distinct forms of respect: inherent respect, which is rooted in human dignity, and earned respect, which is based on actions, achievements, or character. By treating respect as something solely earned, we risk eroding the basic decency that underpins a functional and empathetic society.

Inherent Respect: The Foundation of Humanity
Every individual, regardless of their station in life or their choices, deserves a baseline of respect simply by virtue of being human. As the saying goes, “We do not respect people because they are perfect; we respect them because they are people.” This foundational respect affirms the intrinsic worth of individuals and is crucial for building bridges across differences.

The Flaws in Conditional Respect
The mindset of “respect is to be earned” often becomes a weapon, used to withhold decency until a person meets subjective or arbitrary standards. It creates an environment where disrespect thrives unchecked, justified under the guise of waiting for someone to "prove" themselves. As philosopher Simone Weil observed, “Respect is due to man as man, and not because he deserves it or for any other reason.” Respect is not transactional; it is transformational.

Differentiating Basic and Earned Respect
While admiration or esteem (earned respect) rightly depends on behavior, accomplishments, or virtues, inherent respect—the kind that acknowledges someone's dignity and humanity—must remain unconditional. Failing to differentiate these can lead to societal divisions, as withholding respect diminishes trust and mutual understanding.

The Role of Respect in Society
Civilizations are built not on agreement, but on the recognition of shared humanity. Respect serves as the foundation for dialogue, empathy, and the resolution of conflict. As the Dalai Lama said, “When we show our respect for other living things, they respond with respect for us.” Extending respect universally is not just a moral imperative—it’s a social necessity.

Respect Transcends Agreement
Respect does not require agreement, approval, or alignment. It is possible—and vital—to respect someone with whom we fundamentally disagree. In the words of the ancient philosopher Confucius, “Without feelings of respect, what is there to distinguish men from beasts?”

My opinion:
Respect should not be viewed as a prize to be earned but as a fundamental right owed to every individual. Let us reserve the idea of "earning" for admiration and excellence while treating respect as the baseline that sustains our shared humanity. After all, “Respect for ourselves guides our morals; respect for others guides our manners” (Laurence Sterne).

20/10/2024

The 7 Brutal Rules of Work

(And how to win the game)

Thanks to Mostyn Wilson for this awesome carousel 🔥

1. Visibility is as important as performance 👓
↳ Most people think their work will speak for itself.
↳ The reality is you need to make you and your efforts visible.

2. Get a sponsor, not just a mentor 🙌
↳ People believe having a mentor is good enough.
↳ But you need someone who will help you rise the ranks.

3. Perception is reality 👀
↳ We assume people will see and understand the real you.
↳ The truth is, you're in charge of managing how you come across.

4. Always align with key stakeholders 🔑
↳ Most people just worry about their immediate team.
↳ In reality, you need to know the priorities of all key stakeholders.

5. Initiative drives progression 📈
↳ Most people believe success comes from getting the job done.
↳ But seeking out more responsibility will keep you ahead.

6. Solve problems before they arise 🔎
↳ People say they'll cross that bridge when they come to it.
↳ The truth is, anticipating them early can save a lot of headaches.

7. Discretion makes people trust you 🤝
↳ Some people think sharing sensitive info gives you status.
↳ In reality, being discreet will build trust among peers.

You won't find these rules written down anywhere.
But understanding them will supercharge your career.

Are there any other unspoken rules of work?
Let me know in the comments ⬇️

♻️ Repost to help others win the game.

18/10/2024

It’s heartbreaking to hear about the tragic incident at Bohol Doctors Hospital, where a dedicated nurse lost her life while serving her patients. The violence committed against Nurse Marie, a 51-year-old healthcare worker from Barangay Dao, Tagbilaran City, is deeply troubling. Her alleged assailant, a patient who was about to be discharged, reportedly attacked her and another hospital staff with scissors, leading to her untimely death and injuring a utility personnel.

This tragedy serves as a stark reminder of the daily challenges and dangers our healthcare workers face, especially in volatile situations involving mental health or distress. As a society, we must do more to protect those who dedicate their lives to helping others, ensuring their safety and well-being as they care for us.

While some may argue that this serves as a “lesson learned” about being careful with what you say to people, it’s important to remember that no one deserves to face violence for doing their job—especially those in the healthcare sector who are just trying to help.

Our hearts go out to the family of Nurse Marie and the entire medical community in Bohol during this difficult time. May justice be swiftly served, and may we work together to prevent such incidents from happening in the future.

𝗡𝗨𝗥𝗦𝗘 𝗦𝗔 𝗕𝗢𝗛𝗢𝗟, 𝗚𝗜𝗗𝗨𝗡𝗚𝗚𝗔𝗕 𝗣𝗔𝗧𝗔𝗬 𝗦𝗔 𝗜𝗬𝗔𝗡𝗚 𝗣𝗔𝗦𝗬𝗘𝗡𝗧𝗘

TAN-AWA: Gidunggab patay sa usa ka pasyente sa Bohol ang usa ka nurse human wala kini mauyon sa giingon kaniya.

Patay ang 51 anyos nga nurse sa Bohol Doctors Hospital human ni dunggaba sa makadaghang higayon sa iyang pasyente alas 9:45 sa Huwebes sa buntag, Oktubre 17, 2024 sulod sa medical ward sa maong tambalanan sa Barangay Bool, Tagbilaran City Bohol.

Samtang naangol sab ang usa ka utility personnel.

Ang suspetsado nga daling nadakpan sa mga pulis giila nga si Marlito Linguis 31, taga Purok 4, Barangay Magsaysay lungsod sa Sevilla, Bohol.

Ang biktima mao si Marie, 51, taga Barangay Dao, Tagbilaran City Bohol nga kasamtangan nga nurse sa maong tambalanan nga nakaangkon og daghang samad dinungaban sa dughan ug liog nga miresulta sa iyang hinanali nga kamatayon.

Samtang ang laing naangol nga nadunggaban usab sa tiyan mao ang utillity personnel nga si Francis Justiniare, 21.

Matod ni Police Lieutenant Colonel John Kareen Escober, hepe sa Tagbilaran City police station nga padung na nga i-discharge ang suspetsado human ni maadmit tungod sa sakit nga diarrhea apan giingong wala matod pa kini makauyon sa nasulti sa nurse niadtong Miyerkules sa gabii hinungdan nga nagplano na siya nga iya kining patyon.

Pagkabuntag sa dihang padung na mogawas sa tambalanan ang suspetsado, kalit nga gikuha sa suspetsado ang gunting sa nurse station ug gipanunggab sa makadaghang higayon ang biktima sa dughan ug liog niini.

Human mahagba ang biktima misuway pa unta sa pagtabang si Justiniare apan siya na usab ang gidunggab niini sa tiyan nga maoy hinungdan nga midagan ni pahilayo.

Misurrender hinuon dayon ni sa mga police nga dali nga mi responde sa sulod sa ward sa tambalanan.

“Ingun niya nga wala daw siya makauyon sa sulti sa nurse mao to nga iyang gidunggab sa gunting, motabang unta tong usa, siya nasad ang gidunggab sa tiyan,” matod ni Police Lt. Col. John Kareen Escober.

Dugang ni Escober nga niadtong Martes, Octobre 15, 2024 gidala ang suspetsado sa Bohol Doctors Hospital uban sa lain pang mga tawo human makasinati og pagsakit sa tiyan human sila makakaon sa dinugoan sa usa ka hikay sa ilang lugar sa Barangay Magsaysay, Sevilla Bohol.

Apan nabantayan nila nga dili na maayo ang panghunahuna niini samtang na admit sa tambalanan.

Dugan ni Escober nga niangkno ang suspect nga niadtong 2016, usa siya sa mga drug surrenderer sa ilang lungsod atol sa gilusad nga oplan tokhang sa PNP.

Kasong murder ang giandam nga kaso sa Tagbilaran City police station batok sa suspetsado.

| CDB

25/08/2024

This is a startling fact:

Your behavior is 93% predictable.

Human behavior is 93% predictable.
• (Source: Northeastern University network)

This isn’t just a claim.
It’s a game-changer.
Understanding human behavior can give you an edge in all aspects of life.

Ever wondered why some people are naturally bold,
while others radiate calmness?

The answer lies in the 4 fundamental behavior types:

1. Red Behaviour: The Trailblazers
2. Yellow Behaviour: The Inspirers
3. Green Behaviour: The Balancers
4. Blue Behaviour: The Analysts

Understanding these behavior types is not about labeling.
It’s about fostering better connections.

It’s the key to:
• Conflict resolution.
• Effective communication.
• Building more meaningful relationships.

Discover these behavioral types. ⇣
Learn to identify them.
Set yourself free.

Because when you understand,
you adapt,
you grow, and
you lead.
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24/08/2024

My not-so-popular take on work-life balance:

The Myth of Balance

Over the years, I’ve come across countless articles, workshops, and conversations about achieving the perfect work-life balance. It’s an appealing concept—a harmonious equilibrium where work and life coexist without friction. But I’ve realized something about myself: I don’t do balance. Not in the way it’s typically presented, at least.

For me, life isn’t about maintaining a precarious balance; it’s about embracing the ebb and flow, the push and pull of different aspects of my life. There are seasons where work takes the lead, consuming my time and energy, and there are moments when life demands my full attention, pulling me away from professional obligations. And you know what? That’s okay.

Story Time: The Season of Overcommitment ☕

Last month, I found myself at a crossroads. My workload was increasing, and opportunities I’d been waiting for were finally coming to fruition. At the same time, my personal life was bubbling with activity—family gatherings, friendships needing nurturing, and personal goals I had set aside for too long.

I tried to juggle it all. I said yes to every project, every social invitation, every personal challenge. I wanted to do it all, to have it all. But as the days turned into nights of little sleep and the stress began to build, I had to confront a hard truth: I was overcommitted, and it was starting to take a toll. I couldn't really sleep well at night and waking up in the morning was also challenging. A lot of things to do and a lof of things on my mind. Journaling and meditation help, yes. However, it didn't solve everything.

One evening, after a particularly exhausting day, I sat down and asked myself a question that I had been avoiding: "What am I doing this for?" The answer wasn’t simple, but it was necessary.

The Reality of Prioritization

In that moment of exhaustion, I realized that I had been chasing an ideal that doesn’t exist—not for me, at least. The idea that I could give 100% to every area of my life simultaneously was a myth, a trap that led me to overextend myself until I had nothing left to give.

I had to make a choice. And that choice wasn’t about finding balance; it was about setting priorities. I looked at everything on my plate and made the difficult decision to let some things go, to say no where I needed to, and to allow myself the grace to not have it all figured out.

The Struggle Between Expectations and Reality

This decision wasn’t easy. Like many of us, I’ve been conditioned to believe that success means excelling in every area of life—career, relationships, personal growth—all at the same time. But the reality is that there are times when one aspect of life will take precedence over others, and that’s okay.

When I let go of the need for balance and instead focused on what truly mattered to me in that season, I found a sense of peace. I wasn’t failing; I was making a conscious choice to prioritize what was most important to me at that moment.

A Lesson in Self-Acceptance

What I’ve learned is that life isn’t about achieving a perfect balance; it’s about navigating the tides. It’s about recognizing when you need to pour more of yourself into your work, and when you need to pull back and focus on your personal life. It’s about being okay with the fact that you can’t do it all, all the time.

By letting go of the pressure to balance everything perfectly, I’ve found a more authentic way to live—a way that honors the natural ebb and flow of life. It’s not about balance; it’s about being present and intentional with where I invest my energy.

As I move forward, I carry this lesson with me: that it’s okay not to do it all, that it’s okay to prioritize, and that sometimes, the most balanced thing you can do is to embrace the imbalance and trust yourself to navigate through it.

"Life is not about finding balance; it's about finding your rhythm and dancing to it."

Cheers to your rhythm and dancing to it 🥂

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Over the years, I’ve come across countless articles, workshops, and conversations about achieving the perfect work-life balance. It’s an appealing concept—a harmonious equilibrium where work and life coexist without friction. But I’ve realized something about myself: I don’t do balance. No...

19/08/2024

Stumbled upon a post. Sharing my response. Kaya mo yan! Study. Study. Study. And pray! 💪

16/06/2024

8 visuals that will change how you think:

They cover three core themes I wish I understood at 21:

↳ Experiment
↳ Face your fears and take action
↳ Be patient and consistent

Here are my 8 lessons:

1/ Each Job is an Experiment

↳ Find what you're good at, enjoy, and can get paid for.
↳ Test out many jobs to discover A) your strengths and 😎 your passions.
↳ Use each job to decide your next experiment.

2/ Be Short-Term Impatient, Long-Term Patient

↳ Days are long, but years are short.
↳ Consistent good habits lead to success.

3/ Embrace Ups and Downs

↳ Low moments can spark miraculous changes.
↳ Hold tough times lightly.

4/ Mistakes are Gold

↳ Pain is the best teacher.
↳ Unlearn your fear of mistakes. Embrace mistakes to achieve greatness.

5/ Dreams Lie Beyond Fear

↳ Fear signals you're growing.
↳ Embrace your learning zone.

6/ Plans Will Change

↳ Laugh when things go awry.
↳ Great stories often start with setbacks.

7/ Always Be a Beginner

↳ Starting new things gets scarier with age.
↳ Embrace the beginner's mindset.

8/ Start Now

↳ There's no perfect time to be brave.
↳ Start or regret it. Chasing dreams takes time.

P.S. which visual resonates most with you?

-By Jun Han Chin (Give him a follow)

06/05/2024

Hello everyone! If you are interested to apply, here’s the Google Form for more info:
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04/05/2024

ChatGPT or Gemini? One thing’s for sure… AI is really mindblowing 🤯 Have you tried it yet?!

03/05/2024

The Supreme Court has unanimously ruled that Republic Act No. 9262, or the Anti-VAWC Act grants protection to women-victims not only from men, but also from women, with whom they are in an intimate relationship.

READ: https://sc.judiciary.gov.ph/sc-reiterates-that-anti-vawc-act-also-applies-to-lesbian-relationships/

The Supreme Court has unanimously ruled that Republic Act No. 9262, or the Anti-Violence Against Women and Their Children Act of 2004 (Anti-VAWC Act), grants protection to women-victims not only from men, but also from women, with whom they are in an intimate relationship.

READ: https://sc.judiciary.gov.ph/sc-reiterates-that-anti-vawc-act-also-applies-to-lesbian-relationships/

01/05/2024

May God bless the work of our hands.

This Labor Day, thank God for the gift of work and pray for those still seeking employment. May God bless the work of our hands.

01/05/2024

Salute to all workers!

This Labor Day, we honor all the hardworking Filipinos and their contribution to the country. It is a regular holiday, which means those who will render work today are entitled to double pay.

01/05/2024

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