Eldest Child PH

17/07/2024

palagi 🫶🏻

14/05/2024

08/05/2024

Eldest daughters felt that🥲

11/04/2024

Social media is currently bustling with discussion about one's responsibilities towards their parents, sparked by recent insights from two public figures.

Is giving back to parents a matter of choice or an obligation? Join the conversation and share your thoughts!

11/04/2024

A tight hug to the sisters who became extended parents to siblings or nieces and family.

Not everyone might realize nor appreciate the genuine “ate love”. I couldn’t even compare it to a “mother’s love”. Because, when your mother loves you, although that's very genuine, it's already a given because we are literally once a part of her.

But the sister?
She’s a different single individual from us.
Formed in a different timeline.
And might also have a different personality.
She can even choose to live her own life and be free,
so when she chooses to stay and care and help and love you over herself, that’s a different level of selflessness.

So, appreciate it. Reciprocate.
Not just by words or shallow tears,
but with the most sincere efforts to be better.

Remember, he should have just been a child like you.
But he chose more and everyday choosing to be responsible for your betterment. ❤️

“ANDYAN NAMAN SI ATE"

Isang mahigpit na yakap sa mga ate na naging extended parent na sa mga kapatid o pamangkin at pamilya.

Not everyone might realize nor appreciate the genuine “ate love”. I couldn’t even compare it to a “mother’s love”. Kasi, kapag mahal ka ng nanay mo, although that’s very genuine, given na yun kasi we are literally once a part of her.

Pero yung ate?
She’s a different single individual from us.
Formed in a different timeline.
And might also have a different personality.
She can even choose to live her own life and be free,
so when she chooses to stay and care and help and love you over herself, that’s a different level of selflessness.

So, appreciate it. Reciprocate.
Not just by words or shallow tears,
but with the most sincere efforts to be better.

Tandaan mo, anak lang din sana siya tulad mo.
Pero mas pinili niya at araw-araw pinipili na maging responsable para mapabuti kayo.❤️

26/03/2024

Here are 10 lessons from Debbie Joffe Ellis's book "How to Hug a Porcupine":

1. Identifying Porcupines: The book helps you recognize the characteristics of "porcupine" personalities, those who are difficult, negative, or create conflict. It teaches you to spot these traits in others and even recognize them in yourself.

2. Understanding the "Why" Behind the Quills: Ellis explores the reasons why people might act in prickly ways. She explores factors like past experiences, insecurities, or underlying anxieties that contribute to their behavior.

3. Managing Your Own Reactions: Instead of getting drawn into negativity, the book provides strategies for managing your own emotions and avoiding getting hooked by the porcupine's barbs.

4. Effective Communication Techniques: Ellis offers tools for communicating effectively with difficult people. This includes techniques for setting boundaries, expressing yourself assertively, and fostering productive dialogue.

5. De-escalating Arguments: Learn to navigate disagreements with "porcupines" by employing methods to de-escalate tension, avoid getting defensive, and find solutions that work for both parties.

6. The Power of Empathy: The book emphasizes the importance of developing empathy for those who challenge you. By trying to understand their perspective, you can build bridges and improve communication.

7. Setting Boundaries with Porcupines: "How to Hug a Porcupine" equips you with tools for establishing healthy boundaries with difficult people. This protects your well-being and allows for more positive interactions.

8. Self-Care for Dealing with Difficult People: The book acknowledges the emotional toll of interacting with challenging personalities. It provides self-care strategies to help you manage stress and maintain your emotional resilience.

9. Acceptance: Not Everyone Will Change: Ellis emphasizes that you can't control the behavior of others, but you can control your own reactions. The book teaches acceptance and helps you focus on what you can influence.

10. Finding the "Good" in Difficult People: Sometimes, beneath the prickly exterior lies someone you can connect with. The book encourages you to look for the positive qualities in difficult people and foster a sense of understanding.

By following these lessons, you can navigate challenging relationships with more confidence and compassion, fostering a more peaceful coexistence with the "porcupines" in your life.

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20/10/2023

"In the family's melody, the eldest is the Unseen Wings—gracefully carrying responsibilities, soaring silently, a guardian in the symphony of kinship."

20/10/2023

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