Daily Maiari

06/01/2024

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ANG REYNANG WALANG PAKELAM

Hindi sya nagbibigay ng unsolicited advice pero buong puso syang magbibigay ng kanyang payo KUNG tatanungin mo sya.

Hindi siya nanghihimasok sa pagpapalaki namin sa aming mga anak. Nirerespeto nya kung ano man ang aming pamamaraan.

Hindi siya nagdedemand ng atensyon, suporta o kung ano pa pwedeng i-demand. Alam nyang ang priority ng anak nya ay ako na asawa at ang mga anak namin.

Kung may tampuhan man o alitan kaming mag-asawa, wala syang kinakampihan o ginagatungan, sa halip, tinutulak nya kami pabalik sa isa’t-isa.

Nakaalalay naman siya KUNG talagang kinakailangan, pero never syang nanguna.

Hindi nya ini-insist kung ano ang alam nyang dapat. Para sa kanya, tapos na ang panahon ng pagtuturo saming mga anak nya. Malaya na kaming pumili kung ano sa tingin namin ang tama at makakabuti sa sarili naming pamilya.

Hindi sya pala-silip at lalong di sya pala-comment sa kung paano namin pinapatakbo ang aming sariling kaharian.

YES!

Siya ang REYNA na walang PAKELAM hindi dahil sa wala syang malasakit at pagmamahal, kundi dahil malinaw sa kanya na ako ang REYNA sa binubuo naming tahanan. ♥️

Mapalad akong tunay hindi lang sa aking asawa kundi lalo sa mother-in-law na hindi mala-monster-in-law. 🤭



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18/10/2023

Prioritizing your marriage is a key to happier families. As Mendoza and with Joy wisely put it, “We have to enjoy being together, too. He tells me it’s important that we have fun as a couple because someday our kids will move on… So this is why it’s good to get away once in a while, to remember that we are husband and wife first before we are parents. And we become better parents when we have a good marriage”.

Take a break together, enjoy each other's company, and strengthen your bond. Your kids will benefit from the love and unity you share. 👩‍❤️‍👨

29/08/2023

LEAVE AND CLEAVE 1:

WHY LIVING BESIDE YOUR PARENTS IS BAD FOR YOUR WIFE

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RICHARD:

One afternoon, I heard a story from a lovely mother telling us how she and her husband fell “out of love”.

She said their first 10 years of marriage were good when they were still living abroad together. Trouble started when they moved back to the Philippines to live in a house RIGHT BESIDE her husband’s parent’s home.

From there it was downhill. Having her husband’s family so close invited a shower of FREQUENT CRITICISM over her style of parenting (from the amount of her kid’s allowance, to how she should discipline them).

Now I understand why chinky-eyed Dennis Sy,(the man who married Maricar and I), taught this “LEAVE and CLEAVE seriously during our “engagement seminar”.

Dennis read from the engagement manual, “Therefore a man shall LEAVE his father and mother and shall be joined (CLEAVE) to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”

This sentence has 3 parts:

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1. LEAVE.

This means there are 2 types of relationships.

The PERMANENT relationship is the HUSBAND-WIFE.

The TEMPORARY relationship is the PARENT-CHILD.

Problems occur when these 2 roles are REVERSED and the PARENT-CHILD relationship is treated as the PRIMARY relationship.

(In other words, the parent of the husband gets priority over his own wife, or vice versa)

To leave also means EMOTIONALLY, FINANCIALLY, and PHYSICALLY detach.

Some may have left the family home physically, but remained emotionally and financially bound to the family, which creates a lot of resentment within the spouse.

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2. CLEAVE.

The Hebrew translation means: to PURSUE HARD AFTER SOMEONE/ being GLUED or STUCK TO SOMEONE.

This cleaving implies that there should be NO CLOSER relationship than HUSBAND & WIFE, not with any FRIEND or PARENT.

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3. BECOME ONE.

When a husband or wife receives GREATER emotional support from the parents, RATHER THAN FROM THE SPOUSE, Oneness in a lot of areas of decision-making within the marriage is difficult.

Honestly, I never wanted to leave the family home.

It was very comfortable and most things were paid by my parents.

But now looking back, I realize LEAVING the family home, ALTHOUGH VERY PAINFUL, changed me in ways I could not have experienced had I stayed.

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Here are some of rewards of “Leave and Cleave”:

REWARD 1. STRONGER HUSBAND LEADERSHIP

I learned more RESPONSIBILITY when I ran away from home.

No dad or mom to save your butt.

When I committed mistakes, there was no one else to blame and I had to OWN UP to the consequences.

Oppositely, if a man always has his parents to bail him out, his leadership of his own family becomes dependent on his parents.

The saying is true: “He that PAYS THE RENT, MAKES THE RULES.” It’s sad for a family to be led by the in-laws.

Maricar and I enjoy making our own family guidelines that may not have to be same as our parents’.

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REWARD 2. MORE SECURE & PRIORITIZED WIFE

Our mentors remind us, your marriage vow to God is to keep your wife TOP PRIORITY.

If you secure her this way, she will be your NO.1 SUPPORTER, no matter how difficult your road.

But if a wife feels her “In-Laws” are the priority of her husband, she then, can turn into your WORST ENEMY.

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REWARD 3. DISCOVER YOUR UNIQUE ROAD

If I stayed in our family home/business, I believe I NEVER would have ended up doing WORK THAT I LOVED.

I would have ended up very resentful.

Many have not “found” their destiny because they are afraid and STILL COMFORTABLE, hiding under the family’s shadow.

Conversely, many who took that scary step out are reaping something miraculous that was NEVER THOUGHT POSSIBLE in the family home.

Nobody thought I’d end up singing. Not even me. But I discovered it when I left the nest.

How about you? Are you willing to leave and cleave to strengthen your family relationship & find your own unique road?:)

&Cleave

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