03/02/2020
CHOICE OF LOVE(PART 1) BY OGBODOSKY
Month's past, I talked about how to maintain our relationship. On that post, I focused basically on COMMUNICATION, which I highlighted 5 love languages by GARY CHAPMAN.
How can we speak each other’s love language when we are full of hurt, anger, and resentment over past failures? The answer to that question lies in the essential nature of our humanity. We are creatures of choice. That means that we have the capacity to make poor choices, which all of us have done. We have spoken critical words, and we have done hurtful things. We are not proud of those choices, although they may have seemed justified at the moment. Poor choices in the past don’t mean that we must make them in the future. Instead we can say, “I’m sorry. I know I have hurt you, but I would like to make the future different. I would like to love you in your language. I would like to meet your needs.”
Love doesn’t erase the past, but it makes the future different. When we choose active expressions of love in the primary love language of our spouse, we create an emotional climate where we can deal with our past conflicts and failures.
Everyone in life have his/her choice to make in life. And I once said again that, we should not make decisions when we are too happy and when we are angry. If possible, go to a dark room, take a deep breath, seat down and ponder over the choice and decision you're about to make before clicking on it. Though, any outcome of one's decision is as it own detriment.
But is that really true, or do we have a choice when it comes to falling in love?
That depends a bit upon your definition of choice. We make connections with people all the time, people who we find interesting, attractive, and with whom we have a lot in common. Yet we don’t fall in love with all of them. But, occasionally there is a person that we are more drawn to than anyone else. That make's the choice.
