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21/02/2024

DO NOT LOVE ANYBODY TO THIS EXTENT!

Do not love a person (someone you are romantically involved with or anybody at all) so much that you think it is impossible for them to do any wrong.

Do not love a person so much that you cannot tell them "NO".

Do not love a person so much that you are always willing to do anything and everything to please them.

You are almost obsessed!

Apart from the fact that there is a 99% chance that you would be USED and DUMPED eventually by them (for not having sense), this is a very unhealthy way to be in any relationship.
If you are already in relationship like this; break up/break free from that relationship and get back to your senses...because you are clearly lost.

You are welcome.

18/02/2024

Wait oh!

You don't like wearing the ring you were engaged with because you are keeping your options open, abi?

If you knew you wanted to keep your options open, why did you say yes to the man?

Why did you make him believe that you are ready to marry him?

If you are not "feeling" him, let him know and walk out of his life...make space dey for another person.

As a lady, when a man is serious and intentional about you, don't take him for granted (and vice versa).

It is your life sha!
But stop being a witch (no be all dey fly for night); stop wasting another person's time.

14/11/2023

Happy World Sexual Purity Day!

*xualpurityday

14/11/2023

People see you, but people are not really paying attention to what you are doing (as much as you think they are).
People know about you, but people do not really care (they have other things to worry about).

You need to know this.

13/11/2023

TODAY ON EUPHEMISM

If you are a born again Christian or you just don't curse, cuss, or swear; you need to know that apart from the f-word and the rest, "hell" (not the religious context) and "damn" are swear words, too.

Use "dang" instead of "damn".
Use "heck" instead of "hell".

* It's been a HECK of a ride!
* DANG! This is beautiful.

I hope you understand.

02/11/2023

When you notice that a person you want to be friends with doesn't want to be friends with you, respect yourself and stop trying!

01/11/2023

AITANA BONMATI AND LIONEL MESSI

Frame 1:
The undisputed GOAT of football,
Lionel Messi:

• First and only player to win the Ballon d'Or in the 2000s, 2010s, and 2020s.

• Oldest player to win the Ballon d'Or.

• First player outside of Europe to win the Ballon d'Or.

• First player to win the Ballon d'Or with 3 clubs.

• First player to ever win 8 (2009, 2010, 2011, 2012, 2015, 2019, 2021, 2023) Ballon d'Ors.

Messi is Infinity!

Frame 2:
Aitana Bonmati, the Women's Ballon d'Or winner, 2023.

Aitana Bonmatí is the first player to win:

The World Cup Golden Ball,
The UEFA Women’s Player of the Year,
and The Women's Ballon d'Or.

The only Spanish player to be named Player of the Tournament at a senior World Cup .

• Liga F (with Barcelona Femeni).
• Super Copa (with Barcelona Femeni).
• Champions League (with Barcelona Femeni).
• World Cup champion (with Spain).
• World Cup Golden Ball.

Both made in La Masia de Can Planes.

30/10/2023

If you make it clear to me, by your actions or words, that you do not want me around or in your life anymore; I would leave you immediately.

There is nothing personal about it. I love my peace of mind, and I'd respect you enough to let you be. I don't want to be a burden for anybody.

Don't try coming back for any reason, I'm not that accessible...it won't work! We are good, but, we have better things to do with our lives.
Move on!

27/10/2023

So many relationships people have now should have been avoided while dating, but most people were too blinded and driven by emotions, body, and money, that they could not see the glaring red flags boldly waved before them. Unfortunately, this still happens, and it will always happen.

27/10/2023

I have said this countless times, there is always a need for vetting and prayer before accepting to be in a relationship with a person.
At least, thoroughly vet the person you want to start a relationship with, before going on with the relationship.
How many more times do you want to be told this?

I am not trying to be insensitive (even if I try, I can't), but I am not surprised that young girls are being killed by their boyfriends.

The thing is, sadly, many more of this will happen. Young girls would keep thinking they are too smart to fall victim. Okay oh!

It doesn't necessarily need to be death, it could be abuse (physical, emotional, etc), any red flag at all; be very careful!

There are so many good people in the world today, but always KNOW a person very well, before getting intimate.

You can't know a person completely, though, but there'll always be signs and clues to help you know a person.
Also, prayer and leadership of the Holy Spirit are very necessary parts of any relationship.
Oh, should we scratch that (for non-Christians)?
Okay, but VET that girl, boy, man, or woman before getting seriously involved with them!

If you are a person who always falls in love with people you meet online, good for you! There is nothing wrong with that, but be careful; I beg you!

There a lot of bad people out there, protect yourself, be observant, be attentive, and be very careful!!

26/10/2023

It's okay to admire a beautiful lady, it's okay to imagine marrying her. But it's not okay to undress her with yours eyes, fantasize about "feeding" on her "s*xy" body. That's lust! Stop it!

26/10/2023

YOUR MISTAKES DO NOT DEFINE YOU.

I do not blame people for making mistakes or judge based on the mistakes they made; they are human, and every human makes mistakes.

Even though some mistakes are graver than others, some people's own are worse than others'; but that does not mean they should be defined by the mistakes they made.

People make mistakes because of different reasons; being naive, overwhelmed, confused, depressed, sick, afraid, desperate, ignorant, excited, emotional, disappointed, hurt, etc.

Most of these people (who make some terrible mistakes) have really been in a seriously bad place, we should not make them feel worse.

Let us try to help them heal (if they want), let us not use every opportunity we get to rub it on their face and remind them of the bad place they were at the time.
This would only hurt them the more and could even lead them to do worse, harm themselves, etc.

Yes, let them know that they must be accountable for their actions, life happens, and the deeds have been done; but be tactful, empathetic, considerate, and sensitive.

We have all made mistakes, if you have not made any yet, it means that you have not experienced life enough...but you will, soon. It is inevitable, and mistakes make us more experienced and better.

Mistakes should not define anybody.

I hope you understand.

18/10/2023

I prefer meeting offline to meeting online.

We wouldn't have to wonder when we would see each other, and no one has to wonder what the other person looks like.

14/10/2023

Concentrate on running your race; that's what matters.

10/10/2023

Happy World Mental Health Day!

29/09/2023

Intimacy is very important in a romantic relationship, that is why it is called an "intimate" relationship; but this intimacy does not mean s*x, it means deeper and closer connection, it means relationship that is much more intimate than normal friendship.

Most people don't know this, and so many people refuse to accept this truth.
They just conclude that intimacy means s*x.

Parents and children have intimacy, siblings have intimacy, family members have intimacy, friends have intimacy, and romantic partners have intimacy, too.

There are different types of intimacy, but the important, necessary, required, and needed type in a romantic relationship are emotional intimacy and spiritual intimacy.

As an unmarried person, you can enjoy a healthy intimate relationship without s*xual intimacy...it is not needed.
But when you become married, physical and s*xual intimacy are added to the existing emotional and spiritual intimacy.
This is the time they become needed, compulsory, acceptable, appropriate, and right.

Physical intimacy and s*xual intimacy can be used interchangeably, but they mean different things.

Sexual intimacy means s*x or any form of s*xual relation. A very good example of physical intimacy is the intimacy between a mother and her baby.

If you are an unmarried Christian in a romantic relationship, be very careful of the way you allow "physical touch", it can inevitably/suddenly lead to "s*xual touch".
Physical touch can make you get carried away if you are not very careful; allow decent and limited physical touches only.

This is why, unlike most relationship experts, coaches, therapists, and counsellors; I always emphasize on "physical presence" instead of "physical touch" in a relationship (for unmarried Christians); because it is one of the main factors that makes a relationship healthy, successful, and to stand the test of time.

*xualpurity

29/09/2023

I don't know why a person with earrings would condemn a person with nosering.
I don't know why someone with a chain on their neck and wrist would condemn a person with leg chain.
Ignorance or hypocrisy? Choose one.
Actually, you are doing the same thing differently; you are doing what you are familiar with.

So many people in certain climes now see people with leg chains and nose rings as immoral (some actually are, but most of them are easily being stereotyped).

Most people condemn the things they don't understand and/or the things that are strange to them.
You don't like it, right? It is okay.

But as far as it doesn't hurt you or anyone, as far as it doesn't have negative consequences, as far as it is not illegal, as far as it is modest, as far as it doesn't cause you or are others to sin, and as far as it is not sin; let people be!

29/09/2023

This thing people do, switching off their emotions, so not to catch feelings.

You foresee a situation where you could start to "talk", date, and eventually get into a relationship with a person, but you avoid it (situation), so that it doesn't happen.
You start talking with a person, but suddenly become distant because you don't want anything serious to happen between the two of you.
You intentionally don't want to have deep conversations that would lead you to start connecting emotionally.
Avoiding that very nice/sweet person, ending anything even before it starts.
You repeatedly ruin every opportunity you have to connect with a potential romantic partner.
All these are done even while socializing quite well, but carefully avoiding falling in love.

If you are doing all these (and more) with a very good reason, like not being ready for a relationship; well, it is your choice.
Honestly, you are doing well! Because it is better to be single, than to be in a relationship when you are unready.

But if you are doing this unintentionally or out of fear; you need to get help.
If it because of a past experience, you need to heal.
Sometimes, the healing/the help would come from your effort (within); sometimes, you need to talk to someone.

I hope you understand.

❤️

29/09/2023

There is no "right time" to shoot your shot; you could be waiting for what you think is the right time, and lose the person (you are interested in) to a more serious person.

Every chat, call, text, meeting, is an opportunity to do the needful (shoot)!

Sometimes we feel we are going to be or be seen as being too forthright, because in this case, it is natural to be considering what the person you like thinks of you.

Stop playing around, go straight to the point.
Let them know your intentions and let them see the green light from you.

Anything is possible; you could be accepted, you could be rejected, you could be pursued, or you could be ignored.
If things go as planned, very well!

But if things don't go as planned, it is not the end of the world. You would always meet people who deserve to be with you.

Stop delaying!

29/09/2023

At some point, some people will be tired of trying to understand you.
You will get tired of trying to understand certain people.

You are gonna be misunderstood.
People will misunderstand you.

But what really matters is that you don't get tired of understanding yourself.

Use this information wisely.

27/09/2023

You don't need to say "I love you" to every person you really love, because a lot of them would misunderstand you, they'd get ideas, and you would be raising the person's hopes.

Most times, it is better to show it in your actions than to express it in words.

There is nothing wrong with saying "I love you" to anybody, but be very careful; you could get more than what you bargained for.

The point here is, if it is an acquaintance; make sure you assess them and know the level of their comprehension, before telling them you love them.
You could love them agape love, but they might think you are talking about romantic love.
You could be surprised to find out that they really want you to go extra miles (unnecessarily) for them, because you told them you love them.

In all your dealings with people, be careful, empathetic, observant, wise, and tactful.

❤️

20/09/2023

I always try my best to be sincere with any lady I start getting seriously involved with, because I am not a kid to be playing around.

I let her know that I am not made yet, I am still building, I want the best for her, and I'd never want to deprive her of the life she wants and desires; because I'm
But, I am as sure as death that I will be there quite soon.

To the lady:
Don't let us start this if you are here for short-term, I do long-term - till marriage.
Don't try faking it because of what you're seeing now, be genuine with me (because if you're not, interestingly, I would know).

And, you will certainly see and meet better guys, just like I will see and meet better ladies; but once I'm committed to you, I become blind to other women; you become my all, my focus, my world, and the best woman in the world.
I become all yours, and you, all mine.
Your dreams will all come true and you'll be the best you can be.
.....

So, if she is ready for the ride, we do life together, support each other always, and bring the best out of each other, produce a great family, bless the families that produced us, and impart the world positively to the glory of God.

I'm told that I'm very romantic.

20/09/2023

MOST OF YOUR ENTERTAINMENT INDUSTRY FAVOURITES ARE UNBELIEVERS, AND YOU KNOW IT!

Unless it is caught on camera and released illegally, every "leaked" s*x tape out there is either released by a blackmailer or by the person in it (rarely and as a publicity stunt) on purpose.

Who are these blackmailers? Their s*x mates, their s*xual partners, those they commit fornication and adultery with.

Why would the "leaked" s*x tape of a celebrity surprise you, when you already know they are unbelievers and IN the world?
I mean, these people always boldly show that they are worldly, and that they are deeply into in fornication and adultery; so, why are you people always "shocked" when their s*x tapes are released?

Apart from being a Christian believer, which sane person records him/herself during s*x, if it is not voyeurism, for s*x-chats, for ma********on, or a (s*xual) fe**sh?

Interestingly, when a s*x tape is leaked, a lot of Christians (people who publicly condemn po*******hy and s*xual immorality) are the ones desperate to watch.

I talked about voyeurism (SO MANY PEOPLE ARE VOYEURS) during that demonic trend, "silhouette challenge"; deriving (s*xual) pleasure from: watching p**n, watching s*x scenes, seeing naked people, secretly or openly watching people having s*x/s*xual relations.

If they didn't record themselves, then they were recorded unbeknownst to them; and it is either during fornication or adultery; not in a marital setting.

A person's spouse would never record them during s*x, unless they both agree to practice voyeurism or they are in a s*xually abusive relationship...and they want to destroy the person.

But this is not the case with your favorites.

❤️

14/09/2023

Some people do not love you, they only love the way you love them.
Do not be deceived!

11/09/2023

What shall it profit a man to call caring men "simps", but be a chronic simp via DMs?
Some simps actually call out other simps.
Very funny!

08/09/2023

The last time I kissed was a long time ago, 2012 to be precise.
Sometimes I just want to feel it again, have it, and enjoy it; but at what cost?

Sometimes I just want to have s*x, because I'm s*xually aroused. I could go on with it, and ask God for forgiveness afterwards, right?
But I choose to keep my body holy for God and only for my wife.

As an unmarried Christian, it is neither wrong nor sinful to feel like kissing, cuddling, caressing, or having s*x; but please, do not dwell on that thought; if you do, it could eventually lead to lustful fantasies.

In fact, as an unmarried person, to kiss and cuddle are not sin; but they CAN lead to sin, they create SEXUAL INTIMACY and VULNERABILITY, and they s*xual spark that bring about explosion.

You are human, you willl always have these feelings.
Any human being without these feelings is seriously sick.

But, you see this holiness and heavenly race? As God is helping us, we must also help ourselves. It is never easy but it is very possible.

We can't always do what we feel like or want to, we can't just do what others are doing...we belong to God's Kingdom, so we do not behave anyhow.

Sometimes your body will give you a loud and sharp reminder that you are flesh and blood; but you must always remember that the grace to stay pure is always available and sufficient for every interested person...every believer.

This is why we don't randomly go into a romantic relationship with anybody, just because they are handsome, beautiful, our spec/type, attractive, sweet, loving, interested in us, and/or available.
If they are not of the same beliefs, values and faith, please back off!
If you are born again, have a born again boy/girlfriend.
If your boy/girlfriend is not a believer, my dear, you are going to bore them with your "holy holy" lifestyle.

It is better to be single than to be with someone who would motivate you, inspire you, encourage you, or stimulate you to sin.

NB: Even as a born again Christian, when you are with your born again Christian boy/girlfriend, fiancé or fiancée; you will definitely be s*xually aroused sometimes.
But you must be very careful!

Learn to control yourself!

May God help us!

06/09/2023

I had my first girlfriend when I was in SS1, she was in SS2 (in another school), we were both teenagers age-mates, but she was a bit older.
Something happened one fateful night, somehow, she slept in my bed.
It was not planned, it just happened; I don't want to go into details.
I covered her with a blanket, left her there, and went to sleep on the chair (not couch); there was one in the room.

So, yes, it is actually possible to share a room or even a bed with your boy/girlfriend and not do "anything".
But, when it becomes a habit; when it becomes a regular thing, something must eventually happen!

Sandra went to her boyfriend's house by 11pm, and really expected nothing to happen.
I mean, no s*xual relation/activity at all between them.
why would Sandra visit her boyfriend that late and eventually blame him when "something" happens?
I'm against it, but who is to blame?
Come on!

Before you start saying: "it is possible", let's look at this realistically, logically, and sincerely.

Did you know that some people get s*xually turned on only when they are with someone they have feelings for?

You have not eaten since morning, and later in the evening, you are taken to a room full of different dishes (food); is it possible to control yourself and not eat?
Yes, it is! But, realistically, how many people would not rush to devour the food?
Anybody can jump from a moving car and not get injured, right? Because it is possible; but what is the probability that they could get injured or a scratch at least?
High, right?

Show me anybody who goes to their boyfriend's or girlfriend's very late in the night, and not even make out at least, I will wait.

The worse cases are those ones who live at their boyfriend's/girlfriend's; they have unlimited access to each other's body.

You live with your girlfriend and you're telling me "nothing (at all) is happening" you dey whine me?
Trust me, you're lying!

Is it possible to stay with a girl/boy you are into, without having any s*xual relation? Yes, it is very possible! But how many people would pass that test?
And even the very few who would pass the test, how long before they fail it?
If you are disciplined enough to hold yourselves, if you don't stop the practice (of living with your unmarried partner or going to sleep over), it would only be a matter of time before you s*xually give in. It starts with one person being s*xually aroused.

There are things you don't need the Holy Spirit to do for you - things like having common sense to know that when you are with a person you love romantically, there must always be emotional vulnerability.
And this lowers every wall of defence, and it would always lead to s*xual vulnerability. Sexual vulnerability would make you really consider opening up s*xually and even readily to your partner (boy/girlfriend, husband, wife, fiancé, or faincée).
That's the compromising situation!

That's why we have always been advised to FLEE!

All these:
"He said he just wants to kiss..."
"We just cuddled."
"We only made out."
"We didn't plan it.'
"We had s*x, but it would never happen again."
"We just did it once, and we promised ourselves not to do it again."
"I don't know how it happened." etc. can only happen when you are in a compromising situation and/or position.

EXTRA: If your unmarried partner or someone else (somebody you are attracted to or a person who is attracted to you) is drunk or genuinely in need of comfort, and is pouring out their heart to you - maybe they are very sad or going through tough times; don't be alone with them.
I mean, those one-on-one physical alone time with them.
You would most likely get lost in emotions and give in.

It is not always planned.

I hope you understand.

*xualpurity
❤️

04/09/2023

I saw a tweet on X some days ago; it was about some specific pastors.
According to the tweet, they are always right and can never be wrong about anything.

Quite funny!

To be clear, I'm not implying that they did anything wrong or that they have done anything wrong, but to think this way is quite dangerous.

For you to think that a human being, no matter how good, wise, or righteous they are, can do no wrong, is dangerous.
This mentality has made people vulnerable and gullible.
This is why some people don't even have faith for themselves.
Some people have even placed their pastors before God, unknowingly.

That is why the fake ones (and the ones who have conformed to carnality) can feed on people's fear and manipulate them easily.
You should: respect them, honour them, believe in them, pray for them, seek their counsel, acknowledge them, listen to them, be a source of blessing to them, sow into their lives/ministries, and pray for them, too; but it is dangerous to follow them (ANYBODY at all) blindly, without allowing the Holy Spirit to direct you, because you think they can never be wrong.
This is why you should always pray for them; it is extremely important!

They could innocently make mistakes without even realizing oh!
They could say their mind and their views in different contexts, and it could make you confused.
They may not cover all perspectives at times, not on purpose.
They may dislike a thing as a person, but that doesn't mean that thing is wrong/sinful.
They are also human beings with feelings, emotions, likes and dislikes.
They could make a judgement or conclusion wrongly, even when they mean well.

This does not mean they are fake or not genuinely called by God.
It means they are humans, too; and we must not follow any human being blindly.
I'm not implying that they want to mislead us or are misleading us, but because I want you to have the mentality that God is the only one who can do no wrong.
It is just like saying a person is always right; no, nobody is always right!

Sometimes, they could convey their opinions (not what God told them) to their audience/congregation, without meaning any harm; and it could be just one man's perspective, and contextual.
They could be wrong about a fact and talk about it based on their understanding of the subject.

As human beings, no matter how educated and exposed we are, we have limited understanding of certain things; and if we are not very careful, we could conclude or judge wrongly, based on our understanding of the subject.

I want you to know that this applies to everyone; teachers, lecturers, professors, pastors, parents, experts, coaches, specialists, consultants, Nobel prize winners, etc.

Filter every information you receive.
So, allow the Holy Spirit to teach and guide you; He is the only one who always right.

I hope you understand.

04/09/2023

When you are in the "talking stage" and when you go on dates; ask open-ended questions.
So many of you are too predictable and boring!

04/09/2023

𝙔𝙊𝙐 𝙎𝙃𝙊𝙐𝙇𝘿 𝙆𝙉𝙊𝙒 𝙏𝙃𝙀𝙎𝙀:

Never feel guilty for not having feelings for a person who has feelings for you.
You did nothing wrong for not loving them back. It is just unfortunate, but it is not your fault; that's life for you.

You are only wrong if you knowingly lead a person on, when you know you have no feelings for them.
So, stop being too sweet to a person that you make them start having ideas.

There should be a limit to your "sweetness"; endeavour to improve/work on your emotional intelligence...and actually, use your common sense!
You don't have to explain why you don't love a person back, you don't have to explain why you don't feel anything for a person; it is unnecessary!

Not everyone can continue being friends with you when you tell them you don't feel anything for them. In fact, very few can continue being your friend for real.

They are not fools and it doesn't mean they have any ulterior motive; but it is extremely rare.
If a person is no more friends with you because you don't reciprocate their feelings for you, let them be, that is the only way some people can heal and move on.
They don't need to explain their decision to you; you're not entitled to any explanation from them.

Don't love out of pity; if you do, you'd eventually be pitied.
That is pure pity and not love.
It is very dangerous!

If A doesn't love B the way B loves A, it is unwise for A to want to compensate B with a "pity love". With time, A would eventually start being unable to continue pretending. The pity may (very likely) eventually become resentment, and the relationship would become toxic.
A person could like you very much, could love you deeply, but not attracted to you romantically.
Not every "love" is romantic love.

Also, when a person you trust with sensitive details about your life doesn't (always) let you in on sensitive details about their life, it means they don't regard you highly, they don't trust you, and/or you are not as important to them as you thought.

Know your place, respect yourself, and move on with your life.
There are hundreds of millions of people who would make you feel special.
I hope you understand.

❤️

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