31/07/2023
The Perfect Husband
For modern non-Muslim western women, the "perfect husband" is a working man who also cooks, cleans the house, does laundry, and changes diapers as much, or more than, she does.
This is a constant theme in movies, popular TV shows, viral tiktok videos, books, and even in conversations with non-Muslim women in real life.
I watched a YouTube video where a newlywed wife was talking about her life, her very recent marriage, and her demanding full-time job as a nurse. She gushed about her new husband being a "perfect husband" because he cooks dinner for her, cleans the apartment, and does the dishes. Her job was exhausting as she often worked 14-hour shifts, so she loved that she came home to a clean home and a hot dinner.
So I started reflecting on this notion, and I thought, "Why do these women see the perfect husband as a husband who helps out a lot domestically? Why doesn't she, for example, prefer that he completely provide for her and her children financially 100%? Wouldn't that be a better deal? Wouldn't complete financial security without her having to lift a finger be more of an obvious advantage to a woman than a husband who's willing to cook dinner in the kitchen with her? Wouldn't she prefer to be relaxed at home and not be forced to work 14-hour shifts at a job in the first place?"
But then I realized: women who have these kinds of preferences and priorities are heavily influenced by feminism, and as such, a man being the sole financial provider wouldn't be their preference-- it would be their worst nightmare!
Because to feminists, the money coming solely from the man means bad things. It means that she, as the woman, is his dependent. That she relies on him totally for her financial needs. That she is "at his mercy," and "under his thumb," and "under his control." That she has to actually...(gasp!)...TRUST her husband.
A feminist's worst nightmare.
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