An-Nur Islamic Consults

06/11/2023

MARKAZ NURUL-QUR'AN WAL-HADITH:
Centre for Qur'anic and Hadiths Studies, Isalekoto Annex, Temidire Community, Medina Area, Ilorin.

As-Salam Alaikum Warahmatullah Wabarakatuh...

The above mentioned centre (Madrasah) wish to invite you to her 1st (maiden)

SHA'ADATUL-QUR'AN
&
FUNDRAISING/LAUNCHING for the building of madrasah.

Which will in shaa Allah come up as stipulated below;
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DATE: 24th of December, 2023
Equivalent to Hijir: 11th of Jumada Thaani, 1445 A.H.

TIME: 9:00am prompt (Bi'znillah Tahallah)

VENUE: Alfa Isalekoto Annex, Temidire Community, Medina Area, Ilorin.

QUEST LECTURER:
Fadhilat Sheikh Sulyman Umar Faruq Babatunde Soibul-Bayan Watib'yan (Sultonul-Wahizina)

CHIEF HOST:
Fadhilat Sheikh Lukman Mukhtar Isalekoto (Founder, Al-Hikmah Al-Baligah)

SIGNED:
Fadhilatu-l-Mudir Al-Imam Nurudeen Mukhtar Isalekoto (Imam Temidire)

YOUR PRESENCE WOULD BE HIGHLY RECOGNIZED AND APPRECIATED.

Jazakumullah Khairan Jazah as you honoured this invitation

12/07/2023

Whatever makes you sad or depressed right now, will vanish at the moment you start being positive. Be happy, look back to the good moments and look forward to a better future.

06/07/2023

😭😭😭 A VERY SAD TRUE LIFE STORY 😭😭😭

THIS LIFE IS NOT BALANCE AT ALL: Your suffering is a joke when you see how somebody else are experiencing real sufferness.

I met a boy yesterday in one of the public secondary school. I noticed he isolated himself in one corner of the school premises and was seriously crying 😭😭😭. I approached him and asked him what's the problem, why are you crying 😭😭😭? He told me he's hungry.

I asked him why he's not eating, he said he's fasting. Then, I encouraged him not to cry 😭 again and I also told him the benefits of fasting without knowing that he's been forced to be fasting just because his parent is very poor and have no food at home to eat.

I came to realized this when I noticed that his crying 😭😭😭 was even gotten louder when I was leaving. Then I turned back and asked for the real reason of his crying 😭😭😭.

He told me the story of his poor parent how they always forced him and his siblings to fast any day they are short of foodstuffs at home...

*Subuhanallah* 😭😭😭 this is exactly where my tears 😭😭😭 also rolled out uncontrollable of my eyes.

MY PRAYER POINT:
My prayer this morning for this poor family and other poor families out there is that, Almighty Allah will bless and ease all your affairs bi'znillah Tahallah 😭😭😭

اللهم لا سهل إلا ما جعلته سهلا وأنت تجعل الحزن إذا شئت سهلا 🤲

04/07/2023

30/06/2023

THE BEAUTY OF ISLAM...

By: Imam Nurudeen Mukhtar Isalekoto

This is why we are called Muslims... Meaning those who surrendered and dedicate their whole lives in serving their Maker.

The Noble Qur'an says:

(قل إن صلاتي ونسكي ومحياى ومماتي لله رب العالمين ،لا شريك له وبذلك أمرت وانا اول المسلمين)

"Say ('O Muhammad saw), my prayers, my sacrifices, my life and death are for ALLAH swt, the Lord of the universe, no partner with Him and that's what have been commanded (to do and say) and I am the first amongst those who surrendered to Him (ALLAH swt)

We are in Hajj season. Few days ago we witness our fellow Muslims in Mecca at Arafah to perform the most strongest pillar in Hajj rituals.

A couple of days ago "last Wednesday" Muslims around the world also prayed Eidul-Adha in their various countries.

We are now in the days known in Islam as "Ayaamu-Tashreeq" (ايام التشريق). That's 3 consercutive days after Eidul-Adha. They are days of eating, drinking and the remembering of ALLAH swt. You can't fast in these days, except those performing Hajj that will end tomorrow Saturday. That's why we praise and glorify ALLAH swt after every daily prayers not done on ordinary days. But only in these days.

And today we are in another Eid. The Eid that comes every week. The Eid of Jumma'a prayers. A Muslim's life evolves around the serving his Maker.

LET US LEARN TWO SUNNAH HERE IN REGARDS TO FRIDAY PRAYERS:

1. It's a Sunnah for the Imam to deliver a short but meaningful Khutbah while his prayers should be little longer. In Hadith ROSULULLAH saw said:

(أن طول صلاة الرجل وقصر خطبته مئنة من فقهه، فاطيل الصلاة واقصروا الخطبة)

"Long prayers of a man and how short he makes his Khutbah is a sign of his good knowledge (Fiqhi), so prolong your prayers and make your Khutbah short.

Actually, long Jumma'a Khutbah is not Sunnah. Some Imams Khutbah can take up to one hour. It's not right. At least, 30 to 40mins should be enough for both Khutbah and prayers.

2. The second Sunnah on Fridays too is to pray four Raka'ats after the congregational prayers. In Hadith ROSULULLAH saw said:

(اذا صليتم بعد الجمعة فصلوا اربعا)

"If you pray Nafilah after Jumma'a then pray 4 Raka'ats".

That's if you can, but if you want to pray 2 or none too, no problem with that. Because it's a Sunnah.

May Allah swt give us the best of His gifts in these blessed days. May He accept our acts of worships.

اللهم صل على محمد وال محمد وصحبه وسلم تسليما كثيرا.

27/06/2023

TOMORROW WEDNESDAY IN SHAA ALLAH MOST MUSLIMS AROUND THE GLOBE WILL OBSERVE EIDUL ADHA PRAYERS.

By: Imam Nurudeen Mukhtar Isalekoto

Alhamdulillah, today is the Arafah day. And it's the only Arafah day recognized by the heaven and earth. Because of the presents of the Pilgrims on the Arafah ground in Saudi Arabia.

Because, there's no any Arafah ground but only in the Saudi Arabia. There are more learned scholars who fear ALLAH swt in the Saudi Arabia more than any place on the earth.

The scholars in Saudi Arabia will never mislead the Ummah by false and lies presentation.

We follow Saudi Arabia because we trust them and because the Qiblah is on their soil. Allah swt, chose them to lead the Ummah that's why Rosulullah (saw) came from them, and our Qiblah is situated there.

If you fail to consider today as the Arafah day, know that you are calling the entire Ummah liars. And Allah swt will never allow the entire Ummah to be on the wrong side. So you are the most ignorant man who got lost.

Anyday other than today is not a Arafah day. We don't have Nigerian, Ghanaian or Egypt Arafah day. What we have is one Arafah day for the Ummahtul Islam. And it's the day declared by the custodians of ALLAH'S Holy land. Mecca or Ka'abah.

You can follow your local people decision to differ from the Saudi Arabia and the majority of Muslims. But know that, your local Arafah day is not recognize by ALLAH swt. We don't have different Arafah days in Islam. If you think that, then that's ignorance and arrogance.

We are observing Eidul Adha tomorrow Wednesday In shaa ALLAH as known and accepted by ALLAH swt, His messenger and the entire Ummahtul Islam. Most Muslim are praying Eid tomorrow those who differ to do so are going against the normal practice in Islam. Eidul Adha must be observed a day after the Arafah day. No one can challenge this, but the ignorant one.

It's today the entire Ummah fasted to observe Arafah day. Any other day fasting is not because of Arafah day but misleading and arrogance. You can't do that in Islam. Arafah ground is not in your local country.

It's a day like this Allah swt descends and pride Himself with the Pilgrims on the Arafah day and not your local Arafah day. It's the after the Arafah day, known in Islam as Eidul Adha day or 10th of Dhul-Hijjah.

May Allah swt free us from the Hell fire because of the greatness of this day as said by Rosulullah (saw). EIDUL-MUBARAK.... Everyone

27/06/2023

TODAY IS ARAFAH DAY...

Spear me some times to read the following beneficial messages. Jazakumullah Khairan Jazah 🤲

26/06/2023

TOMORROW TUESDAY IS THE DAY OF ARAFAH 09/12/1444 - 27/06/2023

Fasting on the day of Arafah take away your SINS from the previous year and the following year. This is a golden opportunity for us Muslims, don't miss it all.

May ALLAH Strengthen our Hearts and make it possible for us to do it, Ameeena Yah Allah 🙏 Everyone

25/06/2023

RAM OR RAMLESS...

All you need to say is ALHAMDULILLAH for the gift of life.

By: Imam Nurudeen Mukhtar Isalekoto

Its the eid season and the "eid feeling" is here already, it can clearly be perceived in the air. What a feelings! Many men are busy ordering for rams, travelling to buy rams while some are saving money to buy it.

However, some muslims have taken the issue of ram so serious as if its the 6th pillar of islam.

Some even go to the extent of borrowing loans to get it, so that it won't be said that: "SO YOU WERE NOT ABLE TO KILL RAM?"

Hence, not everyone kills it purely for the sake of Allah but for the sake of the words of people.

Being able to afford a fat ram is not a ticket to jannah and not being able to afford at all, it is not a ticket to hell.

Many people who kill 50 rams in their entire lifetime, yet they may still enter hell because of one reason or the other. And many poor people who couldn't afford even a single ram in his entire lifetime, yet he may enter jannah without hisab. Such is life!

So being unable to perform the sacrifice with a ram does not make you "LESS OF A MAN", you are still the head of your family. Don't become depressed and don't start lying to your family or making false promises to them.

Don't jealous or envy those men who are able to afford it, don't evict your tenant or increase the house-rent simple because he has bought his ram while you (the landlord) is not able to afford it.

Many muslims exaggerate so much about their rams that they post pictures of it on social media, some go about announcing the prices at which they bought their big rams. Don't let all this weigh you down.

On the otherhand, many men also underrate this issue, they have money to buy phones/laptops of 100k, but they make flemsy excuses not to buy rams. Some are sowing agbada and cap worth 50k to 100k, yet they refuse to buy rams. They see it as a "WASTE" of money.

Almighty Allah says in Surah Al-Hajj, Verse 37:

لَن يَنَالَ اللَّهَ لُحُومُهَا وَلَا دِمَاؤُهَا وَلَٰكِن يَنَالُهُ التَّقْوَىٰ مِنكُمْ كَذَٰلِكَ سَخَّرَهَا لَكُمْ لِتُكَبِّرُوا اللَّهَ عَلَىٰ مَا هَدَاكُمْ وَبَشِّرِ الْمُحْسِنِينَ

"There does not reach Allah their flesh nor their blood, but to Him is acceptable the guarding (against evil) on your part; thus has He made them subservient to you, that you may magnify Allah because He has guided you aright; and give good news to those who do good (to others)."

It is not the meat or blood that reaches Allah, but its the piety in our hearts. Don't call it "a mere Sunnah", the sunnah is not "mere", it can MAR you or MAKE you.

In summary, do not let the words of the people grieve you, also do not do it because of people.

If you have 2, 3 or 4 wives and you are not able to buy a ram, you haven't lost your status, don't go and borrow loan from banks just to buy ram which you will later blame yourself when paying back with interest.

Wives too should not start comparing their husbands to other men who have purchased their rams. Its called " EIDUL-ADHA" not a ram display competition.

Live according to your means....

May Allah spear our lives to witness the great day of eid in good health and much wealth.

Ameena yah Allah!

EID-UL-MUBARAK IN ADVANCE.

23/06/2023

HOW PROBLEMS START IN MARRIAGE...?

Based on my experience as a married man I can tell you with absolute certainty that this is what's happening in many marriages.

When you first met your wife, she was the most beautiful woman. You called her your Queen, your darling, your baby, your sweet heart. Soon, you got married, life was good. You loved each other so much. Then sudden he got pregnant, sudden her looks began to change, from a beauty queen to something else. Her face and legs swelled. She loses her shape and figures. After she put to bed, she started to breastfeed your child, her tummy protrudes. She looks like she is in her 60s or 70s.

Now, Instead of you to help her repair herself body, improve her beauty, get rid of that tummy and swelling, you simply abandon her. You dislike her looks. You some times hate to see her. Suddenly your darling become get out of my face, or I don’t want to see you. So problems starts. You start to creates problems that don’t exist. You make every thing a big deal. Then you start to see other women.

Brother look, a woman is like a Car. When you purchase a Car, after sometimes, you need to repair it, sometimes you service the engine, sometimes you change some parts with new parts. All in order to enjoy driving it and to live longer.

Likewise a woman. She cooked for you for years, dresses you for years, conceive for you for years, breastfeed your child until her beautiful breasts collapse. Now both you and your children have drained and exhausted her. So what should you do? You repair her. Take her to place where people are fixed after their delivery. Give her money to collect those post pregnancy therapies. Buy good cosmetics and body creams for her. Buy new jewelries, buy new cloths. Make her comfortable. Take her out time to time. That's how you fix her.

but Instead, as soon as she begin to get tired, most Muslim men would start to ask for Fatwa, they want to marry again.

Brother, the problem is not your wife, the problem is you. Even if you marry 100 women, they will also deteriorate because that's the nature of life. Everything deteriorates with time. I’m sure if many men were to take good care of their wives, their wives will last longer, their body and shape will remain intact.

Please be just in your house. And Take care of them. They need it. May Allah SWT bless all our marriages. Ameeena Yah Allah 🙏

23/06/2023

HADITH ON FRIDAYS AND IT'S MORALS.

By: Imam Nurudeen Mukhtar Isalekoto

In Hadith ROSULULLAH (saw) said:

(لا يغتسل رجل يوم الجمعة ويتطهر ما استطاع من طهر، ويدهن من دهنه أو يمس من طيب بيته، ثم يخرج فلا يفرق بين الاثنين، ثم يصلي ما كتب له ثم ينصت إذا تكلم الامام ،الا غفر له ما بينه وبين الجمعة الأخرى)

"A person (Muslim) would not take spiritual bath on Friday, then purifies himself then put ointment on himself or touches some perfume from his home, then goes out to prayers and won't cause the seperations between any two people, then when he reaches Masjid, he will prays Nafilats as he can, then keeps quite when the Imam starts to deliver his sermons. Unless his sins between two Fridays are forgiven".

The Hadith teaches us some Fridays Sunnah.

1. The need to bath on Fridays before going to Masjid for prayers.

2. The need to put some perfumes on you to smell good to others (Only for men).

3. One must comfort himself when going out for any prayers. Don't interfere in what does not concern you.

4. It's better to walk to Mosques instead of riding a car, horse or any.

5. One must stop talking or playing with mobile phone or any thing when the Imam starts his Khutbah.

Talking during Imam's Khutbah or playing with your phone reduces the rewards from your Jumma'a prayers. It also shows that you are ignorant about the importance of Friday prayers.

NB: Bathing on Fridays starts from early dawn. If you have s*x with your wife or husband, the Janabah bathing you take on Fridays before Fajr prayers is enough. That's your Friday Sunnah bathing.

May Allah swt grant us the best His gifts and guide us to right path of Islam.

وصلى الله على سيدنا محمد وعلى اله واصحابه وسلم.

23/06/2023

*SYMBOLIC RELATIONSHIP WITH LAILATUL QADIR AND YAOMUL ARAFAH*

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*👉 Laylatul Qadir and Yaomal Arafah are closely symbolic*

*👉 Laylatul Qadir and Yaomal Arafah is 24 Hours Complete Day of Blessings*

*👉 Laylatul Qadir represent Night. Yaonal Arafah represent Day*

*👉 Laylatul Qadir start from Sunset to Sunrise. Yaomal Arafah start from sunrise to Sunset*

*👉 On the Night of Majesty Allah ask Angels to descend on Muslims. On the Day of Arafah Allah call all Angels to focus on Muslims*

*👉 Laylatul Qadir is the most Beloved Night. Yaomal Arafah is the most Beloved Day*

*👉 Allah comes to nearest Heaven on both Day*

*👉 Fasting is recommended on both Day*

*👉 Laylatul Qadir is among last Ten Night of Ramadan. Yaomal Arafah is among first Ten Days of Dhul Hijjah*

*👉 Humurah is recommended on last Ten Days of Ramadan and first Ten Days of Dhul Hijjah*

*👉 Eid prayer after the last Ten Days of Ramadan. Eid prayer after the first Ten Days of Dhul Hijjah*

*👉 Zakatul fitr is recommended on last Ten Days Of Ramadan. Udh-hiyyah is recommended on the first Ten Days of Dhul Hijjah*

*👉 Special Adhkar in last Ten Days of Ramadan:*
*Allahuma innakal afuwun tuhibul afwan fa'afu annii*

*👉 Special Adhkar in first Ten Days of Dhul Hijjah:*
*Allahu Akbar Allahu Akbar Allahu Akbar Laailaha illal Laha Allahu Akbar Allahu Akbar Walillahil hamdu*

*👉 Allah accept all supplication on Laylatul Qadir and Yaomal Arafah*

*👉 Increase in Ibaadah and good deeds is recommended in first Ten Days Of Dhul Hijjah and last Ten Days Of Ramadan*

*👉 On the Day of Arafah dedicate your life to act of worship, invocations, supplications and good deeds*

*Allahumma Aameen 🙏*

24/05/2023

THE MOST PLEASING DEEDS, IS TO HELP THOSE IN NEED.

By: Imam Nurudeen Mukhtar Isalekoto

There is nothing pleasing to the heart and gives you self confidence in life than, feel that, you have helped someone in needs, or you have solved the problem of a distress person, or you have given something to an hungry person to eat or drink.

ALLAH swt, is also pleased to see His servant giving helping hands to a needy, helping someone to do something good or relieving some debts burdens from a distress indebted person.

ROSULULLAH (saw) said:

ان من احب الاعمال الى الله سرورا تدخله في قلب المسلم, او تقضي له حاجته, او تسد عنه جوعا, او تقضي له دينا. ولان امشي في حاجة اخي احب الي من اعتكاف في مسجدي هذا شهرا

Among the lovely deeds to ALLAH swt are, when you put happiness in the heart of your fellow Muslim, or solve his problems for him, or drive away his hunger for him, or pay his debt for him. And for me to go out and help my brother to solve his problems, its better to me than keeping vigil (I'itikaf) in this my Masjid for a month. (meaning His masjid in Medina).

This Hadith is telling us how important it is, to help others if you can. Some people think going to hajj, slaughtering big Bulls on Eid days, or donating to masjids are most loved deeds to ALLAH.

Never...! After your daily five times prayers and fasting in the Ramadan, the best deeds that can easily earn you paradise are in your dealing with your fellow human beings.

You cannot go to hajj when your children, your wife, your mother needs such money for their livelihood. That's if you don't have surplus to solve their problems for them.

Help others and Allah swt will help you.

ROSULULLAH (saw) said again:

والله في عون العبد ما دام العبد في عون أخيه مسلم

ALLAH swt, will never ceased helping a servant, as far as that servant helps people in their needs and distresses..

Try solving the problems of someone today and see how happier you and pleased will be. ALLAH swt too will be pleased with you. But always keep your kindness and generosity to people secretly between you and Allah and the one you helped.

You will get the rewards in a surprising and pleasing manners.

The Arab says:

من يفعل الخير فلن يندم جوائزه.

He who does good, shall never regret its rewards or returns.

May Almighty Allah grant us all what its take to render help and put smile on a suffering people's face. Ameena yah Allah!

07/10/2022

SHOULD I TAKE OR LISTEN TO MY WIFE'S ADVICE OR NOT? {Islamic perspectives}

QUESTION:
Salam alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu yah imam, may Almighty Allah continue to bless you with more wisdom as you are enlighten us in the way of Islam.

My question goes thus; Whenever we are discussing with my friends, I used to tell them that I always take advice from my wife on certain issues. But to my greatest surprise, they always criticize me that I'm not a man enough for taken advice from my wife.

Please imam, I want to know the Islamic view on this. Jazakumullah khairan sir.

ANSWERED BY: Imam Nurudeen Mukhtar Isalekoto

Wa alaikum salam warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu my good brother.

Let me just put is straight that, It is a big lie to say that men should not take advice from women. Some misguided men are circulating these lies to establish their dominance and superiority over women.

Allah says in Surah An-Nisa, Verse 19:

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا يَحِلُّ لَكُمْ أَن تَرِثُوا النِّسَاءَ كَرْهًا وَلَا تَعْضُلُوهُنَّ لِتَذْهَبُوا بِبَعْضِ مَا آتَيْتُمُوهُنَّ إِلَّا أَن يَأْتِينَ بِفَاحِشَةٍ مُّبَيِّنَةٍ وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ فَإِن كَرِهْتُمُوهُنَّ فَعَسَىٰ أَن تَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَيَجْعَلَ اللَّهُ فِيهِ خَيْرًا كَثِيرًا

"O you who believe! it is not lawful for you that you should take women as heritage against (their) will, and do not straiten them in order that you may take part of what you have given them, unless they are guilty of manifest indecency, and treat them kindly; then if you hate them, it may be that you dislike a thing while Allah has placed abundant good in it."

And the Prophet (saw) said: “And treat women with kindness, and treat women with kindness.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5186; Muslim, 1468.

And prophet (saw) said: “The best of you is the one who is best to his womenfolk, and I am the best of you to my womenfolk.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 3895; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 3314.

Undoubtedly consulting one's wife and listening to her advice and accepting it is part of living with them honourably and treating them with kindness. It softens her heart and makes her feel that she is playing a role in the family and that she is responsible for her family, especially if the man finds that his wife has wisdom and common sense, and has intuition, and she does not jump to conclusions or let herself be swayed by emotions.

Moreover, the benefits to be gained by consulting one's wife and accepting her opinion, or not doing so, may vary according to the topic concerning which the wife is being consulted and asked for her opinion: is her emotional nature going to affect her view on this matter or not?

It may also vary according to the nature of each of the spouses and how much wisdom and common sense each of them has.

If the husband thinks that it makes sense to reject her opinion or he thinks that her view is mistaken, he has to be kind in the way in which he rejects her opinion or advice, and he should not accuse her of being silly or say that her opinion is worthless, and he should explain to her what is correct, as much as he can.

Look at the story of al-Hudaybiyah and what happened there, then you will understand the value of consulting a wise and smart woman. When the Prophet (saw) made a treaty with Quraysh and agreed to go back, and not enter Makkah that year, he said to his companions:

“Get up and offer your sacrifices.” But not a single man among them got up, until he had said that three times. When no one got up, he entered upon Umm Salamah and told her what had happened with the people. Umm Salamah said: “O Prophet of Allah, is that what you want? Go out and do not speak a word to any one of them until you have slaughtered your sacrifice and called your barber to shave your head.” When he did that, they got up and offered their sacrifices.

Al-Haafiz ibn Hajar said: This points to the virtue of consultation, and that it is permissible to consult a virtuous wife.

The fact is this, the one who is better than you and me and our fathers, i.e. The Prophet of Allah (saw) had taken advice of his wives. And Alhamdulillah today, we are benefitting from that advice.

Also think about the story of Musa, and how Allah caused him to be raised in the house of Pharaoh, and how much blessing there was in the advice of Aasiya, the wife of Pharaoh (may Allah be pleased with her), of whom Allah says in Surah Al-Qasas, Verse 9:

وَقَالَتِ امْرَأَتُ فِرْعَوْنَ قُرَّتُ عَيْنٍ لِّي وَلَكَ لَا تَقْتُلُوهُ عَسَىٰ أَن يَنفَعَنَا أَوْ نَتَّخِذَهُ وَلَدًا وَهُمْ لَا يَشْعُرُونَ

"And Pharaoh's wife said: A refreshment of the eye to me and to you; do not slay him; maybe he will be useful to us, or we may take him for a son; and they did not perceive."

In the same surah there is the story of the two women at the well of Midyan, and how one of them said to her father in Surah Al-Qasas, Verse 26:

قَالَتْ إِحْدَاهُمَا يَا أَبَتِ اسْتَأْجِرْهُ إِنَّ خَيْرَ مَنِ اسْتَأْجَرْتَ الْقَوِيُّ الْأَمِينُ

"Said one of them: O my father! employ him, surely the best of those that you can employ is the strong man, the faithful one."

Look at how wise she was, and how she knew who was the best qualified to be hired and entrusted with work, and what a great blessing this advice brought to her family.

We also read verses of the Holy Qur’an where the wife of the Messenger complained about constant use of male gender in the Qur’an. The next revelation came with a reply, Allah had heard her suggestion, hence mentioned both genders equally. Probably without her outburst, most verses today will contain male gender only.

So to say that one cannot take women's advice is not only a lie, but a defamation against women. I, alhamdulillah, have been taking my wife's and sisters' advice, and by Allah, half of my success came from that angle. I grew up seeing my father consulting my mother on his affairs, and he too had achieved a lot of success through that. For me, I benefitted more from the advice of women over that of men. That is a fact.

My last point, the Prophet Muhammad (saw) says:

يقول النبي محمد (صلى الله عليه وسلم) ، إذا علمت امرأة ، فإنها تعلم جيلاً كاملاً من الناس. فلو لم يكن للمرأة أثر في حياة هذه الأمة لما ذكرت.

"The Prophet Muhammad (saw) says, if you educate a woman, she educates an entire generation of people. If woman has no impact in the life of this ummah, then she wouldn't have been mentioned."

Today we see first hand experience, women do better in terms of tarbiyyah (education) as compared to men. If it were for the men, most of us wouldn't have been what we are today.

Iman Ahmad, one of the greatest scholars of all times lost his father as an infant. His mother raised him up, and because of her efforts, today, billions of Muslims are benefiting from the work of Imam Ahmad bin Hambal.

May Almighty Allah bless our women with more wisdom.

30/09/2022

TODAY'S KHUT'BAH: 30th of September, 2022. Equivalent to 4th of Robi'ul-Awwal 1444 A.H.

PURIFICATION FROM THE SPIRITUAL DISEASE OF HATRED IN ISLAM.
..✍️ By: Imam Nurudeen Mukhtar Isalekoto

In the name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful.

Islam teaches us to beware of hatred, malice, and the intention to harm others. They are spiritual diseases of the heart whose consequences are destructive to the individual, the community, and the religion.

Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

ﻟَﺎ ﺗَﺒَﺎﻏَﻀُﻮﺍ ﻭَﻟَﺎ ﺗَﺤَﺎﺳَﺪُﻭﺍ ﻭَﻟَﺎ ﺗَﺪَﺍﺑَﺮُﻭﺍ ﻭَﻛُﻮﻧُﻮﺍ ﻋِﺒَﺎﺩَ ﺍﻟﻠَّﻪِ ﺇِﺧْﻮَﺍﻧًﺎ

Do not hate each other, do not envy each other, do not turn away from each other, but rather be servants of Allah as brothers.

Abdullah ibn Amr reported: It was said to the Messenger of Allah,“Which of the people is best?” The Messenger of Allah, peace and
blessings be upon him, said:

ﻛُﻞُّ ﻣَﺨْﻤُﻮﻡِ ﺍﻟْﻘَﻠْﺐِ ﺻَﺪُﻭﻕِ ﺍﻟﻠِّﺴَﺎﻥِ

Everyone who is pure of heart and truthful in speech.

They said, “Truthful in speech we know, but what is a pure heart?” The Prophet said:

ﻫُﻮَ ﺍﻟﺘَّﻘِﻲُّ ﺍﻟﻨَّﻘِﻲُّ ﻟَﺎ ﺇِﺛْﻢَ ﻓِﻴﻪِ ﻭَﻟَﺎ ﺑَﻐْﻲَ ﻭَﻟَﺎ ﻏِﻞَّ ﻭَﻟَﺎ ﺣَﺴَﺪَ

It is a heart that fears Allah and is clean. There is no sin in it and neither aggression, malice, nor envy.

Al-Samarqandī reported:

ﻭَﺭُﻭِﻱَ ﻋَﻦْ ﺑَﻌْﺾِ ﺍﻟﺼَّﺤَﺎﺑَﺔِ ﺭَﺿِﻲَ ﺍﻟﻠَّﻪُ ﺗَﻌَﺎﻟَﻰ ﻋَﻨْﻬُﻢْ ﺃَﻧَّﻪُ ﻗَﺎﻝَ ﻣَﻦْ ﺃَﺭَﺍﺩَ ﻓَﻀْﻞَاﻟْﻌَﺎﺑِﺪِﻳﻦَ ﻓَﻠْﻴُﺼْﻠِﺢْ ﺑَﻴْﻦَ ﺍﻟﻨَّﺎﺱِ ﻭَﻟَﺎ ﻳُﻮﻗِﻊْ ﺑَﻴْﻨَﻬُﻢُ ﺍﻟْﻌَﺪَﺍﻭَﺓَ ﻭَﺍﻟْﺒَﻐْﻀَﺎﺀَ

Some of the companions, may Allah be pleased with him, said: Whoever desires the virtue of the worshipers, then let him reconcile between people and let there not be any enmity and hatred between them.

Ibn Al-Arabi writes:

ﻟَﺎ ﻳَﻜُﻮﻥُ ﺍﻟْﻘَﻠْﺐُ ﺳَﻠِﻴﻤًﺎ ﺇﺫَﺍ ﻛَﺎﻥَ ﺣَﻘُﻮﺩًﺍ ﺣَﺴُﻮﺩًﺍ ﻣُﻌْﺠَﺒًﺎ ﻣُﺘَﻜَﺒِّﺮًﺍ ﻭَﻗَﺪْ ﺷَﺮَﻁَ ﺍﻟﻨَّﺒِﻲُّ صلي ﺍﻟﻠَّﻪُ ﻋَﻠَﻴْﻪِ ﻭَﺳَﻠَّﻢَ ﻓِﻲ ﺍﻟْﺈِﻳﻤَﺎﻥِ ﺃَﻥْ ﻳُﺤِﺐَّ ﻟِﺄَﺧِﻴﻪِ ﻣَﺎ ﻳُﺤِﺐُّ ﻟِﻨَﻔْﺴِﻪِ

The heart cannot be pure if it holds malice, envy, pride, and arrogance. The Prophet made it a requirement of faith that he love for his brother what he loves for himself.

And Ibn Hajar writes:

ﻭَﻟَﺎ ﻳَﺘِﻢُّ ﺫَﻟِﻚَ ﺇِﻟَّﺎ ﺑِﺘَﺮْﻙِ ﺍﻟْﺤَﺴَﺪِ ﻭَﺍﻟْﻐِﻞِّ ﻭَﺍﻟْﺤِﻘْﺪِ ﻭَﺍﻟْﻐِﺶِّ

Faith is not complete until a Muslim abandons envy, rancor, malice, and malevolence.

The type of hatred prohibited in Islam is malicious hatred in the form of a desire to see people harmed and destroyed.

Umar ibn Al-Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him, said:

ﻻَ ﻳَﻜُﻦْ ﺣُﺒُّﻚَ ﻛَﻠَﻔًﺎ ﻭَﻻَ ﺑُﻐْﻀُﻚَ ﺗَﻠَﻔًﺎ

Let not your hatred be destruction.
It was said, “How is that?” Umar said:

ﻭَﺇِﺫَﺍ ﺃَﺑْﻐَﻀْﺖَ ﺃَﺣْﺒَﺒْﺖَ ﻟِﺼَﺎﺣِﺒِﻚَ ﺍﻟﺘَّﻠَﻒ
When you hate someone, you love to see your companion destroyed.

Shuʻaib Arnāʼūṭ writes:

ﺍﻟﺘﺒﺎﻏﺾ ﻣﻦ ﺍﻟﺒﻐﺾ ﺿﺪ ﺍﻟﻤﺤﺒﺔ ﻭﻫﻲ ﺇﺭﺍﺩﺓ ﺍﻟﻤﻀﺮﺓ

Mutual hatred, the opposite of love, is an intention to do harm.

This malicious hatred is a major sin that prevents people from entering Paradise.

Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

ﺗُﻔْﺘَﺢُ ﺃَﺑْﻮَﺍﺏُ ﺍﻟْﺠَﻨَّﺔِ ﻳَﻮْﻡَ ﺍﻟِﺎﺛْﻨَﻴْﻦِ ﻭَﻳَﻮْﻡَ ﺍﻟْﺨَﻤِﻴﺲِ ﻓَﻴُﻐْﻔَﺮُ ﻟِﻜُﻞِّ ﻋَﺒْﺪٍ ﻟَﺎ ﻳُﺸْﺮِﻙُ ﺑِﺎﻟﻠَّﻪِ شيﺌًﺎ ﺇِﻟَّﺎ ﺭَﺟُﻠًﺎ ﻛَﺎﻧَﺖْ ﺑَﻴْﻨَﻪُ ﻭَﺑَﻴْﻦَ ﺃَﺧِﻴﻪِ ﺷَﺤْﻨَﺎﺀُ ﻓَﻴُﻘَﺎﻝُ ﺃَﻧْﻈِﺮُﻭﺍ ﻫَﺬَﻳْﻦِ ﺣَﺘَّﻰ يﺼْﻄَﻠِﺤَﺎ ﺃَﻧْﻈِﺮُﻭﺍ ﻫَﺬَﻳْﻦِ ﺣَﺘَّﻰ ﻳَﺼْﻄَﻠِﺤَﺎ ﺃَﻧْﻈِﺮُﻭﺍ ﻫَﺬَﻳْﻦِ ﺣَﺘَّﻰ ﻳَﺼْﻄَﻠِﺤَﺎ

The gates of Paradise are opened on Monday and Thursday. Allah forgives every servant who does not associate anything with him except a man with hatred between himself and his brother. It will be said: Delay these two until they reconcile, delay these two until they reconcile.

Ibn Abbas, may Allah be pleased with him, said:

ﺛَﻼﺙٌ ﻣَﻦْ ﻟَﻢْ ﻳَﻜُﻦْ ﻓِﻴﻪِ ﻓَﺈِﻥَّ ﺍﻟﻠَّﻪَ ﻋَﺰَّ ﻭَﺟَﻞَّ ﻳَﻐْﻔِﺮُ ﺑَﻌْﺪَ ﺫَﻟِﻚَ ﻟِﻤَﻦْ ﻳَﺸَﺎﺀُ ﻣَﻦْ ﻣَﺎﺕَ ﻻ يشرك ﺑِﺎﻟﻠَّﻪِ ﺷَﻴْﺌًﺎ ﻭَﻣَﻦْ ﻟَﻢْ ﻳَﻜُﻦْ ﺳَﺎﺣِﺮًﺍ ﻳَﺘْﺒَﻊُ ﺍﻟﺴِّﺤْﺮَ ﻭَﻣَﻦْ ﻟَﻢْ ﻳَﺤْﻘِﺪْ ﻋَﻠَﻰ ﺃَﺧِﻴﻪِ

If these three sins are not found within a person, then Allah the Exalted will forgive after that whatever he wills: one who died without associating partners with Allah, one who never turned to black magic, and one who never harbored malice towards his brother.

Islam teaches us not to hate people in themselves, but rather we should hate for evil to come to people. This is a necessary element of loving our neighbors as ourselves.

Yazeed ibn Asad reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

ﺃَﺣِﺐَّ ﻟِﻠﻨَّﺎﺱِ ﻣَﺎ ﺗُﺤِﺐُّ ﻟِﻨَﻔْﺴِﻚَ

Love for people what you love for yourself.

Mu’adh ibn Anas reported: He asked the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, about the best faith. The Prophet said:

ﺃَﻓْﻀَﻞُ ﺍﻟْﺈِﻳﻤَﺎﻥِ ﺃَﻥْ ﺗُﺤِﺐَّ ﻟِﻠَّﻪِ ﻭَﺗُﺒْﻐِﺾَ ﻓِﻲ ﺍﻟﻠَّﻪِ ﻭَﺗُﻌْﻤِﻞَ ﻟِﺴَﺎﻧَﻚَ ﻓِﻲ ﺫِﻛْﺮِ ﺍﻟﻠَّﻪِ

The most virtuous faith is to love for the sake of Allah, to hate for the sake of Allah, and to work your tongue in the remembrance of Allah.

Mu’adh said, “How is it, O Messenger of Allah?” The Prophet said:

ﻭَﺃَﻥْ ﺗُﺤِﺐَّ ﻟِﻠﻨَّﺎﺱِ ﻣَﺎ ﺗُﺤِﺐُّ ﻟِﻨَﻔْﺴِﻚَ ﻭَﺗَﻜْﺮَﻩَ ﻟَﻬُﻢْ ﻣَﺎ ﺗَﻜْﺮَﻩُ ﻟِﻨَﻔْﺴِﻚَ ﻭَﺃَﻥْ ﺗَﻘُﻮﻝَ خيرا ﺃَﻭْ ﺗَﺼْﻤُﺖَ

That you love for the people what you love for yourself, and you hate for the people what you hate for yourself, and you speak goodness or remain silent.

Al-Kirmani said:

ﻭَﻣِﻦَ ﺍﻟْﺈِﻳﻤَﺎﻥِ ﺃَﻳْﻀًﺎ ﺃَﻥْ ﻳُﺒْﻐِﺾَ ﻟِﺄَﺧِﻴﻪِ ﻣَﺎ ﻳُﺒْﻐِﺾُ ﻟِﻨَﻔْﺴِﻪِ ﻣِﻦَ ﺍﻟﺸَّﺮِّ

It is also a part of faith to hate for his brother what he hates for himself of evil.

Another way to understand this is that we should hate sinful deeds, but we should not hate the sinners themselves.

Allah said:

ﻭَﻛَﺮَّﻩَ ﺇِﻟَﻴْﻜُﻢُ ﺍﻟْﻜُﻔْﺮَ ﻭَﺍﻟْﻔُﺴُﻮﻕَ ﻭَﺍﻟْﻌِﺼْﻴَﺎﻥَ ﺃُﻭﻟَٰﺌِﻚَ ﻫُﻢُ ﺍﻟﺮَّﺍﺷِﺪُﻭﻥَ

Allah has made hateful to you disbelief, defiance, and disobedience. Those are the rightly guided.
Surat al-Hujurat 49:7

Hence, Allah has made it a condition of faith to hate evil deeds, but He does not command us hate the people who do them. This is called
hatred for the deed ( karrahiya li amal ). This places our hatred toward the abstract evil in a constructive manner so as to avoid unjustly
harming people. A group of the righteous predecessors ( salaf as-salih ) would make such a distinction between the deed and the doer.

Ibn Rajab reported:

ﻗَﺎﻝَ ﺑَﻌْﺾُ ﺍﻟﺼَّﺎﻟِﺤِﻴﻦَ ﻣِﻦَ ﺍﻟﺴَّﻠَﻒِ ﺃَﻫْﻞُ ﺍﻟْﻤَﺤَﺒَّﺔِ ﻟِﻠَّﻪِ ﻧَﻈَﺮُﻭﺍ ﺑِﻨُﻮﺭِ ﺍﻟﻠَّﻪِ ﻭَﻋَﻄَﻔُﻮﺍ على ﺃَﻫْﻞِ ﻣَﻌَﺎﺻِﻲ ﺍﻟﻠَّﻪِ ﻣَﻘَﺘُﻮﺍ ﺃَﻋْﻤَﺎﻟَﻬُﻢْ ﻭَﻋَﻄَﻔُﻮﺍ ﻋَﻠَﻴْﻬِﻢْ ﻟِﻴُﺰِﻳﻠُﻮﻫُﻢْ ﺑِﺎﻟْﻤَﻮَﺍﻋِﻆِ عن ﻓِﻌَﺎﻟِﻬِﻢْ

Some of the righteous predecessors said: The people who love Allah look by the light of Allah, and they are compassionate with those who disobey Allah. They find their deeds reprehensible but show mercy to them so that through their admonitions they might leave their actions.

Allah has warned us about the destructive effects of hatred on the heart and the religion and that it will lead to injustice if left unchecked.

Allah said:

ﻳَﺎ ﺃَﻳُّﻬَﺎ ﺍﻟَّﺬِﻳﻦَ ﺁﻣَﻨُﻮﺍ ﻛُﻮﻧُﻮﺍ ﻗَﻮَّﺍﻣِﻴﻦَ ﻟِﻠَّﻪِ ﺷُﻬَﺪَﺍﺀَ ﺑِﺎﻟْﻘِﺴْﻂِ ۖ ﻭَﻟَﺎ ﻳَﺠْﺮِﻣَﻨَّﻜُﻢْ ﺷَﻨَﺂﻥُ قوم ﻋَﻠَﻰٰ ﺃَﻟَّﺎ ﺗَﻌْﺪِﻟُﻮﺍ ۚ ﺍﻋْﺪِﻟُﻮﺍ ﻫُﻮَ ﺃَﻗْﺮَﺏُ ﻟِﻠﺘَّﻘْﻮَﻯٰ

O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and let not the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for it is closer to righteousness.
Surat al-Ma’idah 5:8

Likewise, the Prophet warned us about the twin evils of envy and hatred, describing hatred as the razor that attacks religion. The soundness of a
Muslim’s religious practice will be in danger if he or she succumbs to hateful desires.

Az-Zubair ibn Awwam reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

ﺩَﺏَّ ﺇِﻟَﻴْﻜُﻢْ ﺩَﺍﺀُ ﺍﻟْﺄُﻣَﻢِ ﻗَﺒْﻠَﻜُﻢْ ﺍﻟْﺤَﺴَﺪُ ﻭَﺍﻟْﺒَﻐْﻀَﺎﺀُ ﻭَﺍﻟْﺒَﻐْﻀَﺎﺀُ ﻫِﻲَ ﺍﻟْﺤَﺎﻟِﻘَﺔُ ﺣَﺎﻟِﻘَﺔُ الدين ﻟَﺎ ﺣَﺎﻟِﻘَﺔُ ﺍﻟﺸَّﻌَﺮِ ﻭَﺍﻟَّﺬِﻱ ﻧَﻔْﺲُ ﻣُﺤَﻤَّﺪٍ ﺑِﻴَﺪِﻩِ ﻟَﺎ ﺗُﺆْﻣِﻨُﻮﺍ ﺣَﺘَّﻰ ﺗَﺤَﺎﺑُّﻮﺍ ﺃَﻓَﻠَﺎ أﻧَﺒِّﺌُﻜُﻢ ﺑِﺸَﻲْﺀٍ ﺇِﺫَﺍ ﻓَﻌَﻠْﺘُﻤُﻮﻩُ ﺗَﺤَﺎﺑَﺒْﺘُﻢْ ﺃَﻓْﺸُﻮﺍ ﺍﻟﺴَّﻠَﺎﻡَ ﺑَﻴْﻨَﻜُﻢْ

There have come to you the diseases of the nations before you: envy and hatred, and hatred is the razor. It shaves the religion and it does not shave hair. By the one in whose hand is the soul of Muhammad, you will not believe until you love one another. Shall I tell you something which, if you did, you would love each other? Spread peace between yourselves.

Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

ﻭَﺍﻟَّﺬِﻱ ﻧَﻔْﺴِﻲ ﺑِﻴَﺪِﻩِ ﻻ ﺗَﺪْﺧُﻠُﻮﺍ ﺍﻟْﺠَﻨَّﺔَ ﺣَﺘَّﻰ ﺗُﺴْﻠِﻤُﻮﺍ ﻭَﻻ ﺗُﺴْﻠِﻤُﻮﺍ ﺣَﺘَّﻰ ﺗﺤَﺎﺑُّﻮﺍ وﺃَﻓْﺸُﻮﺍ ﺍﻟﺴَّﻼﻡَ ﺗَﺤَﺎﺑُّﻮﺍ ﻭَﺇِﻳَّﺎﻛُﻢْ ﻭَﺍﻟْﺒُﻐْﻀَﺔَ ﻓَﺈِﻧَّﻬَﺎ ﻫِﻲَ ﺍﻟْﺤَﺎﻟِﻘَﺔُ ﻻ ﺃَﻗُﻮﻝُ ﻟَﻜُﻢْ ﺗَﺤْﻠِﻖُ اﻟﺸَّﻌْﺮَ ﻭَﻟَﻜِﻦْ ﺗَﺤْﻠِﻖُ ﺍﻟﺪِّﻳﻦَ

By the one in whose hand is my soul, you will not enter Paradise until you submit to Allah and you will not submit until you love one another. Spread peace and you will love one another. Beware of
hatred for it is the razor. I do not say that it shaves hair, but rather it shaves away the religion.

The correct way to purify our hearts from hatred is to pray for guidance and goodness for the oppressors whom we hate. By doing so, the angel will pray for similar goodness for us.
Abu Ad-Darda reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

ﻣَﺎ ﻣِﻦْ ﻋَﺒْﺪٍ ﻣُﺴْﻠِﻢٍ ﻳَﺪْﻋُﻮ ﻷَﺧِﻴﻪِ ﺑِﻈَﻬْﺮِ ﺍﻟْﻐَﻴْﺐِ ﺇِﻻَّ ﻗَﺎﻝَ ﺍﻟْﻤَﻠَﻚُ ﻭَﻟَﻚَ ﺑِﻤِﺜْﻞٍ

There is no Muslim servant who supplicates for his brother behind his back except that the angel says: And for you the same.

Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said to me:

ﻳَﺎ ﺑُﻨَﻲَّ ﺇِﻥْ ﻗَﺪَﺭْﺕَ ﺃَﻥْ ﺗُﺼْﺒِﺢَ ﻭَﺗُﻤْﺴِﻲَ ﻟَﻴْﺲَ ﻓِﻲ ﻗَﻠْﺒِﻚَ ﻏِﺶٌّ ﻟِﺄَﺣَﺪٍ ﻓَﺎﻓْﻌَﻞْ

O boy, if you are able every morning and evening to remove any rancor from your heart towards anyone, then do so.

We should never pray for evil or destruction, nor should we invoke the wrath of Allah and the Hellfire. Allah said:

ﻭَﻳَﺪْﻉُ ﺍﻟْﺈِﻧﺴَﺎﻥُ ﺑِﺎﻟﺸَّﺮِّ ﺩُﻋَﺎﺀَﻩُ ﺑِﺎﻟْﺨَﻴْﺮِ ۖ ﻭَﻛَﺎﻥَ ﺍﻟْﺈِﻧﺴَﺎﻥُ ﻋَﺠُﻮﻟًﺎ

Man supplicates for evil as he supplicates for good, for man is ever impatient.
Surat al-Isra 17:11

Samrah ibn Jundab reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

ﻟَﺎ ﺗَﻠَﺎﻋَﻨُﻮﺍ ﺑِﻠَﻌْﻨَﺔِ ﺍﻟﻠَّﻪِ ﻭَﻟَﺎ ﺑِﻐَﻀَﺒِﻪِ ﻭَﻟَﺎ ﺑِﺎﻟﻨَّﺎﺭِ

Do not invoke the curse of Allah, or His wrath, or the Hellfire.

Therefore, all of our supplications should be for goodness. By supplicating for goodness and guidance for sinners, we will overcome our
desire to cause them harm and replace this evil desire with love of goodness for them.

Success comes from Allah, and Allah knows best.