09/12/2024
I saw a post that made me smile all through. It was the story of a young woman who built a very beautiful bungalow for her parents.
I was so happy as I watched the pictures of the house opening and I felt proud in a certain way. I am not related to the lady or her family, but I share in their immense joy.
If you follow my posts on this space, you will notice that I place so much premium on the girl child. I am one of the people who value and adore the girl child, that is why I am always in support of anything that promotes the female child.
I am happy for that woman who took that bold step to build a befitting house for her parents.
In our African society, the female child is seen as an after-thought whose sole responsibility is to cook and bear children for her husband. As a result, not many parents invests into their female children. Parents will train their sons in school, establish them in businesses, and if they fail, they encourage them and give them more funds to keep trying other businesses untill they find their footing.
They introduce their sons to their wealthy friends and encourage them to form strong business connections. They buy properties in the name of their sons, they even have lands and other tangibles which they leave for their sons to inherit upon their demise.
But their daughters, they just groom them to be sensible and beautiful enough to attract wealthy men. C'est fini.
Most African men will frown at their wives giving birth to multiple female children, but will gladly embrace the children if they were all male.
One thing they do not know is that it is actually a WELL TRAINED CHILD that brings honor to the home. Whether the child is a male or female is irrelevant. The most important thing is for the child to be well trained.
We have seen and heard of females who are trailblazers in their respective fields. They wouldn't have achieved such success if they were only raised to become nwunye odogwu. What happens if there is no odogwu to marry them and give them the soft life they desire? What happens if the odogwu is so stingy that the wife will have to beg and beg before he drops some crumbled notes for her?
Instead of raising your daughters to be the wives of odogwu, while not raise her to be an odogwu herself. I feel so much joy whenever I see ladies charting courses in male dominated fields.
When a woman is economically empowered, even her choice of a life partner will be higher. She will not settle for less.
Economically empowered women do not stay in marriages where there is threatening domestic abuse because their money will give them the life they want, (with or without a husband).
Besides, the female child will always have the thought of their parents at heart. A male child may grow up, and start hustling strictly for his own, but a female child must surely remember home.
Our mothers with beautiful daughters, don't give up on them. Don't let anyone refer to you as Iya Obirin with a mocking tone. Those girls will grow to adore and adorn your life with good things.
Do not ever feel bad because you have only female children. Nwanyibunwa. What a son can do, a daughter can equally do better if given the right support.
Daughters are invaluable, we can't quantify their value and roles in the family.
If you have a daughter, give her the same opportunity as your son, and watch her bring the world to your doorstep.
As for me, I wish to have 6 females so they can start marketing VianceTea πββοΈ
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9th December 2024
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