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Chyka page, Aba (2025)

29/09/2024

THINGS DEY HAPPEN

HAVE YOU EVENR BEEN GHOSTED? SOMEONE TAGGED ME TO THIS

HE DENIED HIS CHILDREN

I met a man 5 years ago.

We had a great relationship for about 2 years.

After that, he started talking about marriage but insisted I get pregnant before marriage.

I didn't like the Idea but I got pregnant.

That's the greatest mistake I've ever made.

After that, he began dragging his feet and was no longer forthcoming.

After some time, he became unreachable even by telephone.

My elder sister became suspicious of him and asked me for his real name.

I gave them to her and she searched for him on Google with that name.

I was shocked that other social media accounts that I didn't know about popped up.

She clicked on the Facebook account with the names I gave her, which I didn't have and I was shocked that he was married.

His wife had just even given birth to their 4th child.

I found out that he blocked me on it.

I scanned through the photos and saw the beautiful family he had, so what did he want with me?

Why pretend to be single and ask me to get pregnant with his baby and even promise me marriage, asking to meet my family, when his wife was even pregnant at the time?

What was the point?

He even created another Facebook account which he added me on.

Did he know me from somewhere?

Was he out for me?

These were all the questions that occupied my mind.

My life suddenly took an unbelievable turn and had no meaning.

I was heartbroken and wished I wasn't pregnant because it was never my plan to have a child that way.

My sister was so offended and threatened to contact his wife on Facebook.

I pleaded with her not to because I didn't want to break his family but she rolled her eyes at me and did anyway.

His wife reached out to her calling her a liar because her husband had denied all allegations.

She even made cryptic posts on Facebook criticizing loose, desperate women like me, according to her.

A man I had dated for over 2 years denied ever knowing me.

He said he had never seen me in his life.

He accused me of being loose and wanted to pin a pregnancy on him.

My sister insisted on DNA once the child was born.

His wife said it was irrelevant because her husband had never seen me before.

All the evidence my sister provided, her husband said was photoshopped and faked.

I couldn't believe it but that was my reality.

My family advised me to let go because they'd take care of me, but I felt disappointed in myself.

I pushed through pregnancy with my family's support and had a set of twins, a boy and a girl.

It was an emotional rollercoaster but I survived it.

When the twins turned 2 years old, I summoned the courage to post their photos on their birthday on Facebook.

That was my first post in over 2 years.

Once my ex denied me I felt de.press.ed and left social media.

Many people congratulated me asking when I got married and why I didn't invite them.

I laughed off the questions because I didn't want to have those conversations.

By evening a woman sent a DM with the photo of my twins asking why they looked exactly like her husband.

I wanted to ignore her because I didn't recognize the name.

These days, people change their names, so I couldn't tell who she was.

I asked her who her husband was because my mind never went to the Father of my children.

She asked if I didn't recognize her.

I said I didn't, then she introduced herself as the wife of my children's Father.

She said she had been keeping tabs on me.

She said her mind told her that her husband was lying but what was my business?

She asked me questions but I told her to leave me alone.

Her husband had ruined my life and left me a single Mother of twins.

This was not the life I planned for myself.

I told her to ask her husband any questions she had because I had nothing to say to her.

My sister presented all the evidence, and she doubted them all, so what did she want me to say?

Her husband claimed he was single when he met me and wanted to get married.

If not I would have never gotten involved because I don't date married men.

I'm sure she confronted her husband because I woke up to a barrage of angry messages in my DM.

He accused me of wanting to end his marriage because of a fling we had.

He asked why I couldn't disappear since I had gotten what I wanted.

Did I tell him I wanted children before marriage?

He denied ever promising me marriage or asking me to get pregnant.

He asked me why I would upload the pictures of my children and that's when I lost my temper.

I went off on him, asking him why I should hide my children.

So because he denied me, I should deny them, too?

He said his wife was now insisting on DNA, and if the children were ever his, the marriage was over.

He thre.atened to come after me if his marriage ever ended.

I told him to go to hell.

Besides, he has never seen me before or knows me.

I'm just trying to pin a pregnancy on him, so why is he worried?

I told him that I'd keep posting my children on social media, and if he didn't like it, he could delete his

What is your opinion in this

27/09/2024

Lucky are those who find good friends in this wicked word.

24/09/2024

Hmmmm
PLS FOLLOW MW READ

Am about to lose my marriage of 9yrs now , am a young ambitious and hard working woman , I am in my early 30s ..
Straight to the point , my husband business collapse this year January and since then he has been struggling to stand again upon that he still provide 100% in the house , sometimes he will ask me to give him days that he will get all the things we need in the house if he doesn't have the money at the moment trust me he will definitely get all of it .

He was the one that train me in school then after our marriage he opened a big shop for me which is generating a lot of money now ,but he never ask me to support in the house ..he takes care of everything alone and never complained..I told my big sis that I want to boost my husband business with 8m naira she started shouting how can u give ur husband money when our only brother that recently returned from Malaysia need money to start up business, mean while our Dad invested his money twice on him but he wasted it all in the name of impressing people.

I gave my brother the 8m last month to start up something I didn't know how my husband get to find out , he wake me up in the middle of the night 4 days ago to ask me whether am the person that gave my brother money I was shocked, later I said no . I didn't know that he got the information from the right source... Yesterday evening I found him crying inside our bedroom I ask him what is the problem he just looked at me and ask me who is he to me , I said of cos ur my husband.. he said No that he's a total stranger to me , that I been watching him struggling all this while without doing anything immediately I felt very bad and started crying he left the house up till now I have not seen him .

I have been calling his number he doesn't pick this morning I went to his shop it was locked 🔐 I now ask his very good friend about him he said that when my husband called him last night he was crying then when he tried to know what' the matter is he hang the call , he called him several times but he didn't pick up that's all ....

Am totally confuse now I don't know what to do pls I really need people's opinion and advice.thanks ..

Pls no insult I know am a terrible person but pls you guys advice is what I need now .

Credit M Foundation

23/09/2024

Pls advice properly
"I'm shocked😭
Can't believe this is happening
"For the past 8yrs of childlessness, it's been h3ll for me in my marriage. Everyday I'm being blamed for being unable to get pregnant & it has become a regular song for my in-laws to sing to me, including my own husband whom never defends me but instead, he takes side, teaming up with his family to in_sult & call me barën,

I live in s_hame in my neighborhood due to the constant harassments i get from my husband whom, is always ontop of his voice when scolding or in_sult!ng me, scr3am!ng at me for no good reason calling me ' s_hameless b_@rren w_t3h. He always does this anytime he wants, not minding if the neighbors are watching or getting his voice. Sometimes, i can even hear my neighbors, whispering & laughing at the insult he trows at me. This has made me feel so low of myself

i no longer have self-esteem & i do not feel comfortable going to gatherings or crowded places such as the market, church etc.. I prefer finishing my house chores, stay indoors & sleep all day. I've been doing this for the past 4 years now bcoz that's when the situation got even w0rse & its been easy for me to hide myself from people, since my husband do not want me to get a job..

But something happened 2 days ago. As usual i was cleaning the house but this time, i decided to empty the whole cupboard, I took out some trash & stuffs that were no longer in use so i could burnt. But then, i came across, a certain medical report showing that my husband once had an accident 24yrs ago, which rendering him incapable of impregnating any woman. He was 16 that time. When i confronted him he apologized & now, he is begging me to stay & not tell anyone about it & has promised to change for better towards me. He even, added that his family know about his condition.

Am so sh-ocked & in tëars as i type this. For 8 good yrs. I've been d!s,gr@ced, emotionally t0rturéd, b_lamed & called b@rën by my husband & his family, meanwhile they all knew that I'm innocent & ignorant😭 Right now, i do not even know what to believe, anymore, I'm so confused & do not know, if i should quit or stay in this marriage. It's been 8yrs gone. I'm 33yrs old already where do i start from, which man is going to want to marry me at this age after 30! "

Note Pic unrelated.

22/09/2024

18/09/2024

Hmmmmm
This is unbelievable,
Pls read
“The enemy of a man is a member of his family” Wow 😮

Janet, many of us has been under that shoes of be!tra!yal. My own sis!ter is the reason am no more a marri!ed w!om!an.

She got p!regn!ant for my ow!n hus!band now ex.
My parents knew about it and cov!er!ed it up for three years and lied to me that the man responsible is in abroad. Before I knew it, my ex got her preg!na!nt again. I wondered when the abroad guy came and I did not see. When did he come to get her pre!g!nant again?

My ex did not mention it, his family knew but I was the only one who did not know.

The day she gave birth to her first child I was there throughout. Not knowing she's giving birth to my own hu!sb!an!d. Hubby pretended to sign in the hospital for her C's as the husband 🤣😂

Me I was praising him for being there for my family. They also l!ie!d that the man in abroad sent money( dollars because the things they bought for the baby was out of this world..even when I gave birth to our first child he did not close his bank acco!unt. But everyday I kept asking myself why is it my own s!is!t!er?

The night she birth to her second child..I ca!ught hubby cr!ying in the hospital toilet. Because my sister almost g!ave up. After the C's baby was incub!ated. My sister started brea!thing heavily and was sent back to the!ater. While the whole process was going I looked for hubby and did not see him. Later saw him cr!y!ing in the to!ilet. I asked him why he was so emotional. He said he remembered something.

I started susp!e!cting him.

Two days after my sis was still on oxygen. Hubby started conf!es!sing. My mom and dad con!fes!sed they begged me.

I did not even say anything. I went back to the hospital to see my sister maybe they thought I won't ever visit her again.

Besides her bed, I kne!lt down and pra!yed , hubby joined me. My mom and everybody. I raised my voice. I cr!ied. I did not even know when she touched my hand. I he!ld on to her and said rise up your chi!ld your chil!dren needs you. She sat up.

When I left the hospital. I came home took my kids and left till date. Filed for a divorce three years later. As I am now I don't have any fa!mily. I am an orp!han. They don't know where I am and I don't want to know what is going on in their lives.

I changed my lin!es and am unreachable to any of them. Live goes on.

It was the day of the divo!rce that my dad and mom came along with my sister to be!g me. I told them I have forg!iven them, I went with a taxi. It's been nine years without any of them.

Live goes on.
Better be alone than in the mist of en!em!ies.

Pray nev!er to be a v!ic!tim of be!tray!al

This hurts on a different level.

Culled from Nenye’s wall. me

10/09/2024

some times take yourself out and enjoy, problem no dey finish

10/09/2024

1). He who refuses to mix Agege bread and akara as a type of sandwich is a *racist* - Martin Luther King jnr (1788)

2). He who completely unwraps moimoi and gala before eating *cannot keep a secret* - Abraham Lincoln (1864)

3). Only a *courageous woman* can fry a bunch of plantain without tasting any - Albert Macauley (1872)

4). Drinking Garri doesn't mean u're poor, but allowing the Garri to swell before drinking is *poverty* - Queen Elizabeth (1893)

5). Any man who drinks Alomo bitters without squeezing his face, is *capable of murder* - Michael Faraday (1899)

6). Any man that uses his teeth to cut shaki from pepper soup, with his eyes wide open, is *not afraid of anything* - Williams Shakespeare (1900)

7). Anyone who graduates from a conventional school without experiencing a strike, has *never been to Nigeria* - Lord Lugard (1904)

8). He who runs around looking for scissors to cut indomie seasoning sachet is *not hungry* - Dr Nnamdi
Azikiwe (1947)

9). He who says nothing lasts forever has *never tried Hausa perfume* - Nelson Mandela (1973)

10). No matter how hot your temper is *it cannot cook yam* - Prof Jega (2015)

11). Anyone who reads this without laughing, is *either looking for job* or *needs money badly* - Donald Trump (2016).

😀😀😂🤣😅😀!!!
*Laughter is good for you!*

*Share biko.*

*No be your own problem🙆🏻 worst pass*😜😂🤣😋🏃🏻🏃🏻🏃🏻 Happy new week my people

02/09/2024

The baby mama responded

"Pls, I'm responding to my baby's daddy, the guy that said, i should give my child to his parents..
Recently, my baby's father accused me here on this platform of using our child to extort money from him. He claimed I'm unfit to care for our baby & wants me to give the child to his parents. Here is my own side of the story, pls pardon me, I'm going to be detail..

So, We dated for over 3 years, & I loved him with all my heart. This guy here was my first love, he even met me a virgin & he knows this😭 I was loyal & supportive & never asked him for anything. In fact, I helped him with his visa application to travel to the US by giving him my school fees. Which caused my parents to be disappointed in me cuz they had struggled so to save upto that amount but instead, I sacrificed my own education to help him achieve his dreams. i thought i was in love & that we'll someday end up together but i was wrong bcoz when I got pregnant, he asked me to abort the baby saying he is just 25 & too young for a child.

I couldn't do that. I wanted to keep the baby. He even later threatened me, saying if i decide to keep the child, I'm on my own coz he has someone he is serious with & will never in his life marry me. I was broken, i shed tears for days thinking that he'll come around but instead, he abandoned me & traveled abroad without even caring about the pregnancy. For over a year, he didn't contact me or ask about the baby. I was left to care for our child alone. But then, he asked his parents to show up on his behalf & asked to co-parent. I agreed, thinking he had changed. He started sending money for our child's upkeep.

Actually, for over 3 yrs I haven't really had time for myself nor socializing, some friends & even my mom advised that, i shouldn't neglect myself the way i was doing just coz i have a child. Then, i was actually looking unkept & 2 times my age. i heed to their advice & started taking care of myself more, started doing my hair & changed my walldrop. My facial looks became brighter. Them I started socializing again, uploading new photos to my social media handles. Just then, My baby daddy became a monitoring spírít by following me up on all my social media handles. & on seing how different i looked. he started asking if, the money he's sending I'm using it on his child.

That's just how it came to this point & he has been accusing me of extorting money from him to look good. He's been accusing me that I've added weight & now glowing bcoz of the money he has been sending. According to him, This isn't how i used to look before he left the country. I thought we could work together for our baby's sake. But now, he's accusing me of using our child to get money from him. Now, he says I'm unfit to care for our baby & wants me to give the child to his parents. But that's not true. I've been working hard as an online vendor to take care of myself & even the baby even before he showed up. I don't need his money to survive.

Kelvin! I refused to give my child to your parents. I want to be a good mother & care for my own child. I'm not trying to extort money from you. I just want to do what's best for my baby. Kelvin, You even threaten me! saying you're giving me 3 weeks to take my own child to your parents or you seize to be in his life! Seriously!!? As if we haven't been surviving without you!. Kelvin, Leave if you want to, but get this straight, With you or without you, i can take good & proper care of my child, i did it for over a year & i can still do it. I'm not a lazy girl & you know that. if you feel I'm exhausting or extorting money from you, get lost! i will keep glowing Kelvin! I & my baby will keep surviving without you!! "

The matter no be here,

02/09/2024

MAKE UNA FOLLOW ME READ

"This is my baby's mother. We dated for 3 yrs when I was in the country. She got pregnant with my baby a months before I left for the US. I was scared & didn't want a baby. I asked her to abort, but she said no.

I didn't plan to marry her or have a baby with her. I was just 24, still very young to have a child & still struggling. Moreover, I had another girlfriend I was really serious about. My baby's mother was angry & wouldn't talk to me after i, disclosed this to her. i was just a young boy having fun like my mates. i actually didn't know she was taking our relationship that serious..

I left the country & didn't talk to her for over a year. Then I found out she had my baby. I felt bad but also excited to see my child. I asked my parents to help me make things right with her family. Now, I'm sending money for my baby's food & things. But my baby's mother keeps asking for more money. I'm confused coz she's not like this. She never bothered me for money in my humble beginnings when, we were together but instead she was very supportive. But now I'm spending on a single baby like a man who is married with 6 children!

I don't understand what's happening but I've been so pi**ed of late. I believe his lady is using my baby to extort monies from me. Its been 3 yrs gone, she's added weight & looking fresh obviously, its bcoz of the monies I've been sending. She wasn't looking like this before i left for the states & she knows this. My baby is 4yrs old now & I've asked this lady to give my child to my parents but she's insisting on keeping my child, just so that she can be using my baby to steal from me, several family meetings have been held on the very issue but she keeps being stubborn..

Esther! i won't ague any further but i want the world & for my son to know incase you try to feed him with the usual lies that single mothers tell their baby concerning their biological father that, I'm not a bad father, that, i tried to be in his life but your greed & stubbornness chased me away! I'll still be here waiting & I'm giving you just 3 weeks to reconsider & take my baby to my parents home but if you don't then fine!!"

WHAT IS YOUR TAKE ON THIS.

the girl's respond loading

01/09/2024

I'm just becoming the better version of myself.
HAPPY NEW MONTH EVERYONE

31/08/2024

I JUST FEEL LIKE 😢 😭
PLS READ TILL END
"I'm an orphan. I lost my mom 2 minutes after birth the woman that you see here is my stepma.
My dad married her when I was 1 year old. She had a 2-year-old son. My dad died 4 years later. just 2 years after stepmom got pregnant for him & gave birth to my sister.

My dad's brothers took everything we had. We had to move to a new town. I was 5 yrs old. My stepmom took care of me, her son, & our baby sister. She made sure we went to school. She loves me even more than her own biological children. I didn't even know she wasn't my real mom until I was 19 when she opened up to me! I got pregnant at 20 & dropped out of school. The baby's father abandoned me with the pregnancy & fled. I wanted to have an abortion, but somehow my stepmom found out & warned me against it.

She took responsibilities, took care of me & my baby. Though i was very brilliant in school but bcoz of the financial crisis we were facing, I had given up on ever resuming school. When my baby was 2 yrs old, my stepmom said I should go back to school, she promised to take care of my baby while I studied. We didn't have much money, but she did everything she could & even sold most of her personal belongs to help me finish school. I knew School was the only way to escape suffering so i, made sure i stayed 100% focus on my studies & now glory be to God, I'm a graduate in chemical engineering! I came out as best student in my department & got a scholarship to study & work abroad. I drop tears of joy each time i think of my step mom. She's an amazing Woman & I'll never thank her enough

Dearest Stepmom, Thank you for loving & taking care of me since I was 1 yr old. You raised me like your own child, & I'm forever grateful. Your kindness, patience, & guidance have made me who I am today. I appreciate everything you've done for me. Thank you for being an amazing stepmom! i Pray that God should give you long life & bless me so i can take proper care of you & make you proud Mama🥰💖🙏

An Appreciation post to my step mother "