31/10/2025
My dearest sister,
You can choose your husband —
but your children cannot choose their father.
One day, those little hearts will look up to him,
learn from him,
and find in him their definition of love, patience, and strength.
So don’t just choose a man who looks good standing next to you,
choose a man who will look beautiful kneeling beside you in prayer. 🤍
Choose someone who fears Allah in private and in public.
Someone who lowers his gaze, guards his tongue,
and leads you not toward the dunya,
but toward Jannah.
Because marriage is not just a bond between two souls —
it’s the foundation of an ummah.
And the father you choose for your children
will shape the hearts that will one day shape the world.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
إِذَا جَاءَكُمْ مَنْ تَرْضَوْنَ دِينَهُ وَخُلُقَهُ فَزَوِّجُوهُ
“When someone with whose religion and character you are satisfied comes to you, marry him.”
— (Tirmidhi, 1084)
So, my sister,
don’t let loneliness rush you.
Don’t let looks deceive you.
And don’t let the dunya distract you.
Because the man you choose today
will become the father they call “Abi” tomorrow.
Let that name belong to someone who leads them to Allah. 🌙