13/02/2025
What advice can you give to such a woman?
"Please help me with advice, ladies. I am a very sad woman today. Two months ago, my husband came home late, but I didn’t hear him knocking on the door. The housemaid heard him and opened the door. I heard her bedroom door open because it makes a loud sound, and I thought she was going to the bathroom—only to realize she was actually opening the door for my husband. I was so shocked, wondering if my husband had been knocking and I didn’t hear him.
When I got to the bedroom door, I saw the housemaid coming from the bathroom, almost naked—remember, she was dressed like that when she went to open the door. I warned her never to open the door again because I would be the one to do it for my husband.
Now, last night, I was extremely tired. I have a four-month-old baby, and I was soothing the baby to sleep. I must have dozed off because I didn’t even realize when I fell asleep. My husband came home and called me six times, but I didn’t hear my phone. I also didn’t hear him knocking or calling. He then called the housemaid, but she didn’t pick up. That was at 11:15 PM.
Since no one responded, he went and knocked on the window so hard that I woke up. He usually knocks on the window when his phone is off, so I thought that was the case. When I opened the door, I stood there as usual, expecting a normal hug, but I was met with shouting— “Don’t you want me to come home?” and more accusations. I just stood there silently, not saying a word. I went to the bedroom, picked up my phone from the charger, and saw that he had actually called me multiple times between 11:09 PM and 11:34 PM.
I wanted to explain, but he was already furious, breathing fire. I didn’t say a word because I realized he was drunk, and we would only end up arguing.
In the morning, I left for work at 6 AM, while he leaves at 9 AM. At work, I texted him multiple apologies, and he responded, saying that the housemaid told him she knocked on our bedroom door, but I didn’t wake up. She also said she couldn’t open the door for him because she fears me.
He said hurtful things and is not remorseful at all. Now, I am contemplating leaving. Am I making a mistake? Keep in mind, I know he will ignore me for as long as he wants, and this is only my second year in marriage, but I already feel suffocated. He does not address our domestic issues, and now he is even dragging the housemaid into them.
What do you think, ladies? Please help me