02/12/2024
A m@n shares his reasons for choosing to marry a Senegalese womân instead of a Nigerian woman.
Odogwu Nwoke... my struggle is the reason I chose to marry a Senegalese woman. My problem started right after I landed in the United States. I was staying with a group of friends I met in Lagos. These guys had been here before me; one of them came years ago on the lottery. He would occasionally take me out with his circle of Nigerian women. My guy here is married but left his wife in Nigeria. I remember getting angry at him for leaving his wife in Nigeria; all he said was, "Baba, no worry, when the time is right, them go come." The other guy, via side talk, told me, "You want make the wife run the streets." My guy got angry and started talking in an angry tone, "Which kind rubbish be that?" I knew the game; no matter his anger, we all knew it was true. We all knew.
In that little circle were Nigerian girls; they refused to smile at me because I didn't have papers. I remember moving close to one, and she shut me down by saying, "You no go use me get paper." I was shocked. No, I just wanted to know you.
In that little circle were Nigerian girls; they 2/4 refused to smile at me because I didn't have papers. I remember moving close to one, and she shut me down by saying, "You no go use me get paper." I was shocked. No, I just wanted to know you.
She said, "Know you go kill you there." I was thrown off, thinking based on Naija things we could connect.
The rest of my self-esteem was rattled. But I was able to get cheered up by my roommates.
He said Nigerian women in America always think you are after them for papers.
I said, "You can't generalize." He said, "Ok o," and started laughing with, "Time go tell."
Bro, time did badly.
So I met ljeoma two months after the incident via my friend. I got her number and texted her to see if we could meet. The first thing she said
was, "Are you going to take me to the shopping mall to shop?" I was like, "Shopping mall?" She said, "Oh, are you new to the world? I mean,take me shopping and after that somewhere to eat?" I just dropped the call. I remember my guy calling me to say ljeoma said I was naive and that I should not ever call her. I moved on,started school, and was doing my thing. Then one day, one of our guys told us about a party happening downtown, which was on a Saturday. I joined and met Bisi. She seemed nice at first, but the minute she knew I was new to the United States, her attitude changed. "So, are you an American?" she asked. I said no. She said, "I'm an American, but anyway, I have to go in to join the party." I laughed because I knew the game. I had been I laughed because I knew the game. I had 4/4en here for over two years trying to date a Nigerian, and every time I was reminded that I didn't have papers: "You are trying to use me for papers; it's not me you are going to play that game with," meanwhile, I was just trying to hang out.
I was billed unnecessarily. Every time I made an attempt to hang out with a Nigerian woman, my four Nigerian roommates told me that Nigerian women in America are wahala. It's always, "Are you taking me shopping?" or requesting money via Cash App or asking, "What kind of car do you drive?"
I got frustrated one day, walked down to a nearby grocery store to get a roasted chicken. There, I met a Latina. She was so nice, loved my accent, and was very gentle with me. I was confused.