Modest Bliss

13/06/2024

Upon every reaction there is always an action

01/06/2024

UK TOP ONE PROBLEM:

Housing Crisis:

The UK is facing a significant housing crisis, with high property prices, a shortage of affordable housing, and increasing homelessness rates. Many people, especially young individuals and families, struggle to find suitable and affordable housing, leading to social issues and inequality across the country.

COULD THIS BE WRONG?

26/05/2024

Poverty is not the sole reason women cheat.
DNA TEST can prove it.💯

11/05/2024

YOUNG MEN IN MY CHURCH ARE MARRYING WOMEN FROM ANOTHER CHURCH 😭

This is a real-life account, not fiction. I invite you to contribute and share your thoughts on the storyline.

I joined my church after completing my youth service and relocating to another area within the same state. A few months later, I became actively involved in the choir. Over time, I noticed that many of the young men in the church were marrying women from outside the church. This raised my curiosity as these men seemed to get along well with the ladies within the church, who were also quite beautiful.

It became clearer to me when one of our youth executives, from a slightly above-average family background, was repeatedly turned down by several ladies in our church. They cited his lack of "swag" and his unimpressive sense of style as reasons. Eventually, he reluctantly married someone from outside the church.
Another instance involved a devout Christian brother who was often criticized for being overly religious, with some women expressing doubt about his romantic capabilities. He, too, eventually left the church to marry someone outside.
These incidents prompted the church to introduce a token of appreciation for couples who both belonged to the same church, hoping to encourage more intra-church marriages among the youth.

A similar situation happened to a friend of mine who was rejected by a church member due to a 10-year age gap. The woman felt she needed someone closer to her age for companionship. While her preference wasn't unreasonable, the way she spread the news was hurtful. She suggested that he should find someone his own age.

These examples are just a few among many such situations. I'm raising this issue here because there is a recent campaign by the same women in our church for the men to consider marrying within the church. Probably because news of these women turning down men for reasons known only to them has spread, and the women are now concerned about women from other churches and locations coming to marry their men.
While some men still marry within the church, it's usually because they meet the women's preferences or because they are running out of time due to their age.

My question is, are we facing similar challenges in our churches, villages, or communities? If so, why, and what could be the solution? It seems that over-familiarity might be a contributing factor to men being turned down by women within their immediate circles.
WHAT'S YOUR OPINION?

04/05/2024

When you used the escalator for the first time 😀

21/04/2024

FACT ABOUT UNHEALTHY MARRIAGE.💔
Friends

17/04/2024

IT WAS A TEST, BUT SHE FAILED

15/04/2024

What we want, we don't get, but what get, we don't want...

14/04/2024

This is a perfect example of why you need to belong to a union or association or community group or family group or old school set.
No One is an Island!
United, We stand!

13/04/2024

Don't throw stones in the market square because it might land on your mother's head.

05/04/2024

THE UNTOLD TRUTH ABOUT MARRIAGE

Marriage is sweet when you examine it from a far, of those who have successful marriage or the lovey-dovey of newlyweds, but when you enter into, you will discover that what is behind number six is more than number seven.

Many prepare so well for the romantic aspects of marriage, but very few groom themselves for the realities in marriage. Do you know that the hardest part of marriage plays a dominant role in marriage than the romantic moments?

However, what breaks marriage isn't the lack of romance, but the couple's inability to withstand the hardest part of marriage.

There are some hard things about marriage that you are not likely to be told, but I will only share 5 of them with you.

1. Staying faithful

It's easy to abstain from s*x as singles if you have not tasted how sweet s*x is, but it's very difficult to stay faithful in marriage when you are denied s*x for no just reason.

The temptation to commit adultery is greater than the temptation to fornicate as singles.

Because you now know how s*x taste, seduction would come from those who are willing to give you or have a fling with you. In some cases, when your spouse becomes cold on s*x matters, there are several others who want to give you a hot and sizzling s*x.

You need more discipline to stay faithful in marriage to your spouse emotionally, and s*xually especially in this age when cheating has become a norm.

If you have not been faithful to stay s*xually pure now that you are single, it will be very difficult for you to master it when you are married.

Marriage doesn't cure adultery, self control does!

2. Sexual Issues

See, it is wise that you keep yourself s*xually pure till marriage - purity in thoughts, action and word. All those who are deceiving you that who virginity epp only want to destroy you.

One of the hardest part about marriage which many cannot come by is on the issue of s*x. One partner is a novice while the other is an Emeritus professor in lo******ng; one has a high s*xual libido while the other can stay for months without it and still feel sane.

Virginity helps you to be s*xually discipline, it prevents you from undue and ungodly exposure to s*x that could either make you hate it with perfect hatred or make you a maniac in it.

3. Money matters

Since it's said that money answers all things, money also destroys many things. As money can spice up love in marriages, it can also ruin it.

What is your perception about money?

Can you pull your purse together or separately?
As a woman, do you have the warped mentality of my money is my money, but your money is our money?

As a man, are you ready to work and earn a living or you want to live on your wife's income while dictating how the money will be spent without bringing anything to the table?

Can you open up to your partner about your financial life without secretly building an estate in the village while you feed on his or her money like a parasite?

Until you two resolve this before marriage and in marriage, it is hard enough to crack the nut of your marital bliss.

4. Unmet expectations

If you have been dreaming of having her remain a slim shady, but eventually after pregnancy, she became a size 15, how would you cope?

If he had been the romantic and available man, but after marriage, the quest for green pasture took him miles away, can you survive this?

It is wise and better to prepare for the toughest part of marriage so that you can cope with them when they come, surely they will come. As much as you prepare for sunshine, don't forget to prepare for storms when they come before rain falls.

5. Handling differences

Whether you agree or not, handling differences is one of the leading causes of divorce in marriage. Many marriages fail due to irreconcilable differences.

How do you plan to reconcile your differences in marriage should they come?

If he presses the toothpaste from the middle, and she had been raised to be meticulous by pressing it neatly from the base, can you tolerate this?

If she likes the food cold or warm, and you prefer it hot with steaming heat, can you adjust?

These and many others are the toughest part of marriage that you must brace up for. Wedding is just a day or two event but marriage is a lifetime journey.

More than the excitement of the married life, more than the grandeur wedding ceremony, have you been transformed by the renewing of your mind to face any challenge in marriage when they come?

Delay in child bearing, loss of job, relocation, in law issues, financial crisis, trying times or spiritual issues may come; you need to be prepared for whichever one life throws at you so you don't chicken out when they come.

Marriage is haaaard, I'm not scaring you; it's just one of those truths you might not likely be told or you don't want to hear. Finding the right person to marry is hard, but staying married is the hardest in the face of life's realities.

As much as you are preparing for the romantic sides, brew your mind for the hardest part so you can stand having done all when the flood descend, when the rain falls and the wind beats upon your union.

02/04/2024

A healthy relationship doesn’t drag you down.
It inspires you to be better.💞

02/04/2024

02/04/2024

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