05/12/2025
Grief at Christmas and how to be Gentle With Yourself
Christmas can be a beautiful time of connection… but when you’ve lost someone you love, it can also feel heavy, confusing, or even lonely.
If this is you right now, please know: you’re not doing it wrong. Grief doesn’t follow the calendar, and it doesn’t look the same for everyone.
Some people feel waves of sadness.
Some feel numb.
Some feel moments of joy mixed with guilt.
Some want to keep traditions the same.
Others need everything to be different.
All of it is valid. All of it is normal.
There is no “right way” to grieve only your way.
💛 Ways to honour your loved one:
• Light a candle in their memory
• Hang a special decoration just for them
• Share a story about them with someone you trust
• Spend time doing something they loved
• Create a small ritual that brings you comfort
💛 Ways to soothe yourself:
• Give yourself permission to rest
• Step away from gatherings if you need space
• Take slow, grounding breaths
• Write your feelings down even the messy ones
• Reach out to someone who cares, even if it’s just to say “I’m struggling today”
If this season feels harder than usual, please remember:
You are allowed to feel what you feel. You are allowed to grieve and still find moments of peace. You are allowed to take care of you.
And if you need someone to talk to we are here. 💛