09/06/2017
- Violated via Jwaydan Moyine
"When a woman's essence has been violated, wounded, she becomes desperate for the child self. Longing to reclaim her innocence. Indeed, she becomes like a child as she returns inwards to the very centre of her being in which the wisdoms and the higher knowings belonging to the child-self reside. It is here that she may seek the restoration she needs. Temporarily, she will be stripped of her sexual power, robbed of her intuitive gifts, come to find that her creative forces are diminishing, her intrinsic abilities to connect with the natural and spiritual realms are dwindling, and her appetite, eagerness and curiosity to relish the world are beginning to lessen.
She will become scattered, unfocused, and it may likely feel as if somebody has dismantled her heart and her spirit leaving her to hopelessly stumble about the unknown while she attempts to collect the fragments and bind them back together.
She will yearn for a sense of purity, security, solitude, and a sacred space that is her's alone. She will cocoon herself off from the external world so that she may set to work within her own inner garden growing a variety of plants and flowers that will provide her with the medicine that will return her to life. It will be these potent entities that will tend to her wounds, plentiful in juices that are succulent and sweet, capable of allowing her to regain her full life-force and restore her to power so that she may once again engage with the world removed from her vulnerability, still fragile, but with an exterior that is less fractured and contains a greater capacity to provide her with the protection she must have if she is to remain unperturbed by the external.
When a woman has been violated or wounded you will know.
She will take herself far far away from the world and wish to be undisturbed by all, except few. She may take two years, five years, or ten to do the healing that is required, but she will stay however long it takes. She will be devoted to the process, she will search diligently, she will be rigorous in removing every outer influence that may disturb, delay or poison the healing process and in removing rigorously, she will make space for the voices belonging to her internal wounds to surface and speak, to be heard and tended to.
Every so often she may emerge to make contact with those who she is confident will have the sensitivity, the strength, the dependability and the delicacy to hold her and listen, offering only their tenderness, comfort and unconditional love. She will never respond, nor turn to those that lack such feeling, for she knows very well that this could be detrimental to her fragile condition and will undoubtedly send her plummeting back into the very shadows that she worked so devotedly to remove herself from.
But even with those that she will trust whole-heartedly, there will come a time when she decides to depart once again.
And when she does,
Let her go.
She knows what is needed.
And only she can provide such a remedy."
Artwork by Archan Nair
