Disclaimer - I haven’t read a woman’s magazine in years. But these type of conflicting messages can still be found in our society and on social media in particular. I often see false empowering messages directed at women from brands pretending to advocate self acceptance, then quickly followed by a guide for how to change yourself. They usually pray on our insecurities often about our looks, because Women’s self-worth has long been linked to our appearance, whether it is our size or our age. But it doesn’t have to be that way and we do have the power to change it. As consumers we have more power than we realise. We can choose which brands we shop from, what content we engage with and most importantly what conversations we have with other women in our lives. It’s very tempting to engage in that self hate rhetoric that we’ve been taught over generations, but we can also work towards breaking the cycle! How many times have you heard your girlfriend say something negative about their own bodies? Think about how you react in those moments. How do you speak about your own body in front of your children? Each of us have multiple opportunities to change the narrative and if we all took them, it could make a real difference. Are you willing to try?! ❤️🙏🏻
Expectations vs reality 🤪 how did we do?! WAIT FOR IT!
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Even from the grave 😜 #marriage #funny
Shoutout to all the moms out there!
The amount of times I’ve heard “your husband does lots around the house, you’re so lucky” and if I’m being totally honest, I remember saying it myself on more than one occasion! “He’s great, he does loads”, “I’m very lucky, I don’t even need to ask” as if Mike ever said that about me to anyone. “Oh yes, I’m so lucky, Tova knows how to use a dishwasher” I mean, common! it’s crazy when you think about it. How did the bar drop SO LOW that we feel we are lucky if our partners put a load of laundry on or do the school run without us asking? Isn’t that what being a responsible and capable adult is? Isn’t it basic? Don’t get me wrong, I’m happy he does all of it, and I appreciate it, but what makes me lucky is being with him because of his great personality, how funny he is and how he makes me feel, NOT because he hoovers (yes, he also hoovers). And I don’t see anyone handing out medals to women for doing the house work or being parents with everything that comes with that so there is no reason to do it for men. Unless our expectations from then are SO low that we faint if they manage to workout the dishwasher or spend an hour with their own children. That should be a given, the absolute base. And no, it has NOTHING to do with money. It does have to do with TIME and if you’re not sure what I mean head over to my stories to find out, but the bottom line is - don’t let anyone convince you that they have the right to do less than you simple because they earn more money than you do. It’s BS and an excuse. And no, we should not be “grateful” because things could be worse. You know why? Because things can also be better ❤️ #love #women #doublestandards
Nick Fuentes, a nationalist podcaster, promoted the phrase “your body, my choice” on November 5 on X, a post that has since had over 80 million views. The phrase, alongside a video of him repeating this statement has been circulating online and has evolved over the past few days into a disturbing trend whereby (some) male users are threatening women and girls with SA. Im not sharing his stupid video because people like him do not deserve the platform. Instead I’d like to highlight that while some men are using this moment to intimidate women, more men and using this moment to support women and this should be the focus. The online world is not the real world and often the loudest most negative voices are the ones heard. Don’t fall into that trap. It’s an echo chamber, the algorithm loves drama. So I’m sharing a few videos from men who do not agree with Nick’s approach to balance things out. I will say this though - the less time you spend on social media the better! And My suggestion to parents in particular: talk to your kids especially if they are on social media and use this moment as an educational opportunity to discuss respect, consent, boundaries and also how social media might be influencing their opinions and why it’s important to take a break.
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I'm just a regular girl trying to workout ;-) #nailedit Who remebers this one?!
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Stop giving men microphones 😜 i’ve seen all the tweets over the past couple of days from all the toddler men who are acting like a pack of unleashed animal and to be quite frank I’m not sharing any of it intentionally. This song sums everything that I think up more perfectly than anything else and I’m so grateful for the brilliant @sarahhesterross for introducing it into the world. None of them deserve our attention ladies. The only reason some men are currently acting they way they are is because they realise that no matter how hard they try or what they do, they will never ever be able to understand, capture or measure up to our female power which has for generations scared the sh*t out of them. Pathetic, unworthy of our attention, small minded, lame, nobodies who are not even worth mentioning them by name. Stop giving them microphone, instead shine light on the amazing brilliant women out there who are kicking ass. And if you can and when it’s deserved - hire women, promote women, invest in women, vote for women. ❤️💪🏻 #love
Because cake is for life! 😜 But on a serious note, the pressure to lose weight is nothing new, though it has shifted over the years. Today, people often avoid saying they mean “weight loss” directly, hiding it instead behind the idea of “being healthy.” Weight loss pills have become a popular and tempting option for anyone who has struggled to shed pounds or keep them off—and I understand why. As someone who once desperately wanted to fit a certain size, I would have done anything to achieve it, even starve myself (and I did).But putting health aside, I wonder if we’ve actually addressed the real issue here. The fact is, we still believe that slim is beautiful. That slim is worthy. That slim is how we should be if we want to be loved. That’s where the real pressure comes from. The number on the label is just a symptom; the real issue is what we associate with that number.I’m not here to judge anyone—I get it. And I’m certainly not here to promote “unhealthy habits”. But in my 49 years, I’ve learned that while eating cake all day, every day isn’t the best idea, having a slice now and then is perfectly fine. And I also know that self-acceptance is probably the healthiest habit of all, far more than starving ourselves or taking pills to get thin.Sometimes changing the outside does help us love ourselves a little more, but sometimes it doesn’t—because the things we don’t like about ourselves often have nothing to do with size. So, yes, be healthy, be any size you’re comfortable with, eat cake, and whatever you do, don’t stress too much about what others think of you. I don’t know a lot, but this much I know for sure: at the end, just before we go, there’s no way in the world we’ll be thinking about what dress size we fit into.
