10/11/2024
WEEKLY WELLBEING: THE POWER OF COMPASSION - 🤍
Report by Duncan Williams for CityLife magazine
Compassion is celebrated across cultures and religious traditions as one of humanity's highest virtues. Although ambition, achievement, and self-reliance are frequently prized above this essential quality, compassion remains a quiet yet transformative force, shaping the lives of both those who offer it and those who receive it.
The Dalai Lama once expressed a simple yet profound truth: “If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” These words reveal a striking insight - kindness benefits not only others but also ourselves. In practising kindness, we foster a more empathetic world while also nourishing our own hearts and souls.
True kindness begins with the self. Many think of it as an outward expression, especially directed toward those in distress, but it often starts with a friendly attitude towards ourselves - a sense of self-acceptance and gentle self-regard. When we learn to be patient and understanding with ourselves, despite our imperfections, we lay a foundation for genuine care toward others. Self-compassion is essential; if we judge ourselves harshly or resist accepting our own humanity, we may unintentionally carry that same rigidity into our interactions. By fostering warmth toward ourselves, it becomes natural to extend that same gentleness to others.
There’s a common misconception that this virtue is only needed in times of visible suffering. While it certainly shines brightest during hardship, it doesn’t require a crisis to emerge. It is a mindset - a way of relating to others with openness, kindness, and generosity. This outlook allows us to see others without judgment or expectation and to be present for them, even if there is no problem to solve. Being compassionate isn’t about fixing others’ struggles; it simply invites us to offer a calming and trusting presence.
Although compassion is part of our nature, it can sometimes feel distant, especially if we’ve grown guarded due to pain, disappointment, or cynicism. During such times, we may feel disconnected, even detached from the ability to empathise with others. Yet, even in these moments, it remains within reach. Reconnecting with it often begins with small acts - a warm smile, a listening ear, or a few words of encouragement. These gestures may seem insignificant, yet they have the power to gently bridge the distance between us and others.
As we practise this openness, it grows stronger, like a muscle. With time, it becomes easier to approach the world with an open heart, even in the face of challenges. In embracing compassion, we are reminded of our shared humanity, rediscovering that, despite our differences, we all seek understanding, kindness, and connection. Ultimately, compassion is more than a virtue - it’s a quiet strength, one that transforms not only how we see others but how we see ourselves and the world around us.